The Lord of the Rings Challenge

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by RiseToGreatness, Sep 22, 2019.

Should the Thread Title be extended?

Poll closed Jun 21, 2020.
  1. No, leave like that: "The Lord of the Rings Challenge"

    18 vote(s)
    54.5%
  2. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Fellowship of Nofap"

    15 vote(s)
    45.5%
  3. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: Rising Fellowship of Eärendil"

    0 vote(s)
    0.0%
  4. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Journey to Mount Doom"

    5 vote(s)
    15.2%
  5. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Quest of the Ring-bearer"

    6 vote(s)
    18.2%
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  1. Talz

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    What type of workouts are you doing? You don't find daily to be too much? I might change my workout to be daily again. I was doing daily push-ups for awhile and saw very big and clear gains even without my diet being very good and honestly under eating. I have thought about going back to daily push-ups with daily leg raises and squats and some pull-ups at the park when I can do them.
     
  2. Talz

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    I think I should attempt to go back to an earlier schedule again possibly. I think I felt a bit better and more on point when I was doing that. I keep wanting to gradually sleep in more and more. Today I slept in till like 2pm. I didn't have anything to do and I was absolutely exhausted from the previous day, so that was my excuse to ignore the alarm.

    I was on a schedule of roughly 8am to 11pm before and while I didn't always stick to it perfectly, it was working well for me during my reboot. I have convinced myself since my big relapse to undo a lot of the habits I built. I'm going to sacrifice sleep tonight and try to get up at 8 again and resume daily workouts even if they're small.
     
  3. MellotronScratch

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    Is impressive how much I have failed in my own bored and lazy hours. Never forget why you're fighting to defeat this addiction and endless cycle.
     
  4. Rubzi

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    Day 9 - Uruk-Hai

    Another night of urges but said NO to myself and rested
     
  5. determined99

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    Day 3, orc. No urges since day 0.
     
  6. modern milarepa

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    487 days high king
    556 days semen retention
     
  7. Vanquisher12

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  8. Chi405

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  9. ListenPaul

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    I don't think boredom is the problem here. The question is, how much do you want to finish this challenge? If the relapse happens in several minutes, maybe your determination is really low at the moment? Check it. :)
     
  10. i89rt5

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    You can do it, just like last time when you were on a trip
     
  11. Mathman1994

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    Thank you, it's good to be back. Honestly, I needed a break from the forums. I needed to figure out who I was without NoFap. I did like what I found for the most part, and I realized I had been defining myself in terms of my relationship with NoFap and not with my relationship with myself. We need others to connect, but I needed to know who I was without all of you. That is not to say I do not appreciate all of you because I do, but when you spend your life trying to please other people (which I was doing with all of you), and not enough time engaging with yourself and your life with and without PMO, you tend to lose your sense of sense. I met an Australian pornography recovery coach who helped me find myself. He had an interesting philosophy that was about understanding why we PMO and not about quitting PMO. The end result is the same, we quit, but his approach allowed for viewing within certain constraints, and MO was okay. If you ask people who have worked with him, most no longer think about pornography, and when they see it they thing "meh, I am bored" and they move on. I made it 18 days no P (though with a couple MO sessions, and I find I was bored). So what changed? Well life got hectic and stressful, and I turned to my old standby. However, that changes now. I am not quitting PMO to quit PMO, I am quitting PMO because my life has so much more value to it.

