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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by RiseToGreatness, Sep 22, 2019.
Thanks a lot brother, your suggestion is truly beneficial for all over here ,specially me who is fighting a mental war with my very ownself, i will definitely win over this, i will give my best performance this time, i will never let down my self confidence...your advice is really appreciable , i was actually looking forward for this kind of therapeutic advice, which explains me the realities of mental suffering during the streaks, i am very much thankful to you...God bless you
Welcome to another dwarven companion!
You've got this. May you have patience in suffering, courage amidst foes, and hope despite struggles. We've got your back.
@Kairose with small steps we can achieve great miles! Let's go bro.
@Gallade_Templar for sure comrade, one must remember that this path is constantly trying to bring you down, you must always choose to stay strong.
@CALM IN SUFFERING and @PeaceOnEarth108, thank you both for your attention.
Day 375 no PMO – Legions of PMO and the leader of the Nazgûl stand in your way. A decisive battle is fought in the Black Land.
My fight with my wife from Wednesday night continued into Thursday morning. Not fun. Good news is that using PMO to cope didn’t even cross my mind as an option.
Respect brother!!!! thnx once again.
Sorry that I can’t write a lot, and I can’t even read the stuff that other people have been posting. But life is still crazy.
I’m still standing and I hope all of you are also doing the best you can. Next week I will be back with full power into this form. Until then, stay strong my brothers.
I recently joined this forum. It's quite impressive how almost everyone in here has hit 60+ on their streaks, some 100+ some 200+ days, for someone like me who has never made it to 10+days in a very long time. This serves as motivation for me, so thank you to each and every one of you for showing me that it is possible.
Day 4 ! Im quite worried about war lately... I prayed for peace several times the last days.
Enjoyed the sun and had some nice food today.
Keep your heads up and enjoy life brothers and sisters. We only live once!
Checking in Fellowship Friends,
Day 407 free of MO and day 16 free of porn.
Yesterday was challenging overall, given I had very little sleep. I was thinking about an irrational crush, one I use to have. Which was a bit odd, as I haven't seen that girl/or spoken with her, in quite a long time. Urges were stronger, but I made it through. The good news is, I slept like a champ, which was very much need and quite refreshing. Todays plan are to meditate and read, relaxation mode is still in place.
For todays topic of discussion I would like to talk about the dreaded "relapse". Given I watched porn and porn substitutes 16 days ago, the topic came to my mind. I want to say this, when one relapses, it is okay to upset with oneself. It is okay, as long as you use it as fuel to learn from the relapse, to propel yourself forward along your journey.
What is not okay, is to wallow in self-pity and self-destruction, through our own emotional bullying. This mentality can only promote an inevitable binge. Always look at the big picture, compare yourself to day 1. Not the day 1 of your streak, day 1 when you decided that PMO was a problem in your life and that you want to tackle it. Maybe you were PMOing multiple times a day, and are now consistently keeping streaks of 3-4 days. Maybe you made 60 , 90 or over 100+ days. All of what I mentioned is progress. The important factor here, and reminder, is that you are not who you were on that initial day. Look at the new habits you've picked up since you started this journey, those have no evaporated simply because you relapsed. They are still there.
The progress you've made depends on where you are in life and where you were on that initial day 1. Reflect on the improvements, what you've changed. Look closely and see what you have accomplished. Do not look externally, comparison to others accomplishments will feed jealousy, anger and self-pity. Look to learn from others , yes. But do not compare yourself to them. Everyone's journey is unique, down to our own experiences and our own way of thinking.
So my friends, be kind with yourselves. Look at the big picture and keep working hard. You are all, truly inspiring to me!
16 days - At Buckland, Bilbo gives you Sting - an Elven short-sword made in Gondolin. It will turn blue when porn forces are around.
Quest Item - Sting
@Slider8 Thank you brother, let us keep going!
@JEBF Congrats on becoming Grey Wizard brother! May your wisdom grow ever more.
@kaerhal I hope your potential vehicle purchase was successful brother, as I hope the urges dissipate for you quickly.
@Say_Goodbye It is possible brother, study and practice alongside your journey will be helpful. Tackling addiction is not just about brute force of willpower. Be patient with yourself. You got this!
Things are fine overall, the memories are mildly active but they only last no more than two minutes at a time, I've decided to just let them come and go naturally and use those moments as like mini meditation sessions, y'know let the thoughts run it's course but not react to them. Sure, I still got a urge to go along with them, but I've just focused on what I was doing while I let it did it's thing until it eventually passed. Hope everyone is hanging in there alright.
Day 0, relapsed yestarday
Today it's another day with new opportunites, so focused in the present!
Check in day 158
Day 0, again.
We have 4 white wizards, so you can see that the challenge is totally doable. It´s hard but it´s possible. You just have to keep at it, improve everytime you fall, and never give up
You can do this!
Checking in Fellowship!!!
28 rocking days. Crossing the Bruinen . Fuck you porn
Well, today withdrawal is still here, the leg pain is mildy now and so is the brain fog. slowly i´m getting better . I also notice it because urges are starting to surface
Today i learned a super important thing with Universal Man. About objectification of women. you see, before i thought that one shouldn´t objectify people because you´re downgrading a person to it´s sexual feature. you´re treating them like objects and not like people.
Well, this is true, but there´s more to it. When we objetify women we are also objectifying ourselves. when we lustfully chase or fantasize about a woman, we´re actually putting on her a power that she doesn´t have. a power to make us feel whole, complete, like a status trophy we must gain in order to have self value and worth. you project your value onto her. that´s why there´s the "neediness" sense of lust.
This is obviously a wrong approach, because relying on external factors (in this case lusting over women) is useless. we will never be fully satisfied and authentic that way, because circunstances always change, and we will always feel that we´re not good enough inside, and "need" that status trophy in order to get a (temporary) relief.
We always have inherent worth and value, no matter what the circunstances are. We are human beings, and dignity is our core nature! So everytime you objectify a woman with your eyes or your mind, divert your attention, and say to yourself:
"i´m already good, worthy, and therefore i take good care of myself".
I hope this helps Fellowship. I´m happy to explain further. I think this is crucial because this projection behaviour is one of the key components of an addiction. It was groundbreaking for me.
Let´s get going brave Warriors. Towards the Mountain!!!!
Here´s the new Quest Item
45 days – Your loved ones send you a gift as a token of their love. Radagast, the Brown, in his rabbit sleigh delivers you Evenstar – a silver necklace with a white stone. "When the memory of the fear and the darkness troubles you...this will bring you aid".
Quest Item – Evenstar
Bah, nevermind, back to day 0 again.