The Lord of the Rings Challenge

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by RiseToGreatness, Sep 22, 2019.

Should the Thread Title be extended?

Poll closed Jun 21, 2020.
  1. No, leave like that: "The Lord of the Rings Challenge"

    18 vote(s)
    54.5%
  2. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Fellowship of Nofap"

    15 vote(s)
    45.5%
  3. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: Rising Fellowship of Eärendil"

    0 vote(s)
    0.0%
  4. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Journey to Mount Doom"

    5 vote(s)
    15.2%
  5. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Quest of the Ring-bearer"

    6 vote(s)
    18.2%
Multiple votes are allowed.
  1. Redemptionisrequired

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    My brothers, you both were victims of complacency. You've been on this journey for a long time, with great success may I add. The momentary weakness you felt was your temptation demon, let's call it your ring, it has taken its opportunity to strike. The great news is, you both stopped yourself. Which is proof of your efforts and trained awareness, so well done on that front! As I mention to Christoph, take a day or two off. Meditate, rekindle what started you along this journey. Reinforce your why, review your notes and review the harms of PMO. Remember what you perceived before you started. Take heart, it is not today that you fall, today you've both learned a valuable lesson. The valuable lesson of complacency and the value of sharpening your tools as you keep progressing on your journey.

    Stand my brothers!
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    This may help.
     
  2. til_im_free

    til_im_free Fapstronaut

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    Day 6

    Today I did the last test of the national exam to apply to a university. Last week I relapsed as I arrived home. Today it was different. I celebrated the ending of this cycle with my family and relaxed a bit. Felt horny, though, but I'm not gonna surrender like 7 days ago. Now I'm going to have an one-week vacation and then I'll be back to studying, since there are other exams scheduled for february 2022.
     
  3. MS PBH

    MS PBH Fapstronaut

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  4. LuckyMan

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    Thanks for this. Great stuff to think about and get ready for future challenges.
     
  5. Day 2 complete.

    My willpower is always quite high right after a relapse, as if I'm determined to make up for the fall; this has been helpful for denying the chaser effect urges. The next couple days will be more of a test. I'm back at seminary after Thanksgiving break, so final exams for the semester will be coming up in about two weeks, but those don't worry me very much. Fantasizing has not been a big problem for me lately, so as long as I can be careful with my phone use I should be in a good position.

    St. Therese of Lisieux, pray for us!
     
  6. CALM IN SUFFERING

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    Day 0.

    I didn’t masturbate, I didn’t watch actual porn, but I did ejaculate while looking at butts with underwear, the view was enough for me to get too excited. But I was looking at sexy non porn images for a week maybe and I was aware of of the consenquenses.

    The things I found in the old testament makes me doubt my faith, I had fights with my wife and I have something like a skin fungus in my head from BJJ and all of this is disbalancing me and my routine. I am a mess. I will try prioritizing my routine and reboot.
     
  7. Talz

    Talz Fapstronaut

    Day 2

    Here we are at the end of a long work day. I'm super exhausted and have to go do it all over again early tomorrow morning. After that I get a good stretch of days off though. I've been talking to a girl there a bit more. We have a lot of beliefs in common. I should try to take my mind elsewhere, but I kind of like her. I just wonder if she likes me I guess. Kind of pathetic that I need the validation. I'm just going to try and interact normally.

    Definitely got some urges right now. Feels like something is missing... And I know what that is!

    I'll manage, goodnight.
     
  8. PeaceOnEarth108

    PeaceOnEarth108 Fapstronaut

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    1 day >> Orc (The spell of porn is strong in me)

    I guess I'm bipolar (to a certain degree, as is everyone). So here is how to deal with it:
    1. Realize in which phase you're in
    2a. (if manic) Do something smart
    2b. (if depressive) Don't do something stupid
    3. Try to understand why you feel the way you feel right now

    @crazyhorse11 that is some awesome stuff, thanks for sharing!
    @Redemptionisrequired thank you, your words are very encouraging
     
    Last edited: Nov 29, 2021
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  9. HE^MAN

    HE^MAN NoFap Moderator
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    Day 498
    Thanks brothers i will keep my emotions under control.
    Coming this far and relapsing is not an option now.
     
  10. Prophet Moonstruck

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    Day 81! The ghosts of yesterday still try to get at me since the time I thought I was going to have for myself, quickly devolved into 0 due to a birthday party and it's subsequent plans. I was on a roll with inspiration, but due to all the cake and pizza and everything, today feels quite slow and a little disturbed. My mission today, is to be focused on the reactions of the body as it tries to bring stress into the future. I noticed even urges trying to take a hold of me, but a cold shower is imminent after this update.
    Have a great day!
     
  11. newbobido

    newbobido Fapstronaut

    Day zero

    Had a hard talk with my wife about nofap. It started with me asking her to help me, and to put a password for the porn blocker I’ve installed.

    At first it was a really hard talk and she told me how this addiction is making her feel. How she feels like I’m watching porn as part of a “payback” to her for going out with friends, and that is 1000% not true. But I get how she is seeing this like that.

    While talking I’ve understood how much different the two main trigger groups are.

