The Lord of the Rings Challenge

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by RiseToGreatness, Sep 22, 2019.

Should the Thread Title be extended?

Poll closed Jun 21, 2020.
  1. No, leave like that: "The Lord of the Rings Challenge"

    18 vote(s)
    54.5%
  2. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Fellowship of Nofap"

    15 vote(s)
    45.5%
  3. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: Rising Fellowship of Eärendil"

    0 vote(s)
    0.0%
  4. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Journey to Mount Doom"

    5 vote(s)
    15.2%
  5. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Quest of the Ring-bearer"

    6 vote(s)
    18.2%
Multiple votes are allowed.
  1. nerdy_owl

    nerdy_owl Fapstronaut

    Day 11
    Still in quarentine, yestarday I felt really tired, I slept a lot and play videogames too. Was not a productive day but today will be a better one.

    Always controling my sex thoughts and what I see to don't relapse.
     
  2. LiveLifeInABetterWay

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    Checking in for day 14, can not believe that I already achieved 2 weeks of this amazing journey. Yesterday I had my DIV day. I was unfoulonteerly looked up at home instead on going to school. I was unhappy about this. I had to stay at home because I had to wait for the results from my covid test. In the group test I did on Tuesday someone was positiv so all of us had to test again. Yesterday I got the new result and I am negative and I lost a important day in school, I was pissed of. I used this day to sew a new scarf and a headband the fabric I had already longtime ago. I looked some YouTube videos how to do a few craftings. I was happy about the result.

    Later in the evening my fiance was calling but I still felt this gap between us and still feel it that something is broken. I actually needed time by myself and should have said I would not have wanted to call. Instead we called but it was not a good and healthy conversation, that was not me. I am figuring out at the moment what my true needs are and trying to find a way how this would work out between us. It will only work out when he is willing to give me some me time. I need his help by letting me some space. I made a mind map where I broke down my wishes for the future and for now. I am hopeful and I know that God truly knows my needs.

    At the same time I felt the urge to tell my fiance about NoFap today, so he knows now and he is happy about this, even though that he stopped MO only by the strength of God. I hope he understands that I need other help, like the community as an example. Posting nearly every day helps me to stay on track.

    I am close to see hobbington and I am really happy that I could learn so much during this 14 days already. I am glad that I started this journey. I am glad that 2022 will be the year I learned to deal with my emotional needs rather than fapping them away. I reflect more often about my life and about what I want. I have a clearer mind and I feel that I can control certain things in my life. That's newer to me.

    Greetings
    J
     
  3. LiveLifeInABetterWay

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    @rotten_tomato I am glad to see you back. It is good to stand up to fight. It's good to see that you are on a good track. 3 days you can be proud. It does not depend how many days in a row but 3 days means that you withdraw 3 days of your addiction. So you can do it. And I believe in you.

    Keep it up

    J
     
  4. Slider8

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  5. RiseToGreatness

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    well, it seems you´re not enjoying life, in fact you´re not enjoying your new life! what´s up bro? what is causing you dissatisfaction?

    and what can you do to solve this? it seems you´re in survival mode, and that´s not good in your present stage.
     
  6. RiseToGreatness

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    Congratulations brother!! I´m proud of you!! :)

    Good luck on your journey :)

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  7. RiseToGreatness

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  8. RiseToGreatness

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    "Salty pork?!" :D :D ;)
     
  9. RiseToGreatness

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    Good luck bro!! You can do this :)
     
  10. til_im_free

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    I wanna share some thoughts with you:

    I guess it's commom sense that everyone would like to have the motivation of day 1/2/3 all the way through rebooting, but it doesn't happen. We usually tend to lost our mindset one the firsts weeks. At least, it happens to me just like that. Around the third week I tend to get overconfident and think that I'm in a safety situation when I'm actually not, and THIS mindset leads me to relapse, thanks to the thoughts like "I won't relapse anymore at this point of the streak, so I can relax a little bit". And then, the care that I used to have for exercising, eating and sleeping well goes away. I start to binge-watch series, eat poorly, consume too much media and then... the relapse happens. At first glance, it seems like it simply happened, but it was induced by a lack of HUMILITY. The humility to not see myself above the trivial things. The lowness to recognize that I'm ALWAYS in danger, and I will always be (since it's possible to return to the addiction even after the reboot). Those thoughts came to my mind observing some people with much more experience and good results. Those guys are ALWAYS aware of the danger, such as @Ready to Stop (I'm gonna use you as an examplo bro hahah). He has an amazing streak, but he's constantly watchful, paying attention to potential situations that would trigger him. THIS IS THE MINDEST WHICH WILL LEADS US TO BE FREE! This humbleness will help us make sure to do everything at our hands to avoid temptation and relapsing.

    Brothers (and sister @LiveLifeInABetterWay hahah), we are not that strong! If we truly were, we wouldn't be here. Of course, this is no reason for us to sit down and cry at our miseries, but should make us SEEK that strenght! Let us humble ourselves!

