The Lord of the Rings Challenge

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by RiseToGreatness, Sep 22, 2019.

Should the Thread Title be extended?

Poll closed Jun 21, 2020.
  1. No, leave like that: "The Lord of the Rings Challenge"

    18 vote(s)
  2. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Fellowship of Nofap"

    15 vote(s)
  3. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: Rising Fellowship of Eärendil"

    0 vote(s)
  4. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Journey to Mount Doom"

    5 vote(s)
  5. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Quest of the Ring-bearer"

    6 vote(s)
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  1. Baki Hanma

    Baki Hanma Fapstronaut

    Please don't concern about my poor English
    Brother, This is my opinion. I don't know much information about your home environment , state of your life(single or married) , your age
    and economic state. But you are my friend. First of all I am a single person. Before I joined nofap , I had no idea about my life. This is my story. I didn't know about NoFap . In school , I couldn't focus on my studies. So that I couldn't achieve average marks on maths etc. So that i thought about it but i couldn't find this answer. Those days , I was addicted PM . But I didn't have much time to watch porn so that if I had free time,I watched porn . All of my friends said that ' It is a normal thing'. My parents didn't know about my addiction to PM . I have tried to eradicate this PM in my mind for 2 years . I couldn't defeat it . After that we work according to that time table . Finally Unknowingly we change our lifestyle due to PM. Now i know what is the reason why I couldn't stop doing PM. Because we didn't change our life style. After we addict to watch porn and M , our brain creates some kind of time table.

    I worked hard to get average marks on math and My parents thought " he would get marks in exam . But I couldn't achieve it. After that My parents and me went to meet a doctor . Doctor gave some advices but he couldn't figure out my real problem. 2 years later, There would be a big exam (final exam) . I faced it but i couldn't get high marks but got some average marks.

    After that I searched abut my problem and I found some information about NoFap and I joined it.

    First of all , In first week and second week, It is not too easy to sustain our streak. In my first streak , I could do it only few days. But I found my weakpoints . First , I believed my self and I wanted to come out this hell. These are the steps what i did in first and second week.
    1. I changed my computer from my room to living room.
    2. I deleted p videos in my computer.
    3. I always talked with my family members.
    4. when I wanted to watch p , I did pushups or cycling or having a conversation with my family members
    5. And I played videogames instead of watching .
    6. I watched some videos about peaky blinders tv series and Baki the grappler in YouTube
    If you are comfortable with your commercial state , you can get a gym membership. I did it in my first month only. Because I couldn't pay money to gym according to my financial state.

    Don't worry brother You can do it. brother , you are not alone. Everyone in the world want's to join NoFap. Only few of them do it. You have a high value. We can fight together brother. Everyone who before join the NoFap are alone . But now we are brothers under a one roof. Don't be sad.
    Think about success people in our world. they did everything to achieve their goals. Don't give up your try. Try, try ,try ...... you can do it brother. we are lions . We can do anything if we think correctly. Enjoy your self . And if you don't have friends don't worry. you have your family members. And you know we are real friends. You know can't meet physically. But we care us. so we are the good friends. I watch the video that you have mentioned above. I don't know that language , but it is heart touching.

    I give my all stuff which i did to defeat PMO I stop writing today. I hope for a good news from you brother.. Goodluck
    Last edited: Aug 4, 2022
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  2. Baki Hanma

    Baki Hanma Fapstronaut

    Day 98
    Be positive and stay strong
  3. Dominikfhj

    Dominikfhj Fapstronaut

  4. Wet dream happen to me tonight,

    Will be probably tired through out the day
  5. newbobido

    newbobido Fapstronaut

    Dude that is really hard. Thank you for being so honest with us and with yourself. I'm here more than two years and still never made it to one month, so I get what you aew saying.

    But all I want to say is that you don't need to be too proud in a way that would stope you from coming back one day if you would like to.
    We are here, and I think we will be here for a long time. So just remember that you are always welcome
  6. zusya

    zusya Fapstronaut

    Day 4

    Checking in for the first time in a while. I am currently on holiday in Europe, and on Sunday I went swimming at a local river where lots of people go swimming. Lots of scantily clad people, and to my surprise, one or two ladies were even going around topless.

    I saw the first topless lady unintentionally, but then I actively looked for her when I came back that way to have another look as I walked past. I’m sorry brothers. I feel pain in my heart over it. I shouldn’t have done it. What would my mum or sister think of me if they knew I did that?

    I feel messed up inside over it, as I can feel how it’s changed and distorted me as a person. Once you cross certain lines there’s no going back. I have been a mess lately. Im looking forward to starting my teacher training course in September. It will do me good to have some structure and discipline in my life.
  7. IveWastedMyTime

    IveWastedMyTime Fapstronaut

  8. Ready to Stop

    Ready to Stop Fapstronaut

    Day 18 no PMO. My wife was out with her friends last night but I stayed strong and watched some TV with my kids instead of retreating to my room to be alone.
  9. a_unique_user

    a_unique_user Fapstronaut

    Day 19 as an Elf complete!
    Significant urges over the last couple of days... still keeping my schedule tight and trying to keep the beast at bay.

    "I am worth the extra effort!."
  10. Mazda647

    Mazda647 Fapstronaut

    Dawn of the 24th day.

    I did not sleep well last night. My best guess is I had a shower to late in the evening. Probably best to stay off the computer today. A sleep deprived state is likely a prime time to fall.
  11. Paul S.

