The Lord of the Rings Challenge

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by RiseToGreatness, Sep 22, 2019.

Should the Thread Title be extended?

Poll closed Jun 21, 2020.
  1. No, leave like that: "The Lord of the Rings Challenge"

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  2. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Fellowship of Nofap"

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  3. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: Rising Fellowship of Eärendil"

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  4. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Journey to Mount Doom"

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  5. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Quest of the Ring-bearer"

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  1. Congratulations Elf brother! Keep bringing the magic!!
     
  2. Gorgewalker

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    Fell again. What am I doing wrong? I need a new system for dealing with urges because my old one is clearly not working. I managed to brute force my way through tons of urges yesterday but I was so exhausted that I gave in at the first urge today. Maybe I need to figure out why I'm having so many urges in the first place and fix it?
     
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  3. Julito

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  4. Sorry for your reset Gorgewalker. You mentioned being exhausted; are you familiar with the acronym H.A.L.T.S as it relates to recovery from addictions? It's about how we're more susceptible to giving into triggers when we're in a weakened state and being aware of this can help us to be extra vigilant when we know we're vulnerable. The acronym stands for Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired, and Stressed. These altered or weakened states can take us out of our armor or the momentum of our streak we've built up. Out of all of these states, for me, being tired or the combination of being tired and stressed are the most dangerous so I understand your challenge. When I've been awake too long or when I'm just waking in the morning and maybe didn't' get enough sleep, in those moments I tend to forget how important the streak is and what I've been working so hard for all this time. It's hard to give good advice for times when you find yourself in a H.A.L.T.S. situation, I'd say to just double down your efforts, realize you're in a vulnerable state and toughen your resolve. Find something constructive to do, or try to be around people or text a friend. Remind yourself in no uncertain terms why you're abstaining. Think back to how bad you felt when you felt so trapped by PMO and how good you felt when you decided that enough is enough. Amp up those feelings so they're not just a memory but rather a new decision that you're making again right now and in each new moment. Also, try your best to avoid getting into H.A.L.T. in the first place. Make sure you're eating nutritiously every day. Do your best to get the right amount of rest each day. Take time to reach out to friends. Take some time for mindful meditation to deal with anger and stress. Plan for how to deal with the hard times before they happen and, if possible, avoid them altogether by keeping yourself as mentally and physically healthy as possible so you don't have to rely on brute force which can only take you so far when you're exhausted, stressed, etc.
     
  5. andregor

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    Check in: 120 days.
    Super motivated to get to the rank of King !
    30 days to go!
     
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    Checking in day 1
     
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  7. RiseToGreatness

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    i wanted to reply to your yesterday brother but didn´t have the time. Yes, the chaser effect is very real. We must be very alert after sex, on the next hours and days, because the urges for pmo will be very alive and kicking.
     
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  8. RiseToGreatness

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    Perfectly said brother. Forget records, we´re not here to make a record, that´s food for the ego. If we think like that soon will fall again because we´re not really rebooting, we´re just abstaining for a while.

    We´re here to overcome the addiction!! to learn to live a life free from pmo. Your mindset is perfect my brother. Let´s go!!! :)
     
  9. RiseToGreatness

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    Excellent brother. You´ve entered Moria, the fallen kingdom under the mountain. Beware for the porn forces are strong in the deep places of the world.

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  10. RiseToGreatness

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    Welcome to Middle Earth brother :). You´re already on your way to Rivendell, very good. Keep going!!!

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  11. RiseToGreatness

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    yes, in each fall we know something more about ourselfs and how the addiction works. Some relapses are inevitable and necessary. Learn my brother. Let´s go!!! :emoji_muscle:

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  12. Strugglingforyears

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    Day 116: Grey Wizard

    It is getting easier in many ways but that does not mean that it has gotten any less perilous. The cost of failure is getting higher by the day.
     
  13. RiseToGreatness

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    no, it´s really normal to have all those urges, the first 2 weeks are awful and hard because it´s when both the urges and the withdrawal effects hits really hard.

    you got to keep your mindset optimum for the reboot: remember (read) your daily motivation for the reboot, why you need to do it, challenge your excuses for pmo daily. and also follow your triggers system very tighly. i mean, it´s better don´t even think in touching eletronic devices will alone in a room, you´re dead in the water. define exactly all the situations you feel it´s likely for you to peak, and create a barrier for everyone of them. and of course, don´t stay idle roaming the house, get occupied. that´s super important.
     
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  14. RiseToGreatness

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    Excellent my brother. Long time no see :). Anyways, you´ve arrived at Henneth Annûn :), a secret refuge in Ithilien. Keep going!!!

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  15. RiseToGreatness

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    One more day of walking my brothers and sisters. Since the journey to Mount Doom will take more than a year i decided to read the 3 volumes of The Lord of The Rings ;). In the end i will probably read The Hobbit too ;). It will be fun to do the challenge while reading the story along :)

    Meanwhile, let´s welcome our new brother in the journey:

    @t8031t

    Have a great day :)
     
  16. Day 11: Urges haven’t been an issue yet. In the past, they have become an issue around the two week mark. Always causes a relapse. This time I’m prepared though. More motivated than ever!
     
  17. Unfortunately I relapsed. Back to Day 1. But daily login and seeing all you guys report is key
     
  18. Julito

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    I just relapsed
    I was having a great streak, doing things almost perfectly... But once again I screwed it all up because of alcohol. I thought that I would be fine if I drank just a little bit, but a little bit often turns into quite a bit and that's what happened to me.
    Inmediatly after drinking I felt the urges to PMO and to smoke and I sucummed to both.

    When I think of the idealized version of myself I visualize someone who doesn't get caught in inmediate gratification (alcohol, pmo, smoking and excessive internet use), and whenever I fall into any of those things I feel like I am not as as good as I could be and that I might as well engage in those other meaningless activities.

    So it is clear as water that in order to leave one of those bad habits behind I need to leave them all and, eventhough I haven't proven that yet, I know I have the willpower and strenght to prove it.

    Let's be lights in this dark world, brothers and sisters!

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