The Lord of the Rings Challenge

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by RiseToGreatness, Sep 22, 2019.

Should the Thread Title be extended?

Poll closed Jun 21, 2020.
  1. No, leave like that: "The Lord of the Rings Challenge"

    18 vote(s)
    54.5%
  2. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Fellowship of Nofap"

    15 vote(s)
    45.5%
  3. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: Rising Fellowship of Eärendil"

    0 vote(s)
    0.0%
  4. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Journey to Mount Doom"

    5 vote(s)
    15.2%
  5. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Quest of the Ring-bearer"

    6 vote(s)
    18.2%
Multiple votes are allowed.
  1. modern milarepa

    modern milarepa Fapstronaut

    3 dates
    Today I have three dates with three different girls, I think the energy from my ex is finally off me. I'm more free.

    Also 3 days ago I said no to a supermodel looking girl to have sex because I felt her vibe was similar to my ex, in the sense of bad in sex I asked her and she kind of confessed she wasn't very good at sex so meaning bad sex.

    After saying no to this girl something happened many girls want to be with me, that I'm not even mentioning. Because if I had sex with this girl it would have been like continuing with the same type of girl my ex is.
     
  2. Slider8

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    Welcome bro !:)It's like a marathon and you start as an uruk-hai!;):emoji_checkered_flag:
     
  3. hakihitoro

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  4. devsMind

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    17 - Hobbit, getting closer to Bree :emoji_ballot_box_with_check:

    Also as I am at the same time struggling to maintain/develop some other daily habits and noticed that this forum helps a lot with that I would love to try status update some other checks which I am battling with:
    Workout - Check :emoji_ballot_box_with_check:
    ColdShower - Check :emoji_ballot_box_with_check:
    NoAlcohol - Check :emoji_ballot_box_with_check:
    HealthyDiet - Check :emoji_ballot_box_with_check:
    Learning - Check :emoji_ballot_box_with_check:
    NoYoutube - Check :emoji_ballot_box_with_check:
    SideProject - Fail :emoji_x:
     
  5. Luffystop

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  6. BloomWasTaken

    BloomWasTaken Fapstronaut

    Relapsed. I had a couple close calls, I was having to fight the urge to go fishing for triggers multiple times but unfortunately once it got really late and I got really tired, I let my guard down. Although, I'm starting to use the seasonal depression and relationship anxiety as an excuse to relapse. I'm just not really trying to distract myself at all, it's not that I don't have things to distract myself with, I'm simply not doing them for some reason even though I'm screaming at myself to distract myself even in the moment when I have the urge, but my body just doesn't want to cooperate with me.
    On the plus side, I started a Minecraft playthrough with a group of friends because a really big update came out for the game. And my relationship anxiety is feeling much better today.

     
    Last edited: Dec 2, 2021
  7. til_im_free

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    Day 2...
    Yep, I relapsed again. Entered this one-week vacation expecting to finnaly get to rest, but I decided to go to work with my father. I went because I wanted to, but I see that I made a mistake, because I needed rest and I didn't give it to myself. I got home and the tiredness made it really difficult to resist the urges, which were strong as hell, along side with the self pity feeling that I had in the moment... the bad thing happenned. But let's do it again...
     
  8. kaerhal

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    Day 6

    The longest I’ve gone without relapsing over the past 10 months has typically been between 6-9 days, so naturally today was a bit of a struggle!

    Saw a photo of my ex-girlfriend that stirred up some sadness and regret, but after about an hour these feelings subsided and I was left with the urge to relapse - thankfully I remained strong, and the distraction of being amongst friends was a blessing.
     
  9. MS PBH

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  10. Talz

    Talz Fapstronaut

    Day 6

    Had a conversation with an ignorant person earlier. I don't know what to say about it... I guess I'll just let them do them and I'll do me.
     
  11. Day 3 complete.

    Today was a beautiful day. I really ought to have gone running, but since I went swimming yesterday and my routine is to work out every other day, getting some outdoor exercise didn't even cross my mind until it was too late.

    I had some thoughts earlier about worrying. As long as we're always caught up in fear about when the next urge will come, and how we have to constantly be on our guard against this looming future struggle, we're going to have a very tough time against the urges. It's a bit of a paradox. We do so many things to improve ourselves as people and to increase our ability to fight against PMO, but I don't think it's a good idea to do them only for the sake of avoiding PMO. We should want to do things like exercise or eat/sleep better or learn a new language because they're good for us, and we want to get rid of PMO because it's good for us, and it's a very happy coincidence that those things align. Knowing exactly what to do to fight an urge is super important, but we can't go around all the time with those things at the front of our brains because that will only invite tough urges. It's hard, it takes time and practice, but in my opinion we ought to be able to jump very quickly back and forth between "battle mode" and simply going about our days.