    Paul S. Fapstronaut

    Thank you very much for your optimism and support. Hearing optimistic people always makes me wonder maybe I am wrong, maybe there is more hope than I can see right now.

    Optimism is good, but let's not forget that all emotions are fine. I learned that repressing emotions can be harmful. I learned it the hard way. Let's understand what we really feel and share. :)

    Thank you for your kindness. Kind people are one of the few remaining reasons why I am still here for the last try. I wish you all the best in your journey!
    Last edited: Aug 4, 2022
  12. Redemptionisrequired

    Redemptionisrequired Fapstronaut

    Checking in Fellowship Friends!

    23 Days Free of PMO.

    I have some analysis that needs to be taken care of today and rest day regarding working out.

    Feeling much better today, just slightly tired. Wim Hof breathing has really been instrumental in eviscerating my anxiety. I've been at it for about a month, alongside daily meditation. I highly recommend trying it out.

    Imagine for yourself a character, a model personality whose example you determine to follow in private as well as in public -Epictitus

    Stay strong!

    @Paul S.

    I will say this, part of the problem that I noticed in my first streak was that I was spending too much time focused on no PMO and withdrawal symptoms. Waiting for that "magical" # of days that will just instantly wash away the ailments. I believe this is what you are doing too, from what you mentioned.

    Instead focus your life on building the new. The Paul that you want to be. This is important, not turn nofap itself into an addiction (albeit, better than PMO) still carving out in life what you want.

    Nofap in and of itself is not some secret to happiness, if used correctly (as I mentioned above) it can be a catalyst for many wonderful opportunities. Of course with time of abstinence, your brain will reboot, but focus on the rewiring. Rewiring to the real world itself, not focusing so much on the days that show up on your counter.

    The whole cliché "Don't count the days, make the days count"

    Thank you for being open and honest my friend, I know what you are saying. This is close to how I felt after I relapsed and disappeared. I won't fault you if you do decide to leave, just know you have friends here who will always welcome you with open arms, should you leave and decide to return.
  13. Paul S.

    Paul S. Fapstronaut

    Thank you for understanding. I thought that after writing the post I'll be banned from the fellowship, but I guess people understand my pain more than I imagined.

    Yeah, I can be very proud. Like young Galadriel. :D But I hope I'll make a right choice to come back, when I'll feel ready again. Like Galadriel made choice to diminish and go back into the West. ;) :D

    Let's go for one last try together! And then to our own paths (yours with the fellowship, mine alone).
  14. RiseToGreatness

    RiseToGreatness Fapstronaut

    Welcome brother!
  15. RiseToGreatness

    RiseToGreatness Fapstronaut

    Checking in Fellowship!

    Not a good day today, terrible family fight yesterday and today with lot´s of ramifications :(. Greed is a terrible human trait, how can people be so mean? oh well :(, but i hope this works out for the best. i know i did my part to solve things in a proper way.

    This morning i try to run again, but wake up so late, that i instead did some mild workout at home. then a cold shower. I like it :)

    nothing more to add Fellowship! Have a great day :)

    "Hard to find how I feel
    Especially when your smothering me
    Hard to find how I feel
    Oh please someone help me
    Hard to find how I feel
    Controlling me every step of the way
    Hard to find how I feel
    You greedy little baby"

    Last edited: Aug 4, 2022
  16. Anew2019

    Anew2019 Fapstronaut

    21 days. I was feeling so good up until yesterday afternoon. Seams my benefits have tapered off. I think I might be in flatline. I still do feel better than I did when I was caught up in pmo all those years. Was stuck in the habit for 30 years. Deeply entrenched. I am a little worried I am going to have a long and rough flatline. It will be worth it though. Let’s keep strong fellowship.
  17. Paul S.

    Paul S. Fapstronaut

    Thank You for support and understanding!

    The thing is I don't understand this anymore. My withdrawals can be very strong. Like being tired but not being able to fall asleep until 3 am, or sinking into depression even though I have no tangible reason to. It's no wonder I sometimes think, is this worth it?

    This I understand. That's why I decided it's my last try.

    I don't know who I want to be. I thought stopping pmo would help me realise that. It didn't so far. I am even more confused than ever. I am not interested in success or huge achievements. Sometimes it seems all I want is small, peaceful life, being useful to the people with small every day things. But this seems unrealistic with all the troubles Europe is in right now. But that's whole another topic. One thing I understood already is that happiness and unhappiness go not too far from each other. I live now near the church - yesterday there was funeral, today there's a wedding and it goes on and on. Life is life. So, let's say I'm cautiously optimistic.
  18. Anas778

    Anas778 Fapstronaut

  19. nerdy_owl

    nerdy_owl Fapstronaut

    5 days
    Low urges yestarday, worked almost all day. Tomorrow I have to go to the office., sometimes it's good to change the normal home office routine.

    Today I worked out and took a cold shower.
    Keep strong my brothers.
  20. SSS Vision

    SSS Vision Fapstronaut

    Day 22 check in. Days PMO-free in 2022: 208 out of 216.

    @Paul S. as an open forum, all of us are free to come and go whenever we want or need a change. Of course the fellowship will miss you while you are away. I intended to step away, thinking that being porn-free was assured even if I masturbated occasionally, and the lack of accountability tripped me up within a short time. So maybe you find out that even though this forum isn't some grand life-changing key to success, it might be helpful enough to be part of again down the road. Stay open and aware and good luck on your journey!

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