We already busted the myths of free sex access and male victimhood in Lie pt. 1 and Lie pt. 2. But to deliver the KO punch we have to look at where this confusion started. How did we arrive at a place where smart men could be fooled so easily about sex? What if I told you it all started with one very famous man, whose true life story is not known? You may wonder how we could get something like that wrong, in this age of mass media and zero privacy. Well, it's possible. For example, I want to tell you a totally fictional tale about a boy called "Lou." Lou was an unattractive and shy boy. He was obsessed with cartoons and clay figurines and had poor social skills, barely responding to his own name. In our time he would probably have been diagnosed with autism. Lou's mother, a religious and strict person, had him evaluated by a psychologist. This psychologist told her it was all her fault that Lou was awkward. That young Lou had a high IQ, but he needed more female warmth. Feeling guilty about it and not knowing what else to do, she accepted the psychologist's ideas. She bought Lou some sex books and pin-up posters to interest him in females. But the books and pictures weren't enough. Lou was still awkward, and stayed a virgin until age 22. In college, things seemed to turn around for Lou. He got engaged to a childhood friend. He loved his fiancee so much that he saved himself for marriage to her. When he came back from a trip one time, she confessed that she cheated on him with multiple other men. He was devastated. However, he married her anyway. People assumed that Lou forgave her that infidelity, but in reality, he made a secret "arrangement" with his wife. He convinced her to allow him to cheat in the marriage because of what she did. Fair's fair, right? But she didn't imagine how far he would take it. After a while, Lou decided to start a magazine. The magazine would be called "Good Times" and show all the girls and fun he was having. He went to his mother to ask for a loan for $1,000. His mother, feeling somewhat guilty for Lou's abnormal childhood, reluctantly agreed. All she wanted was for Lou to be happy, after all. As his magazine kicked off, his lifestyle of glamorous parties and risky sex kept getting more and more outrageous. Lou was out of control. Lou and his wife lived like this for 10 years. During this time, Lou used Good Times to push a new message of sexuality-- to convince the men of the country that you CAN have your cake and eat it, too. You, too, can have a party lifestyle and run through women like water, while each night going back to rest easy with your American pie wife and American pie children, and hanging out with your American pie friends at your American pie lodge. Meanwhile, his wife suffered terribly and eventually found the nerve to leave him. When all this came out, the men and women of the country realized the deception that had taken place. They revolted in anger against Lou, and demanded to the government that his magazine be shut down. But it was too late. Lou had made friends in powerful places. Lou was invincible. Those new friends kept Lou's magazine alive, covered up all the scandals, and kept pumping his "Good Times" propaganda. Anyone who criticized "Good Times" was silenced or mocked relentlessly. Thanks to the new friends, Lou had complete freedom and a lot more money. His Good Times empire supported him completely. He did not have to manipulate anymore. He did not have to hide behind an "American Pie" life anymore. In fact, his friends were so powerful that they defined what American Pie meant. American Pie was Good Times now. So, he found it much easier to reach the next generation. All he had to do was keep quiet, wear fancy clothes, and smile for the camera. The new friends bombarded the youth with "Good Times" imagery of parties, one-night stands, and free love, so much so that these ideas changed the culture of society. These youngsters grew up expecting virtual sex instead of real romance and family, and when the internet arrived, they embraced this brave new world without hesitation. There was no shyness or shame anymore. It was a generation under the spell of Good Times. One day Lou looked at his Good Times world and felt a twinge of shame and regret. Lou didn't want to destroy the foundation of society-- he really just wanted to have a good time. Even though his magazine had raised a new generation, he didn't understand the youth. Their thoughts and feelings were alien and foreign to him. They didn't share the same ideals he had of family, society, and entrepreneurship. They didn't work hard or have ambitions like him, or make the home and raise children like his longsuffering ex-wife. They were just floating in the wind. They actually believed in Good Times -- he just pretended to. But Lou dared not speak a word against Good Times. Because he himself was addicted, too...
