The Lord of the Rings Challenge

We´re here to help . Welcome to Middle Earth brother. Let´s do this!!!

 

don´t fall for excuses brother. Really. It´s a dead end. The mind will always find old, new and bold excuses. It´s just a matter of lying to yourself. Don´t fall for excuses or you´ll be trapped forever. Nothing is an excuse to fap. So start, NOW.

 

I can´t understand your question. Can you rephrase it?

 

One more day of walking my brothers. Heading to Moria.

Let´s welcome our new brother in this journey:

@LuckyMan

Here´s a newsletter from JK Emezi, have a nice day

"Brother,

Many of my clients can trace the root cause of their porn and masturbation addiction to their relationship with their mother. Of course- there are dozens of root causes for porn addiction. This is just one of the common ones.
With my private clients, when addressing issues with mothers, we focus on two core areas:

- Too Much intimacy ( your mother smothering you with affection, holding you too much or crossing too many of your boundaries)
- Too little intimacy( your mother did not express enough visible happiness in you as her child, to little physical touch, too little emotional connection)

Both of these can create voids in your life which you unconsciously seek to fix via pornography.

As a child, you were very sensitive to your parents emotions- it was how you gauged their reactions. Our mothers in many cases are the first examples of femininity. The way she interacted with you over time taught you the way to engage with other women.

Here are a few questions to ask yourself to gauge your deeper relationship with your mother:

• Was your mother filled with bitterness and anger?
• How did your mother fulfill her emotional needs?
• Did your mother manipulate or control you?
• Was your mother emotionally void and unable to show intimacy?
• Was your mother seductive in nature and did you observe her being seductive?

This may sound far fetched to you, but many men carry a deep resentment towards their mothers which has never been truly addressed. We have very important human needs as children. When these needs are not fulfilled in your childhood, you unconsciously look for them during your teenage and adult years.
Unfortunately, pornography is so vast and caters to so many parts of our psyche that it quickly becomes the way in which we fulfill those needs.

If you’re wondering HOW exactly this fills your needs- the answer is “It varies from person to person.” The important thing to know is that there are three simple needs:

• Connection
• Intimacy
• Love

Here are a few questions to ask yourself to determine which of these three needs you are seeking to satisfy through pornography.

-What genre of porn WAS the most arousing to you when you first started watching porn?

For instance, men who didn’t experience enough non sexual physical touch from their mothers may have had a preference to the “MILF” genre and had an attraction to older women.
Please bear in mind that your preferences have changed over the years. Many therapists and counselors who help men discover the root cause of their addiction do not understand this concept and never make progress with their clients because they were never addicts themselves.

Men who experienced rejection, shame , infidelity or deep insecurity about their sexual performance may prefer “cuckold”( watching another man have sex with your partner), or “sissy”( a man or boy who seems weak or cowardly and thus, effeminate).

Similarly, straight men who have a lot of insecurity may find themselves attracted to gay porn as a means of expressing dominance over men whom they find dominant in real life.
As yourself:

- What emotion are you seeking from porn? Is it security? Intimacy? Love? Connection?
Stay safe out there.

Your brother in this struggle,

J.K Emezi"