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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by RiseToGreatness, Sep 22, 2019.
Go for it!!
Reaching the 365 days this year.
Day 19, checking in.
Thanks man for the advice, and yeah, that what exaclty how I relapsed, playing video games at nigth. I will follow your advice and I will regulate the play of them, specially at nigth.
Day 1! an Orc, keeping strogh!
Day 75, trod on
@Kairose great tip, you also have a great streak to prove it works!
Day 68 checking in. All good,had a good day.!
Check in day 115
Day 18 today. Major urges at the moment but staying strong!
Checking in Fellowship Friends!
Day 437 free of Porn and Day 365 free MO,
I have reached a year since the last time I MOed. I'm grateful for everything I've experienced over the last year. I am grateful for this community, upon which we share a common path.
I want to return to a topic I bring up fairly regularly, awareness of emotional turmoil, potential or even perceived trauma and any level of discomfort. We have access to such a wide variety of on demand, effortless distractions today. Each of which hacks an aspect of regular human interaction. Why work on yourself, whether that be socially, physically or mentally to attract a partner when you have access to a never ending selection online? Why take the time to learn a new skill, study, better yourself when you have access to an easy level up in a video game? Why work on your in person socials skills when you can spend your day in the sphere of social media, where you can portray a fake persona and be loved for it?
Our brain gets accustom to gratification without effort, accustomed turns to dependent and dependent turns to self-destructive. In this matter we can say our brain can be quite silly, when left to its own devices. It's also intelligent, because deep down it knows that this form of gratification is empty and over long periods very harmful. All of the above habits, have been ingrained in us for a long time. Some of us are worse off than others (by that I mean some started at much younger ages and some on many more habits). I feel for the kids who will grow up with "meta world" being mainstream. It's going to be absolute mental health mayhem.
Now I don't want people to get the wrong impression, I'm not trying advocate you all become luddites. I'm simply advocating for awareness, intent, caution and simplicity. If you are to use the internet, go on with intent beforehand. I mentioned emotional awareness before, notice when your brain pulls you towards any of the mediums above. Pay close attention in that moment, what is it that your brain wants you to stay clear from. It may be something as simple as boredom, or as complex as a traumatic trigger. This is something your brain has learned to escape from, rather than tackle. We can only escape for so long, at certain point these emotions overflow as no medium is strong enough to hold them at bay. This is where you work comes in, taking the reins of your brain back and staring at whatever that may be. This is where your healing truly begins.
Stay strong my friends
@Redemptionisrequired awesome reflection. Thanks for the insight.
A long day indeed! I’ve been playing through The Witcher 3 and my conversation choices led to a ‘romance’ scene that I would rather have not seen - caused a lot more urges to plague me in the afternoon. I made the decision to avoid future romances in the game, but then to my surprise, I completed the game - it’s a brilliant story and left me feeling quite melancholy, but it has inspired me to continue my own writing which should prove to be a useful distraction from PMO urges.
Had a curry night with some friends which was a nice milestone celebration for making it to 20 days - despite a rocky road I’ve made it safely to the village of Bree! Just as Aragorn warned the Hobbits, the journey doesn’t get any easier from here on - two more weeks and I’ve beaten my personal best!
Today was a good day, i was able to study for 6hrs and for that i'm grateful. I had some quick urges, they appear like a flash and go away quickly as well; i gotta be honest, i'm a little afraid of'em.
That's why i'm keeping myself mindful as much as i can be. Always vigilant.
@Redemptionisrequired congrats on your 1yr mark!
Strenght & Honor!
Ugh, very tired and drained, yet I'm in fairly good spirits. I've gotten some good things done today and am looking forward to a home workout and some cold shower water before bed.
Nice recommendation, I'll search for it. Also, there's a book that helped me in defining my reasons to quit: Captured by a better vision: living pornfree, from Tim Chester. It's really deep and goes down to very root of the sin of sexual immorality.
Where I live, we have winters of less than 0°C and summers that reach 40°C, so I can answer this question with some property. When it's hot, cold showers lose all its power, but in the winters they are deep torture. I don't recommend to take a totally cold shower when the temperature is under 10°C. What I do is that I take a coldER shower, with the water just a little bit less cold by the warming. Of course, it has to be discomforting, otherwise it won't work. But taking it at extreme temperatures is not wise, even more considering a now prepared guy.
Just checking in. Had a tough day, since I slept pretty badly last night. Studied the whole day even though, and ended up with a damn headache.
I gotta get my sleep routine back on track!
Day 168 Endo