The Lord of the Rings Challenge

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Paul S. said:
Day 100.

I am tempted to relapse. :( Just saying. Though I try to act normal around people, psychologically I am not good. Some kind of darkness in my head. It will pass.

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100 days hardmode.
No caffeine at all.
Documentary "So, where next?" 4/many
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Congratulations, mate! Keep going, brother. These are all parts of the journey. If we don't feel these sensations, then we're not truly experiencing it.
 
Joshua09 said:
You got this bro !!
We got this
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Thanks for the encouragement, Joshua.

Well, I am sick and resting in the bed. Urges are stronger than yesterday, but I am fighting it. When u have nothing to do in times of sickness and bed rest, these forces are trying to convince it's just a single peek. Well, I have already been familiar with this experience which was the main cause of relapse last time. Let's hope all goes well and I can fight this.
 
4 days – A brave friend, Tom Bombadil, takes notice of your quest. He teaches you a rhyme to summon him if you fall into danger within his borders.

Quest Aid – Song of Bombadil :emoji_notes:

It's wonderful to see your guys here. So many high streaks! Many going far beyond what I can imagine right now. I would like to react on some posts here, but that would mean procrastinate on my task at hand (not recovey related).

@Paul S. Congrats on the 100 !!!!! Celebrate it, bro !!!!

@Baki Hanma ok, will do :)

Redemptionisrequired said:
I know that lust/crush is really just a interest in a false person, a projection of an ideal woman that isn't actually the woman I am crushing on. However, what does make it difficult is that we both have shared raw emotion which each other and we connect well. As if we've known one another for a long while.
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Great to see you, @Redemptionsisrequired! Falling in love - it can be painful, but it's a great gift and beautiful thing also. Try to be kind to yourself, allow those feelings and try, I'm sure you can transfer them in something much better than pmo.
It may be helpful for you to tell her about your feelings. Even if the conclusion for you both will be, that nothing of sexual or romantic nature will occur, it can be helpful and healing to talk about that openly. You're human, so it's prefectly normal that something like that happens. Talking about that openly could a) improve your chances with her or b) deepen your relationship with her as friends or c) help yourself to process the emotions and understand the situation better.
Good luck!

One thought on visualisations:
I realized sexual fantasies are a form of visualisation. Only that it isn't rich of details but just a way to get us off. My sexual fantasies have become a miserable copy of what p has taught me.
But we do visualize all the time, don't we? Just we don't use it and train it in the right way, usually.
I want to become better at it.
 
Day 38

Moved house, incredibly tired, been feeling anxious and irritable most of the day. I suppose I feel like I’m losing control of my days; I’ve had essays, a house move, new job preparation, and wedding planning to balance. Once I tick these off one by one I’ll start to feel more in control, and hopefully enjoy my time more!

Planning a surprise date night for my fiancée; our quality time together has dipped as of late, and I want to have an evening where we’re not thinking about all the changes going on in our lives.
 
RiseToGreatness said:
4 days – A brave friend, Tom Bombadil, takes notice of your quest. He teaches you a rhyme to summon him if you fall into danger within his borders.
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Day 4 in the books. I felt lethargic today, I didn’t end up doing much. My mood improved though towards the end of the day and as of writing this I’m now in a great mood. It’s funny how mood swings work. Stay strong Fellowship!
 
Week 10 down :emoji_postal_horn:
Is this the point where the old deeper wounds reveal themselves? Because although I feel strong, my admin (organising, tidying, punctuality, etc...) has been a disaster, like adolescent levels of a mess. Also a woman I was attracted to decided to turn me on only to push me away, sending me into a really bad spiral. Finding it difficult to stay stable but really hoping this is part of the metamorphosis to final freedom
 
Day 18
Feeling better than yesterday.

@Baki Hanma Yeah, feeling better now. Thank you!

@crazyhorse11 Congratulations on reaching week 10. Never been to that streak in my entire life but I do feel is that its all the part of the process. For me its day 18, not much change in the life. But what I believe that this abstinence is all about focusing your life energy to other productive works rather than focusing our life force to sexuality based on PMO. It's more of the physiological metamorphosis than the mere physical change. The phycological change will then open the doors to new possibilities because you can think clearly and make good decisions in life and ofc decisions are the force to run our life till the end.
Got to trust the process pall, changes will come in its way in more vivid way!!
 
wanttoliveagain said:
Welcome to the Club brother.

Yes, temptation is a real demon and if not kept in check it can cause disasters for the people like us in our recovery phase. Infact our own will power is not enough to fight against it. Some planning and engagement with the community while sharing the unbalance emotional state can greatly help in surf the chaser effect or any sort of self-doubt raised during the recovery. Together we can fight and win this. It can take some time but definately, in the end, we shall taste the sweet victory.
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When you say welcome to the club, are you also currently experiencing lust/crush brother?

Yes, preparation and self-reflection is necessary on the journey as is vigilance. I knew these things once, when I was wiser..first joining this challenge in 2021. I will return to that level one day.

I hope your urges lessen.

Paul S. said:
Day 100.

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Congrats on 100 days!


icebreaker7 said:
Great to see you, @Redemptionsisrequired! Falling in love - it can be painful, but it's a great gift and beautiful thing also. Try to be kind to yourself, allow those feelings and try, I'm sure you can transfer them in something much better than pmo.
It may be helpful for you to tell her about your feelings. Even if the conclusion for you both will be, that nothing of sexual or romantic nature will occur, it can be helpful and healing to talk about that openly. You're human, so it's prefectly normal that something like that happens. Talking about that openly could a) improve your chances with her or b) deepen your relationship with her as friends or c) help yourself to process the emotions and understand the situation better.
Good luck!

One thought on visualisations:
I realized sexual fantasies are a form of visualisation. Only that it isn't rich of details but just a way to get us off. My sexual fantasies have become a miserable copy of what p has taught me.
But we do visualize all the time, don't we? Just we don't use it and train it in the right way, usually.
I want to become better at it.
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Thank you brother! As is it is good to see you! Ah, I should mention this is not love. It's simply a crush and lust(due to porn addiction), mostly based off of a false image I have of her. I should also mention that she is in a relationship. Usually what I would do, is simply ask her out on a date and dispel the fantasy crush/false image of her that way, by getting to know her and bring my mind back to reality. Given she is dating someone, I cannot do that. However, I will say this. I've journaled about it more, the crush and the lust is starting to loosen. Thank you all the same for your kindness and tips, brother!

Kaerhal said:
Day 38

Moved house, incredibly tired, been feeling anxious and irritable most of the day. I suppose I feel like I’m losing control of my days; I’ve had essays, a house move, new job preparation, and wedding planning to balance. Once I tick these off one by one I’ll start to feel more in control, and hopefully enjoy my time more!

Planning a surprise date night for my fiancée; our quality time together has dipped as of late, and I want to have an evening where we’re not thinking about all the changes going on in our lives.
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In that busy schedule, stress, irritability and fatigue are bound to show up brother. I think this is normal. Try to find some time for yourself as well, just to process everything going on.
 
Day 39

Fully moved in now, about to spend my first night in our new home. It's been great to spend most of the day unpacking, it's really kept my mind occupied, but now that I'm home alone I must stay alert.

I've blocked all adult content on my new WiFi router, and I can't access anything via my data - I'm feeling good about not relapsing in this home!

@Redemptionisrequired thank you mate, now that I've moved in I'm already feeling better. Once my essays are in I'm going to take a day off for myself.
 
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