The Lord of the Rings Challenge

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by RiseToGreatness, Sep 22, 2019.

Should the Thread Title be extended?

Poll closed Jun 21, 2020.
  1. No, leave like that: "The Lord of the Rings Challenge"

    18 vote(s)
    54.5%
  2. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Fellowship of Nofap"

    15 vote(s)
    45.5%
  3. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: Rising Fellowship of Eärendil"

    0 vote(s)
    0.0%
  4. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Journey to Mount Doom"

    5 vote(s)
    15.2%
  5. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Quest of the Ring-bearer"

    6 vote(s)
    18.2%
Multiple votes are allowed.
  1. ListenPaul

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    What can you do... If you are not party person, you will continue to be as such. Believe me - I know. I have Asperger's. But that doesn't mean that you cannot enjoy the party. I learned how to do that without total exhaustion and frustration. Now I come to enjoy good food, good music, festive atmosphere, games and so on. If party has non of that, I am out, because I am not interested in formal small talks and, as you, I am terrible at that. Try to learn to relax, stop thinking about impressing other people. The more we are desperate to look social, the less we are.

    If you really are different (like Asperger's, which I don't think you have) you have to learn to love yourself as you are. You cannot change your genetics and deep brain wirering. Be yourself. If you'll be yourself, you'll meet people that you can connect with. And, when that happens, you will not be drained and frustrated. Even after parties.
     
  2. ListenPaul

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    Day 12 monk mode journey. End of the day.

    It was raining all day. I miss sunshine I have to say. It's so cloudy that sometimes it seems that day never comes, especially that they are so short now. At these times I wish I lived somewhere more south.

    Nothing much to tell about today. Went to university. No big temptations so far. I am expecting for good and productive tomorrow.



    Main goal now - 365 days. 353 left.

    0-1-2-3-4-5-6-7-8-9-10-12-14-15-18-20-25-28-30-35-40-45-50-53-56-60-63-66-70-75-83-90-97-104-111-118-120-125-132-139-146-150-157-164-170-177-184-190-197-204-210-217-225-232-239-246-250-257-264-274-281-288-295-300-307-315-322-330-337-344-350-357-364-371-375-382-389-396-400-407-414-421-428-435-442-450-457-464-471-478-485-492-495-499-500-507-514-521-528-532-537-544-551-558-565-572-579-586-593-600-607-611-618-625-632-639-647-654-661-668-675-682-689-696-703-710-717-724-731-738-745-752-759-766-773-780-787-794-801-808-815-822-829-836-844-851-858-865-872-879-887-894-901-908-915-922-929-936-943-950-957-964-971-977-984-991-998-1000(end of journey).

    Rule number 1. Of course, no pornography, no masturbation, no orgasm, no sex.
    Rule number 2. No searching for sexually stimulating material, guarding my look in the street, on TV, on internet, etc.
    Rule number 3. Daily prayer.
    Rule number 4. Daily checking in here. Two times a day.
    Rule number 5. Following my day schedule. This includes going to sleep and waking up on time, starting and finishing work on time.
    Rule number 6. At least one hour a day of activities not related to work, this site or empty internet browsing.
    Rule number 7. Memory practise. I will relate it to my studies, so that I would save time.
    Rule number 8. No caffeine - no coffee, no black, green tea, no cola, no caffeinated drinks, no dark chocolate, etc.

    It is a reset, when any of first four rules is breached. I should follow others as much as possible.
     
  3. Kairose

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    Thank you... I've noticed that without even realizing it, I act in a way that's not really me. Probably as you say, it's me trying to look social... And I end up exhausted and frustrated not only because I'm bad at socialising and small talk, but cause I don't freaking care about neither or them! I'm sick of being held by stuff that's been imposed to me, like f*ing chains, to the point even my personality or way to act is distorted...

    I don't know if I have Asperger's or not (and I'm curious to know why you think I don't). But I'm 100% sure that I'm different. And I really want to be finally okay with it and just be myself...