    @BloomWasTaken The instinct to immediately distract ourselves is a position we need to take very carefully. If we simply push our urges away or bury them, odds are they'll come back stronger later. It's important to find healthy ways to acknowledge and confront our urges. That can take the form of breathing exercise/meditation, talking it out with an accountability partner, or doing some pushups to burn the energy. Stuff like that.
     
  12. modern milarepa

    modern milarepa Fapstronaut

    Choosing the girl, sexual balance.
    I just came back from the last date of the day, I had scheduled 3 different dates with 3 different girls.

    I invited the last girl to eat in these new Hungarian ice cream chop which I took the other date too. The ice cream lady just looked at me and laughed in a discrete way it was a good moment between us haha.

    I must say this girl, the last date is smart and it's the best talk I had with a girl in my life. I thought I was very fluid yesterday because I had sex but I realiced today it wasn't that, because the other date I had today it wasn't as fluid. So the only variable is the girl. We have chemistry for talking which I never had before, we are very different but somehow she likes who I am and what I talk, I feel I can be me. Also she is attractive and we have chemistry.

    The other girl even do attractive, she is very sweet and easy going, femenine. I don't feel such strong connection or chemistry. But she is a special girl.

    My heart, body and mind goes for the girl I have strong chemistry in talking and attraction but she seems a difficult girl, domineering and can have a temper. She hasn't fully showed it but it's there.

    I'll have to think about it and discuss it with my father. Also the idea of dating permanently multiple girls seems so boring and stressful it's just not fun I don't want to worry and make up lies. I don't want to put that much energy into sex. Also it creates a bad vibe if I happen to hurt the girls. One girl is enough.

    The third date, well it was these beautiful escort neighbor. She is calling and texting me right now, I told her I won't be able to make it. Enough sex already, now let's make it more normal with some feelings involved.
     
  13. PeaceOnEarth108

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    5 days
    Day by day, kickin' all the way
    I'm not caving in
    Let another round begin
     
    Last edited: Dec 3, 2021
  14. Don'tLookBack

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  15. newbobido

    newbobido Fapstronaut

    Day 4

    Already really struggling.

    Two days ago I’ve went to the Sauna at my gym (I only started doing it a couple of weeks ago, so everything is still really new for me). And unlike all previous times, this time my secret hopes and fears came true and there was a really hot chick there, and I couldn’t get her out of my head, and that is really sad because I really started to enjoy going there after working out just to feel the heat.

    My plan right now is to stay away from the sauna until I am a hobbit and I feel less triggered. It would both serve as a positive reward to an actual good thing (I had a really hard time trying to come up with rewards that are not just bad food). And even more importantly, it will keep me away from a potential triggering situation until I am a little bit more stable in my NoFap journey.

    What do you think?
     
  16. Rubzi

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    Day 15 - Hobbit, The Shire
     
  17. Don'tLookBack

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    yeahh... maybe stay away from the sauna for sure. I struggle at the gym too, but the good thing is is if I just stay focused on my workout, I can just zone everyone else out. Just quick in, pump that iron, get right out.
     
  18. Slider8

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    ...I think that one of the definitions of rest is the change of your activity and according to it you done well by working with your father, out of your own desire. It looks like the mistake was in the attitude to tiredness and self-pity. One of the possible good ways would be to pray and to engage in physical exercise, to seek the good company, to think about what you grateful for in your life...
    ...and since something happened it was meant to be. Just accept it as it is, learning from it makes you stronger and better person ,capable of avoiding the same from happening again. Treat it like a test/exam in the school after which you can rise or go back to the repeating, depending on how well you learned the lesson God is teaching you...
     
  19. Slider8

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    It looks like that look at the photo revived some memories and expectations-desire for pleasure in you, whilst the sadness and regret are indicators that you still treat her as your possession you were taking pride in whilst being against God's will for nothing happens in our lives unless it was in his plan and was meant to be. Keep praying 'Thy will be done' and that you don't see all the ends and why it had happened but is it for the cell to has it will on the body or to serve it's will and plans...
    The important think is she is a free soul in the temporary body and she is a part of His plan as well as you, you shared love, but why to confine yourself and make your feeling of love dependent on anything, on persons behavior , on whether someone is with you or away. By giving love and lowing everyone unconditional you are bound to receive what you saw. Don't limit yourself to a person Love all the world around you as the living God and your whole life will become a blessing.:emoji_heart:
     
  20. Slider8

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    Do things you have to do out of love and inspiration to the goal you set for yourself. See it not only on itself but as well as the changes in you it will inevitably bring. That would be the solution to stop worrying for love and fear are opposites. Choose to keep in your awareness love for what you are after and throw the fear of all unwanted out of your consciousness forever!
    Deo gratias.
     

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