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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by RiseToGreatness, Sep 22, 2019.
Day 3 Begins! This Orc is keen to morph into a Uruk-Hai soon!
day 10: it's been a long time since i reached this point! One of te biggest trigger for me is alcohol. So i will keep it down to a minimum the couple weeks.
five more days to Hobbiton.
Day 3 - going strong
Day - 4 Completed Successfully
Checking In For Day 5
Day 5 today. Feeling better.
Good on you! Stay vigilant, and I hope to see you here daily, if that is realistic for you. Let us not stop reading and learning from the experienced.
I can't either, let us do this! We will become Hobbits around the same time.
Day 11 (Day 63 free of erotic video).
I no longer get tempted to watch pornography. It would destroy my chances of getting back onto good terms with my wife.
As for masturbation, I feel less temptation each day. Yesterday I did not struggle with it; there was a little temptation a couple times, but I just brushed it off, basically, and kept occupied.
Day 10 went better than the previous days. My wife only cried two or three times over my lies and behavior over the years I have known her.
I am supposed to move out, although my wife will still date me. I am finding myself deciding whether I will masturbate while in my apartment away from her for a prolonged period. I hope not to, but I doubt I will be able to hold out long at this point. I will stay porn-free, definitely, but I think I will end up masturbating, I hate to say. I hope I can change my mind before I move.
"You Shall Not Faap!" ~Gandalf, in the LotR version with the porn-ring
Day 2. I have my defenses down, a lot of phone and some stress, making it a explosive combination. Now I´m trying to make it different.
@Ciceron You have got this. Remember why you are doing it, stay free of PM, and remember, we are all behind you.
I relapsed twice again this morning. I didn't look at porn during the first one but I peeked right before the second one (chaser effect in action). I was negligent and didn't do my exercises yesterday or when I woke up today.
Strangely I don't feel as bad about these relapses versus the ones from last week. I know I need to do better and that I'm capable of doing better. This link helps me to focus on forgiving myself and moving forward: https://nofap.com/faq/does-a-relapse-erase-your-porn-addiction-recovery-progress/
Chaser effect bit me. Starting again now.
5 days! Might be a small number for some of you but I haven't been clean this long all month.
Hahaha, this is perfect. I love the enthusiasm and creativity by the creator of the thread! I'd love to join the challenge.
Unfortunately I'm starting today because of some things that happened, but i'll go in strong and serious this time. I really need a slap on the back to get back to being more serious with Nofap, 've been doing this for years now and felt all the pros and cons.
I'm proud of you guys, and I'd love to join the fellowship.
Over and out. Sincerely yours.
6 days done. Finally shredding the orc skin weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee . Unfortunatelly Saruman has caught me and turn me into a bloody Uruk-Hai. I feel stronger now, i´m still wearing the PMO ring but it´s power has weakened. Saruman doesn´t know it, but i have a good plan to get the fuck out of here. I escaped from the dungeons of Barad-Dûr, i can surely escape from Isengard.
Let´s welcome the new member of the Fellowship:
The following brothers have upgraded and reached places in Middle Earth. Congratulations!!
Myself - Uruk-Hai
@Swazzy 1 - Elf / Rivendell
@thikk - Lothlórien
A special praise to our brother @PerseveranceToday , now sober for 5 days, a personal battle for him. Congratulations bro, keep going!!
Here is JK Emezi to complete the day. Have a great one my friends!!!
"Porn destroys your humanity
You don't just suddenly wake up one day to discover, to your utmost shock, a relationship that's lacking in intimacy. A wife or long term girlfriend whom you don't feel like having sex with or who won't have sex with you is never random...especially if you have a problem with porn and masturbation.
Even if your partner knows about your addiction, it probably took years for you to disclose the true extent of your behavior to her( and you probably haven't).
During those years, the secrecy and shame of your addiction eroded your intimacy. You may assume it just "the way things go". That people get used to each other and need to "work on the relationship" to keep it going. Or that "she lost her sex drive".
YOU lost her sex drive.
