In my culture the bridal party has to do about two dances at the wedding reception, and for the past 2 months we have been meeting up some Saturdays to practice the dance moves. The guy who was helping us with the choreography was a handsome, spiritual and funny guy. Anyway I thought he could be interested in me, he seemed really friendly, giving me extra attention but we never exchanged numbers or anything like that. So saturday the wedding came and everything was great. It was a fun, beautiful night. At the end of it my cousin and I are in a car together and he calls her. And then she tells me she met this guy so-and-so and we joke lightly and move on. Anyway later on, alone in the car i just start getting in my feels on some what is wrong with me tip. Am i not pretty enough, am i lame or too silly. Why would he seem interested in me but not be interested enough to do something about it, he met my cousin that night but had known me for about 2 months.. and as my pity party was deepening. This thought popped into my head.. If someone doesnt see me, they dont have the eyes to see. And that's okay. Someone elses personal preference has nothing to do with my value as a person. And I just felt really proud of my brain in that moment. Cos sometimes it seems like I dont have my own back and I just let myself wallow so it's good noticing theres a mental change taking place. So I thought I'll create a thread for those mental battles that we win, no matter how small. A thread where we can share thoughs moments where something happens and instead of just letting thoughs self defeating negative thoughts consume us, we cause ourselves to think more positively/realistically. Maybe if we share thoughs instances outloud we will create more of them?.. A thread to celebrate the little wins that go on in the corridors of our minds.