    The first group is simply the habits. The fact that my heart goes from 0 to 100 the moment the door is closing, and I’m left alone at home. The fact that starts to feel some kind of void if we don’t watch P a couple of days and I don’t know about the rest of you, but for me I’ve felt so many times like my fingers are typing bad stuff on google without no intention from me.

    The second group is the shitty coping mechanism to deal with emotions we have. The fact that after a fight with someone, after a panic attack or (the shitter of them all) after someone fall and relapse and suffer from so much self-hate that the only action, I can take is always watching more P. that is a much deeper level of addiction at leas for me.

    But even though the emotion group is the more meaningful one, only after we kind of learn to deal with the habit part could we even really learn to deal better with the world around us.

    So the new porn blocker would not save me from the need to escape when I think about how I want to quit my job even though I don’t know what to do with my life. but I could help me with all of those moments where you feel like the prisoner in your own mind, and you see yourself falling even though you know it wont make you happy but you are home alone and that is simply the thing you do when you are alone…
     
  12. newbobido

    newbobido Fapstronaut

    Dude, this is a rad flag.

    Everything we do here is a form of self-change and self-improvement.
    Referring to yourself or your needs as pathetic doesn’t do anything except to hurt you.
    There are hundreds of books and videos about self-compassion. The point of all of them is that you NEED IT in order to make a better life for yourself.

    Please give yourself the space to understand what you really need and to understand how normal it is. Validation from people at work and small members of what ever community we are in is the most normal thing in the world. We all need it and we all give it to other people because they need it.

    Don’t be hard on yourself for no reason. You are doing great.
     
  13. Rubzi

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    Day 11 - Uruk-Hai, The Dark Tower Barad-Dûr
     
  14. Ready to Stop

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    Day 280 no PMO. Thanks for all your words of encouragement and support. Yesterday was a much better day. A few urges but nothing I couldn’t handle. Today I will fast and let the hunger remind me of my desire to quit p for good. I hope we all have a great day.
     
  15. BloomWasTaken

    BloomWasTaken Fapstronaut

    Day 1 - Relapsed
    (this is meant to be for yesterday, I forgot to post)

    Ok so I don't want to explain too much about this since its personal but I have vvv good news today. So there's this girl that I don't know if I've talked about before but we met a while ago, we spent everyday together and long story short it didn't work out unfortunately because her Mum is super religious and was completely not ok with her daughter being in a relationship. I never got over here. Fast forward to now almost a year after, she messages me asking how I am, I tell her I was actually planning on messaging her on her birthday (4th of Dec). We catch up a bit, fast forward a bit she tells me she's missed me, I tell her I feel the same. We then start to slowly open up and eventually I just broke and told her I think in love with her, turns out, she feels the same way. Obviously I don't recommend doing what I did which was being hopelessly optimistic and hoping it would work out if I waited long enough, never getting over her, comparing other girls too her etc, I just got unbelievably lucky here. All this time, for an entire year of building up my feelings and emotions, she's felt the exact same way all this time. This is literally stuff that happens in romance movies this doesn't feel real but it is.

    Honestly I can't remember what the relapse was from, it was way before the whole situation with her so it had nothing to do with that but honestly I don't care right now, I'm just going through ALOT of emotions right now.
     
    Last edited: Nov 29, 2021
  16. modern milarepa

    modern milarepa Fapstronaut

  17. EpsilonDelta

    EpsilonDelta Fapstronaut

    Checking in. Some urges and withdrawal symptoms, but things are OK. :)
     
  18. Bucketo

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    Welp, here I am. I neglected my daily self-care over the past several days, and my anxiety ramped up as a result. I wasn’t even that horny, I just wanted to numb my emotions. I worked 40 hours last week condensed into 3 days, and then, exhausted from all that, I played video games for three days solid. No yoga, no journaling, no meditating. Just straight numbing. Ate a shit ton of food too. Broke a 38 day streak, which stings. Holidays are a tricky time, they usually require me to break routine, which is one of the main factors that helps me stay clean. I was more angry at myself yesterday (I’ve MOed the past two nights). I’ve come to a peace with it now. This is a hard challenge. I should expect failure. When I do succeed (reaching 90 days, 500, etc), it will be all the sweeter because of the hardships. And, this reminds me how important it is to take care of myself. I think I still want to be a teenager with no responsibilities. But I’m an adult now; I have to be my own parent, because nobody else will. I just get tired, and the addiction convinces me that it can solve my problems better than taking care of myself. I feel like I need to recover from the holidays, I did not rest well at all. I’m surprised how excited I am to be back in the office today, to be back in the swing of things. I can forgive myself for this. I’m doing NoFap because I love me, and I want me to be free of this. Peace and love brothers. God bless.
     
  19. Prophet Moonstruck

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    Well, you should ask her out if you are willing to divert your energy there and not because you just want some... even so, don't ruminate a lot on your thoughts for you will be more and more drained by useless thinking. i wish you the best in whatever decision you take as long as it is you who takes it.
     
  20. Prophet Moonstruck

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    Good to see you doing good brother, I was wondering where you went of to, but had faith you where somewhere good and kicking ass!
     

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