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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by RiseToGreatness, Sep 22, 2019.
Im in again 2 days
2nd time will be the charm
well, no, that´s not a relapse. but by engaging in a sexual fantasy that derives directly from a porn category, what you´re doing is boosting the addiction even more. basically you brought the addiction to a new level. you´re not rewiring the brain and now you can be closer than before to use porn, since prostitution and porn are just basically diferents types of lust.
very good brother. the real challenge is maintaining that discipline, no matter what. so make a real commitment to follow that guidelines everyday, even if you´re in day 100....
Very good brother . You´ve passed the Ford of Bruinen safe and sound. Keep going!!!
Very good bro. Welcome!!!! Here´s what lies ahead. So far you´ve arrived at Bree. Let´s go brave hobbit!!!
Happy birthday brother!!! yeah, let´s adopt nofap for the rest of our lifes. porn is nothing but misery. Let´s go!!!
check in 71/72 days brothers
here´s an interesting excerpt from the book i´m reading "rebooting as the best remedy" from nofap legend Soaring Eagle. Have a nice day
"The final destination of rebooting
The purpose of rebooting is not to make you into a monk but to make you in control of your owndesires and increase the cultivation of ethics for the individual. The (Chinese) rebootingcommunity promotes the view of no sex before marriage, sex in moderation after marriage, this is the correct path. This point of view is in line with the thoughts of TCM (traditional chinese medicine).
The 10 stages of rebooting
Stage 1: This is when we realize that masturbation is affecting our healthy negatively and we have a thought about quitting. However, after reading about the harmlessness theories of masturbation we are not so determined anymore, we think that masturbation in moderation should do us no harm. This is the very initial stage of rebooting which is characterized by ignorance and naivety. The result: failure!
Stage 2: We gain a small understanding of the harmful effects of masturbation, but not athorough understanding. The result: failure!
Stage 3: We begin to study other peoples’ experience of rebooting and we try to break our
rebooting record. Although we have managed to set a new record on the number of rebooting days we are still unable to break out of the vicious cycle. The result: failure!
Stage 4: This is the confusion stage, after numerous failures, we start to doubt ourselves. At this stage, we are not putting in enough of a fight, no fight no victory! The result: failure.
Stage 5: Our body gives out signals once again and it’s clear that our health has deteriorated.
Once again we make up our minds to quit and rely helplessly on the brute force method without learning about the correct methods. The result: failure.
Stage 6: We begin to see the harmlessness theory for what it is, that it only works to trick the
“children”. This is when we experience a breakthrough in our way of thinking but we
still fail to understand why we are unable to quit masturbation. The result: failure.
Stage 7: This is the stage of understanding, gained from reading vast amounts of rebooting articles, we begin to acknowledge spiritual teachings (such as Buddhism) which helps to increase our determination tremendously, we break the 100-day streak. The result: still failure.
Stage 8: The thorough cleansing stage, we are starting to cleanse ourselves both consciouslyand unconsciously. Once this idea has entered our subconscious we easily break the 200-daybarrier. There may come one day when we are browsing the internet and have our guard downor we have been slack in our rebooting studies, we therefore stumble near the finishing line. Theresult: still failure.
Stage 9: We are almost there now and have become even more careful, our understanding takes on another level. We are no longer affected by dirty thoughts, what we see do not enter our intentions, what other people sees and like we react with caution. We are steady in ourheart even amidst rough winds of thoughts. We have discarded the habit of masturbation altogether.
Stage 10: “Nothing to begin with, how can nothing stir the dust”. We have come to the highest stage where all things returns to simplicity, just as the “sweeping monk” from Jin Yong’s martial art novels. Great skill is hidden in plain site, this is only achieved by the Master.
Tips: Everyone should be able to find their current stage in rebooting, just like in video games we have our levels, once we have reached that level success will come. If our level of understanding is not there we will have a hard time to quit masturbation, for a master there is no difficulty, while mastery is difficult to achieve for a layman. Hopefully, everyone will continue to study rebooting articles, the day when we find our “aha” moment is the day when we can walk away from masturbation for good. For the few bright people with keen minds, they are able to skip over stages just as a bright student is able to skip grades and the poor student will need to remain in the same grade"
As of today around 1pm, I am at Day 0 MO again. Nonetheless, I still have stayed P-free since 3 February and I intend to stay that way.
Today im fine. I was cheerful. I'm gonna do this day by day and I will stick to my plan forever.
Good to hear! Day 10 down! The tougher the day, the harder the urges hit. Still I'm going tall!
Nice, very important post, thanks for sharing!
Day 19. Some small urges coming up but I now recognize them quickly and just get up and do something on my feet. Takes my mind off PMO and makes me more productive too so win-win. Let's do this brothers!
Day 11, or A1, or 1011 depending on your preferred base. I wish everyone on this forum a speedy recovery.
A footnote, my last relapse was my first (and definitely last) "binge" relapse and I've recently noticed the withdrawals and side effects of PMO usage much more pronounced and long-lasting this streak. I've got a fair bit of acne again and a mild amount of social anxiety occasionally returns. It's nothing major, more like an echo of my former self during chronic, daily PMO, but honestly compared to the effects of a single slip-up followed by getting back on the bandwagon it's pretty scary.
Day 1 completed
Day 21. The ring was very heavy this morning. I almost succumbed to it's lustful temptations. Luckily I was able to resist and my journey towards Mount Doom continues as planned.
To minas morgul..
Day 26 done
Day 11 down! I once again thought about what led to the last relapses and I came to the point that it was always an inbalance of my life.
I always push myself in one or two sections of my life, but never tried to reach a balance between them.
So for example I pushed myself in workout and job, but neglected the importance of diet, sleep, recovery and social stuff. This led to exhausting after a week or two and so to procrastination to bad feelings and so finally to a relapse.
I have to figure out a way to balance the sections in my life:
I guess a first step has to be a schedule from week to day to hour (makro to mikro). Improvement, in my humble opinion, is not pushing myself to do more work and so on, but to reach an state where I don't need to push me anymore. Anyway, I have to think about that once more and set some goals, otherwise nothing happens...
So first goal has to be in section sleep:
Get at least 7.5 to 8.5 hours of sleep, means going to bed at around 10pm and get up at 6am