THE LACK OF A GIRLFRIEND IS WHY IM ADDICTED TO PORN AND MASTURBATION

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by LonerWolf, Jan 31, 2019.

  1. ssha6451

    ssha6451 Fapstronaut

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    I would say don't aim to fall in love. Aim to improve yourself and be the best version of yourself. Love will come naturally. There are too many people who try to force these things and it never works.

    Imagine a person who is desperate to fall in love who sits in front of their computer all day playing video games or watching TV. They go on dates and everytime are trying to force the other person to like them. Compare this to someone who goes to the gym, studies in the library, is part of a social sports team or goes hiking as part of a group. You'll be constantly interacting with people and will eventually find someone who shares similar ideas to you.
     
  2. Shyguy96

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    It is different for everyone. However, one should not result to PMO because one does not have a partner. Reason being if one gets to addicted to artificial stimuli, then one will no longer feel much with a partner. This concept can also be described via higher than normal dopamine levels.
     
  3. geekyguy

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    I definitely feel the pain. I am 21 years old and kinda feel stressed out all the time.I have always wanted to do bigger things in life and sometimes getting through the daily grind of meeting the expectations of an orthodox society (while still keeping my vision alive) takes a toll on my mental health and body and to. Fap seems to be the only outlet. I do not like to share things with my parents as people of their generation are always trying to draw conclusions and judgements.I always wish that I had a girlfriend and we could help each other through low points in life.People may think that I am acting selfish, but I wish to make a difference to other people’s lives as well and would want to help her reach new heights.
     
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  4. justafriend

    justafriend Fapstronaut

    Respectfully, might I suggest weight-training and cardio? For a multitude of benefits to body, mind, and spirit?

    It would do wonders for your self-confidence and self-discipline, provide a means/venue to socialize, a healthy outlet for emotions and transmutation.
     
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  5. Fractured Mindset

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    College is a much better place than high school to meet people. I can't vouch for university experience yet, but with community college there is no grade dominance- each person in each class will be at a different point in their education than you, Age doesn't determine who you befriend, you actually get legitimate free time between classes (for homework or social activities), There's much less filters and regulations in place, And most importantly, you don't have to be stuck with a bunch of people who don't aspire to anything and only mold themselves to be carbon copies of each other.

    I wish I could have quit porn in high school. I wish I had at least had a girlfriend in high school despite my having zero chance with the few girls I wanted. I look back at high school me and wish I knew what was going on with myself. High school is painfully superficial, but soon enough you will be able to leave it all behind.
     
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  6. motion2082

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    I think the fact is men can't act out their sexual fantasies without women rejecting them and making them feel like sickos.
     
  7. Infrasapiens

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    It depends how "fantastic" the fantasy is. There are guys who are into really really weird things.
     
  8. Mordobarn

    Mordobarn Fapstronaut

    Women too! Although, from what I can tell, there are usually more men than women with fetishes.
     
  9. Infrasapiens

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    Men and women have fetishes equally, but men are a bit more public about it. Also most men got their fetishes from watching pornography so it isn't strange than most women see men's fantasies as weird.
     
  10. Loving Loveless

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    I do not have a gf currently... and its not a real reason. What do you think? You get a gf and PMO goes away because you will be sexually active with here?

    Glad you do not have a gf yet, because you do not understand that ugres a strong. And to fill that gap created by limited S, you will go for PMO anyway.

    It's not an excuse, its not a justification.

    Admit you are weak, yes. Then become stronger...

    Believe me, girls come after you today, we no longer have to go find them...
     
  11. The Unfadeable

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    Nah. People who use this site seem to disregard all this great information and insist that porn is the actual problem. Porn is not why you don't have a girlfriend. Porn is just a symptom and a crutch for lack of confidence, social skills or some other deeper issue youre not dealing with. Getting a girl friend won't magically solve these problems either cause youre gonna use her a a crutch just like porn and have some unhealthy attachment to her. Getting rid of porn will help you out tremendously but you need to learn to assess you shortcomings, self image and mental health if you want to be a better man. Once you do that, youll probably have more success with quitting porn and more success with women. If you quit drinking that Vegan Coo-Aid that will probably do wonders for you.
     
  12. whoucallinpinhead

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    I’ve never related to something so much
     
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  13. Freedom_from_PMO

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    1. Hit the gym and eat less calories.
    2. Loneliness is a factor for porn addiction, but you need to realise that porn is not going to help your loneliness, it is just a cope.
     
  14. pfb2019

    pfb2019 Fapstronaut

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    Agree 100%
     
  15. same person, different face
     

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