    Best,
    Mathman1994
     
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  12. Mathman1994

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    Day 2 - Orc

    I got up at 5am this morning like I had been promising myself I would do for the last few months and I am now sitting in my office writing this while no one else is here. I have not had the urge to view or touch myself, and in my trigger analysis of fantasies, I realized in writing about just one minor fantasy that involves my pornography tastes on occasion, I have a pretty messed up mind. The fantasy is fairly benign, but the underlying cause is messed up. My fantasy has implications in my standard life without pornography because I sometimes want to be a rule breaker, and to sabotage things and people, and then to swoop in and fix the problems I caused. It is pretty messed up, and I got that all from reflecting on pornography that has no seeming connection to that desire. Now I think that comes from me being very studious all of my life and to be as they would say in D&D, lawful good. I like rules and generosity, but sometimes, I want to be chaotic and to cause trouble. While that is not something I would ever to do, I realized that pornography even if completely benign (as much as pornography can be benign that is), allows my subconscious to break the rules. I grew up in a very open minded household, but I was very rigid. My parents warned against pornography as much as they could in the growing internet age, however, it was me who enforced the ultra puritan values on myself. When you grow up have ultra puritan values, you tend to feel repressed which leads to acting out. I acted out in secret for years with pornography, and to me, it was an act of rebellion, not against my parents, but against my own draconian rules. Since I always held high expectations and self-imposed rules for myself, sometimes the pressure gets too much and I fantasize about being chaotic evil and causing trouble. A non-pornography related fantasy that involves me being chaotic evil, is that I fantasize about being a Sith Lord from Star Wars who conquers the world to bring peace. Now for those who know about the Sith, they tend to use violence to achieve their ends. I am a pacifist in life, but in my dreams I am a Sith Lord who destroys the world and then rebuilds it into a utopia. I bring chaos and destruction, and then I act as the savior. Now this is all a fantasy, but I realize that there is a lot of things at play in my subconscious and I would not have connected the pieces if it were not for analyzing a type of pornography I view on rare occasions. So already my trigger analysis is going well.

    In other news, I am journaling again writing at least three accomplishments of the day, three goals for the next day, three gratitudes, three blessings I wish to give to people, and anything I could improve. It is surprising how by focusing on just the good and not PMO recovery in my journal, I feel so much happier when I go to bed. I also have had problems with not showering for a few days at a time, but NNN will be my new life start with me getting up at 5am everyday and showering everyday. Soon, I want to start language practice again everyday in German and in Spanish.

    Anyway, hope you all have a stellar day (night)!
    Best,
    Mathman1994
     
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  13. Bucketo

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    Day 14 - Uruk Hai

    Was out in the field for work again yesterday. I feel dog tired right now. I liked hanging out with my coworker, but he can work for a lot longer than me without needing a break, and I was struggling to keep up. It was cloudy and rainy. The rain didn’t start until the afternoon, and it got a lot colder after that. Had really good ramen last night to warm up. I’ve been getting back into D&D recently, I worked on some concepts for characters last night (literally “monk” mode lol). Video games used to be my main hobby, but I just don’t want to play them right now. They take up too much time and energy, and other things (making characters, reading books) feel more enjoyable. I worked out again before bed.

    That is really insightful, Mathman. Don’t focus on quitting PMO as much, but more on what your life can be without it. And don’t live to please others. You have to want to quit for your own sake (in addition to those you love, God, etc) or it won’t be sustainable over a long period. I’ve noticed these things in myself, thank you for vocalizing them.
     
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  14. MyGodandMyAll27

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  15. newbobido

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    Day 2

    Literally spent the entire day looking at nude / sexual content. My new job is just weird:(.

    But it’s funny how unerotic is seeing a hundred slides of what kind of stuff can’t be on Facebook together with 20 other strangers.
     
  16. 12ove

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    Day 16, trod on!
     
  17. Akeakua

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    Day 8. Now only to turn that on its side.
     
  18. RiseToGreatness

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    Start with the basics bro. if you´re chasing or engaging in digital lust (no matter what form it takes) the addiction is in command. so snap out of it, just desengage from it. the sneaky part is sometimes fishing is so smooth it doesn´t feel like we´re slipping. so the rule is simple: if you´re interacting with something sexy, then you´re fishing. and fishing will lead to a relapse. period. so stop it as soon as you detect it.

    plus, in the first weeks autopilot is very strong so make sure you´re safe from sensitive situations. make sure you´re following your triggers prevention plan to the max.

    i hope this helps :)
     
  19. RiseToGreatness

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    Congratulations bro. You´re a Hobbit now!! :) Keep going!!!
     
  20. RiseToGreatness

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    yeah, paid sex is not advisable bro. because it actually envolves seeing sex as a commodity and womans as objects. and if it´s not good for the average man, it´s even less good for rebooters.

    anyway, it seems you didn´t like the experience, so i guess you won´t repeating it in the near future ;).

    Keep going bro, you´re doing great!! :)
     

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