    "The wise are cautious and avoid danger; fools plunge ahead with reckless confidence." Proverbs 14:16
    "Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might, for in the realm of the dead, where you are going, there is neither working nor planning nor knowledge nor wisdom." Ecclesiastes 9:10
     
  11. RiseToGreatness

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    Checking in Fellowship!! :)

    Stayed at home today in telework with some sick feelings. One of my co-workers has covid, so i needed to go out and do the covid test. came out negative, pfiuuuu, but i feel a bit of flew sympthoms so i´m gonna take some medicine, chill at home, and not catch cold. hope tomorrow will be better :)

    On the addiction department, small urges and desire, nothing that can´t be handled ;)

    Have a great day Fellowship :). Checking out.
     
  12. Don80

    Don80 Fapstronaut

    Hi guys, I wanna thanks you for your support. I guess I'm overwhelmed by the challenge. I need to figure out the impact of PMO on my mind. I'm gonna start with meditation - I installed an app Calm but it's paid. I'm gonna use the free content. I need to learn to handle my thoughts when the urge comes. Struggling for 10-15 minutes with an urge and failing. That's my current course of action.
    Seeing the goal like 365 days porn-free freak me out. Totally. The moment I think I need an extra crutch to accomplish that like competiting with @IveWastedMyTime - I fail withing several hours. It's similar to counting hours after a relapse. I gave up doing that. It was my mind's way to trick me into anxiety and an eventual relapse.
    Truth be told, I can't stand failing and comparing myself to some of you with your awesome achievements. Deep inside I envy them and it shouldn't be like that. Therefore, I need to leave you. Thanks you for all the kind words and support. I need to focus on my progress and learn to appreciate it. Right now I'm not ready for a challenge like this. I'm not gonna constantly reset the counter and get back to square one. I realize that, in fact, it's not square one - but square two or three. My knowledge gradually grows but my skills somehow remain stagnant. What I need is more peace of mind (to conquer the depression) and thought control (to beat the urges when they come).
    Again, thank you all, especially @RiseToGreatness for showing me that fighting for a day is a fallacy, @Slider8 for his pearls of widsom and razor-sharp movie podcasts with a deeper meaning. For the time being I'm gonna leave you, but it doesn't mean that I gave up on nofap. I just need to take it slowly without the constant threat of becoming a nazgul.
     
  13. IveWastedMyTime

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    Noo Im sad that you leave for this reason we are all in the same boat- and @Don80 it doesnt matter how often you've lost and fell down - it matters how often you stand up again, so dont give it up brother! AND its you against YOU (at the end of each day) so dont compare yourself with others.
     
    Last edited: Jan 13, 2022
  14. Mat2401

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    Day 11. Some urges again today but kept busy, which helped take my mind off them.
     
  15. Slider8

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    It's the same relief from stress that alcoholic with an aching liver has, whilst trying to get relief by drinking more in hope to drink himself into temporary oblivion to the pain which was caused by the alcohol in the first place only to make the situation worse and pain more unbearable.
     
  16. crazyhorse11

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    Hey @Ready to Stop , you are approx 3 weeks away from a 1 year streak - nothing, no urge, no temptation, no trigger, is bigger than that - do not fish man - if you are in a hotel get the f*** outside for a long walk in a new place, watch your breath, reflect on all you have achieved, and cultivate the fear of losing this and slipping back into the pit
     
  17. crazyhorse11

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    It's not how many times you fall, but how many times you get back up on the horse man. If you just get up one more time than you fall, you will have won. Each reset absolutely does not wipe out all the progress you have made, you keep growing each time. The most difficult part of this is getting back up once you've been knocked down, and by coming back on this forum each time you have fallen, you have shown great resilience, and each time you are getting stronger and stronger. That the urges are wild right now means that your addicted brain is in panic mode because it knows you are getting stronger. And by stronger I do not mean like a truck strong, I mean you are human strong because you are more honest with yourself, and you are embracing your brokenness and vulnerability, you are accepting your humanity. Don't pack it in now brother. Consider joining a support group, like the ones offered on this site, and get an accountability partner. This forum is only one of many ways to reach freedom. Keep going bro, keep going....
     
  18. Slider8

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    'It seems sometimes things get so thick around the man, that he comes to feel that everything is closing in on him and that's when he wants to be left alone, do you understand?';)
     
  19. Snus9

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    checking in day 21! Moved ! :)
     
  20. kaerhal

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    Day 13

    Increased urges today, the thought of relapsing played on my mind throughout the afternoon which really annoyed me. I’m finding it harder to stop my train of thought and almost turned to having a drink to distract myself - but obviously this would have been a poor coping mechanism so I decided to have a herbal tea and stilled myself by preparing to go to bed.

    On a side note I’d definitely recommend a nighttime tea blend - I find when I’m well rested I can focus my mind away from PMO, and a hot herbal tea a few hours before bed really helps to slow my mind and body down, which I’ve found can help with urges.
     

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