Checking in, Decided to give myself more relaxation type, to lower my stress level, so I finished to work earlier and went to the beach with my wife, Today I also took the day off to go swimming. I know, I need to handle stress is more healthier ways then watching Porn, I've noticed the the stress is my #1 relapse reason, not even lack of socialization. That's because, even when I spent most of the day with my family I still want to watch porn, If I have a high level of stress, for example If I would have exam the next day or smth like this. Meditation is the key to lower your stress level, so I decided to make it my habit. Also going out to the nature is a solid stress relief method.
@PeaceOnEarth108 @Ready to Stop @CALM IN SUFFERING @DRaley @Gallade_Templar @kaerhal @Slider8 @i89rt5 @SSS Vision @Baki Hanma @Anew2019 @RiseToGreatness @Anas778 @Kratos_GOW @Redemptionisrequired Guys, what reward porn gives you? For me it's temporary stress relief, so I need to change Porn to the habit that would give me the same reward.
Hi man, that sounds like a really great Idea. I’ve been tracking my days for almost two years now and it really helped me and it’s a great visualization of the progress that we are making. The only advice I can give you (based only on my own experience) is just not to try and “capture” too much information on that chart. Your system sounds amazing, but it just takes a lot of energy to keep track of days and the more stuff I’ve tried to track made me lose those days entirely. At the beginning I used 3 or 4 different colors to indicate I PMO, did I write in this form, did I exercise, meditate and even more stuff. It just got out of hand. My current system is simply, good day is a big red X, extra hard day / a little bit of fishing (before the rules of this challenge changed) but still without PMO. PMO - one solid black line. Edging - one dotted black line. So all I need right now is a calendar and just two markers and I can mark stuff down really quickly. But anyway, try to find whatever works for you. I think it’s a great Idea. @CALM IN SUFFERING Don’t apologize to us brother. You are still amazing! Even if you did fall, think where you were when you started your nofap journey. For me there are two things. The main one is that porn is the perfect escape. Time has no meaning when I PMO for hours and I just feel complete nothingness. When my life was hard as a child and young man, porn helped me stay alive because while on porn I didn’t feel sad or depressed. The flip side is that when life got better it still gave me the feeling of nothingness… and I couldn’t feel any happiness, only emptiness. But that was the cause for the second thing porn gave me. After so many years with porn, the only thing that gave me “anything” was porn. I remember actively trying to think about stuff that I loved to do and only coming out with porn in my head.
day 3 last night I had another really hard conversation with my wife about porn. the fact that we talk honestly about it is already amazing. but this is totally it, my life is amazing now compare to the place I was 2 or 3 years ago. there are no more excuses for me to make. every PMO is equal to me deciding to hurt the relationship and that is how she sees it now. so this is the final push. the goal is one month clean by the end of 2022.
checking in. We all have our battles ladies and gents. Its our fight, but we don't have to fight it alone. Sure lone mindset is okay sometimes, but this war has a common enemy. Support each other, fight alongside each other, mend each others wounds, whatever it takes do not give up! May we all win this war!
@CALM IN SUFFERING I agree with what @hardcore_detox is saying here about how your strength against PMO is not lost if you get right back up and continue on the right path. Don’t binge and you will feel strong again much faster than you will if you fall completely and binge for an extended period.
Day 32 no PMO. Stayed up too late night so now I’m struggling to get going this morning. My staying up late hade nothing to do with PMO… just hanging with the guys telling stories and socializing.
11 days Low urges yestarday, was a really stressfull day, I worked almost at midnigth. Today I started work early. I have to manage the time that I'm spending to job tasks. Today I will not work out but I'm going to take a cold shower at least. Keep strong my brothers.
Checking in Fellowship Friends! 37 Days Free of PMO. I had an excellent day yesterday. I got a lot of positive feedback, mentioning that I am having a good impact on others I work with. I did what I set out to do, even though alone. My intention for today is meditation, exposure, reading and work. Stay Strong! @CALM IN SUFFERING All is not lost man, stand tall! Keep moving forward. @hardcore_detox Good question. For me porn was an escape from fear, anger, boredom and stress. It was a comfort zone. Even commitment in a relationship. Seeing a relationship as doomed to fail. I didn't have to open up and be vulnerable to porn. Realizing exactly what it is that draws us to porn is a huge step. At that point, you can actively look towards optimal habits to take care of those emotions/obstacles. Regarding stress you mentioned meditation, this is a great habit. I also would suggest you look up Wim Hof breathing method. There is a beginner video on youtube for roughly 10 minutes. I've been doing it for a little over the duration of my streak and it has been a huge game changer for fear/anxiety.
35 days Moria, the greatest Dwarven Kingdom, is before you. With a beard and a axe, you´re a Dwarf now. YASS!! An original composition about dwarves by one of my favourite singing group. I am pumped. I love this piece. My last day at the job I just started. Had to get away. This nofap is awesome. I really connected with people in the last 2 weeks. I found myself feeling terribly sad last night when I was having dinner with a friend I made here. I have never experienced that. PMO really numbed all my feelings. I guess I am becoming human again. It comes with all the feelings. Sadness included. That’s ok. I love being human again.
@hardcore_detox very nice question and already some good answers here! Porn ... ... feeds my ego because I can have sex with lots of beautiful women ... let's me take revenge at my girlfriend when she yells at me ... shows me naked humans that do stuff with their genitals and are in ectasy, while people nowadays are normally dressed, reserved and don't speak about sex. I lost my virginity very late and sex was always a taboo topic in my family ... satisfies my evolutionary deepest rooted desire without having to do anything ... numbs my feelings when I feel anxious, stressed or exausted
I think brother , reward is relative to person. Before I joined this NoFap group , First I watched p video by my bad friend's phone . After that I addicted to do PMO like using drugs.... So I thought ,Porn is the best ... But It's false......It is a silent killer..After I joined the NoFap , I thought I kill my strength , my hope.. , my ambition , my vision , finally my life by doing PMO.. Now i am trying to create my self from zero... Finally I'm honestly say, Porn didn't give me any thing .. Porn always gave to me poison that wrapped in beautiful cover.. So that I hate porn.......... Finally porn destroyed my life brother..I can't imagine how it did in past.. When I am memorizing that bad thing now , I feel so sad about my past brother . I have no words to describe it brother. PORN == EVIL
It's similar for me as well. It's a quick but powerful boost of adrenaline and dopamine that basically puts my brain in a temporary coma. What works for me is realizing that there are WAY more productive ways to de-stress. I like to take 20-30 mins to step away from whatever it is that's causing me anxiety and then read or meditate/pray.
Afternoon of the 38th day. I'm long overdue for a check-in. The wedding day went well. Understandably tiring. My new wife and I got back from a little honeymoon on Tuesday. We are both settling in to living together. Neither of us were married or lived with a long-term partner before so it's an adjustment.