YOU stopped working on the relationship.
YOU led your relationship to where it is today.
See, trust is the foundation for intimacy. A relationship cannot progress beyond a certain point without it. The more time you spend online in your virtual fantasy world, the less energy you will have in your relationship. Your shame and guilt causes you to communicate less emotionally with your partner.
Of course, she begins to sense that something is wrong . When she does, she'll do one of two things:
1) Get into conflict with you, or...
2) Step away from the relationship emotionally to protect herself
Sometimes she'll do both. There will be a short period of "drama" followed by her becoming emotionally withdrawn.
In addition to this, you may also struggle with:
- Being less present during sex
- Difficulty getting aroused
- Difficulty staying aroused
- No orgasms
You might have noticed yourself losing interest in any sort of sexual contact with your partner or due to your changed sexual tastes, formed a habit of coercing your partner into sexual acts she might not be comfortable with.
That’s why I say that porn destroys our humanity. Our relationships are one of the core things that make us truly human.
Porn destroys the love your had for your wife, warps your sexual identity, torpedoes your self esteem and leaves behind a trail of betrayal, lies, deceit and trauma where a solid relationship once stood.
Do yourself and your partner a favor and save your relationship by saving yourself from your porn addiction.
Don't end up as one of the men who reach out surprised that their wives were cheating on them for years because they chose porn over her. Or facing the prospect of losing half (or all) their net worth in a divorce simple because you couldn't stay the fuck away from porn for even 90 days.
I know this email ( and some of my other emails) can come across as pessimistic- but I see the pain and heartbreak of men every single day on my coaching practice.You NEED to know that what you see or hear happening to other men CAN HAPPEN TO YOU.
A mentor of mine once used this analogy:
Its like the fruit fly with wings watching an ant get caught in a spiders web and thinking "That's not going to happen to me. I have wings- I can fly away from the danger"-not realizing that the danger is as real a threat to it as it is to any other insect.
Your brother in this struggle,
Good evening all fellow warriors. Today makes day four.
Edit: Highway to Hell went into spoiler brackets since a fellow warned me that some fellows could be triggered by the thumbnail. Nothing bad but consider that
Edit2: I have put the soundcloud version to be safe
Hey man can you put that video into a spoiler I could see some people being triggered by that thumbnail. To get a spoiler you put spoiler in Brackets at both ends of what goes inside the spoiler with a / in front of the spoiler at the end inside its brackets.
Anyways I relapsed this morning, I didn't write in my journal and my workout sucked. I haven't made any meaningful return to trying to build a streak. I have been just stuck in this rut of blaming my circumstances when I know I shouldn't. Going through the uncertainty of hell is no excuse to not building a streak.
Of course, done already. If done any harm excuse my thoughtlessness.
Still on Day 0, at least for 5 more hours. I have not looked at more in over a week, but I have masturbated now the last two nights to porn-sub. I have been feeling the chaser effect quite intensely since my relapse Monday night. I almost masturbated twice yesterday and this afternoon after my 9PM relapse, and I am fairly much considering moving my reset marker to midnight of last night as I was fishing for about an hour from 11PM-12AM. I started to fish again a few hours ago after being triggered by something I saw online. However, I managed to pull myself from that, and now I am just in a low point. I barely got out of bed this morning due to feeling super depressed and worn out, and I hope that this is rock bottom so that I can only go up from here. I have logged out of my social media accounts, and I intend to stay that way for at least a week (though I have to check twitter on Friday briefly to vote for this poll that Konami is doing for the next Yugioh card to be created), but I don’t plan to stay on after that, only checking in when the next round of the poll is posted. I am also going to try to avoid streaming apps for the time being as I know at least with a couple of them, I can find movies/tv shows with female nudity and accessing that can lead to me masturbating to given scenes. I might still watch Hulu on occasion, because they are fairly clean in terms of what is presented, and I only watch cartoon comedies anyway as I literally have no time to watch a movie.
I need to get my life in order starting today because I have a lot of goals, and PMO is draining me.