    Thank you again, God bless you :emoji_heart:
     
  4. logeyik

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  5. ListenPaul

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    I think not because your language is not very direct. But it could be that you learned to mask it. So to be sure, you have to do a test. Google for a good one (from credible university). There is a list of traits. If you have one trait, that doesn't mean that you have Asperger's. Inability to carry and hating "small talks" is one of like 20 symptoms. A must traits are - inability to understand emotional issues and body language (especially in child years), very sensitive to signals (sounds, smells, touch), good at maths, music, structures, logics, lists, vocabulary, weird interests (when I was a child I used to watch science shows, when my friends watched beyblades), urge to stick to schedules or repetitive behaviours (like the same food every Friday), difficulty to connect with people but being very loyal and loving when the connection happens. There are much more possible symptoms, but I listed most common.
     
  6. Slider8

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    Do not define yourself by what you do or what you have for underneath all deeds and possessions there is a divine soul-consciousness capable of everything but bound and blinded by our own erroneous thoughts and beliefs . We are all creators and you have created the mess in your experience, you have the power to create peace and order too;)
     
  7. Slider8

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    :emoji_heart:
     
  8. BloomWasTaken

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    Relapsed. Damn even after her telling me she loves me my trust issues still persist. I've been getting ALOT of relationship anxiety due to my trust issue trauma coming up again as always and it's ruining a perfectly beautiful relationship because I feel dependant on constant reassurance. Obviously, I can't say "just trust her, just don't get anxious" I think that will only get better with time, the thing I can improve right now though is actually distracting myself from the urges rather than just sitting there and convincing myself why I should relapse, which in this case, I've convinced myself because of my relationship anxiety. Yet again, relying on PMO to fix my feelings and problems, a classic.
     
  9. kaerhal

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    Day 3

    Long day today, and fatigued at the prospect of the work I have to complete before the end of the year. Got home and felt the stress-induced urge to relapse, managed to fight it and ended up having a beer instead - well aware that this is a poor coping mechanism so I’d welcome any suggestions for healthy alternatives, one thing I need to do is prioritise prayer and reading my Bible.

    I realise I forgot to clarify at the beginning of my reboot; I’m doing it on hardcore mode (no fishing), really felt the urge to relapse but thankfully it passed. Goodnight all!
     
  10. LuckyMan

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    Checking in. All good. Getting late, going to get offline :)
     
  11. Talz

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    Thanks man. I didn't even think of it this way. I guess I just don't want to be vulnerable or have anyone else have any power over me or my emotions, especially girls. Looking at my past experiences it's easy to see why.

    I wanna be bullet proof so to speak. Impossible though.
     
  12. Talz

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    I'll think about what to do. Maybe I'll see if she just wants to swap telegrams or something as I know she has one.
     
  13. Prophet Moonstruck

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    congrats on the sex!
     
  14. CALM IN SUFFERING

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    Most of my faith is based on the text and to realy find out the truth you need to realy doubt what you already believe, this is not necessarily a bad thing, but it is hard because I am very involved in my faith.
     
  15. CALM IN SUFFERING

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  16. CALM IN SUFFERING

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    Thank you for the encouragement!
     
  17. MS PBH

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  18. Christoph108

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    Dad told me he now has heart problems that can't be fixed. Even though he's an idiot and we don't have much contact anymore I have a lump in my throat all the time.
     
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  19. Talz

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    Day 3

    Very long, exhausting day at work. Had to deal with a rude customer early on so that effected my mood. I already doubted people a lot, but since starting work here it's been a lot worse... On another note though when I see the average person I know I should be able to win at life as my competition isn't very good, yet so much deeply buried self doubt seems to hold me back. I have this strange combination of arrogance and low confidence. Or maybe it's not really rooted in any of that... I just feel that people fundamentally aren't good enough deep down, yet I include myself in that too I guess. Actually I think I think I'm the worst, but maybe secretly the best. At least I think that's what's going on. I don't really know how to explain it...

    A friend once told me: "I think you have expectations of people" which threw me off as I thought everyone did.

    I just want people to be smarter, kinder, more awake or something like that... My expectations of myself are much higher than anyone else as I must be perfect. Perhaps this is to make up for the past? I want to be perfect to make up for my past and I want others to reflect the kind of interactions and relationships I wish I could have had. I also just want to live in a more connected community... People here don't care about each other.

    Have urges again today, but they are manageable. It's always manageable in the end... Relapse is a choice.
     
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