The Lord of the Rings Challenge

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by RiseToGreatness, Sep 22, 2019.

Should the Thread Title be extended?

Poll closed Jun 21, 2020.
  1. No, leave like that: "The Lord of the Rings Challenge"

    18 vote(s)
    54.5%
  2. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Fellowship of Nofap"

    15 vote(s)
    45.5%
  3. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: Rising Fellowship of Eärendil"

    0 vote(s)
    0.0%
  4. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Journey to Mount Doom"

    5 vote(s)
    15.2%
  5. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Quest of the Ring-bearer"

    6 vote(s)
    18.2%
Multiple votes are allowed.
  1. UpInSmokeTour

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    For me it's actually the opposite. I don't have much trouble staying clean the first couple of weeks, because my libido is always very low after relapsing. After a couple of weeks the desire starts to rise and at that point the real challenge begins.
     
  2. PerseveranceToday

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    Triggered, writing here to strengthen my resolve... Also 6 days coming on 7...
     
  3. Ciceron

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    Day 11.

    I hope you enjoy this song as much I do!

     
  4. Onan the Barbarian

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    Day 1

    Guys, I fell yesterday. Failed to do the right things. I'm getting back on track today.
     
  5. PerseveranceToday

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    Ahhh... I tricked myself. Told myself I wasn't going to relapse and yet at the same time kept myself in a situation where I could easily relapse. As lovely as it would be, just "believing" isn't enough. I have to take action when I'm triggered. Back to Day 0. But hey, my average streak is essentially a week now, a big improvement on what I used to be capable of.
     
  6. Julito

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  7. Julito

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    Well, that last part is great! Focus on the progress and learn from the mistakes.
     
  8. kingkhan21

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    Day 33 as an Elf - I won’t update regularly due to issues, i will check in every 8 days
     
  9. LuckyMan

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  10. WhateverItTakes2end

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    20 days – With rain and fog you enter the old village of Bree.

    Ahh the good o' Bree
     
  11. Mathman1994

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    I don’t think anyone thinks this is a joke. I don’t know your story, but you seem to have a lot of self-loathing in your words. Do some people not try very hard? Maybe, but it isn’t on you to judge. Shame is a self propagating monster. The moment you give into it, is the moment you lose and then you decide you have nothing to live for as you are irredeemably bad, and then you find yourself looking at porn every night, fapping away until morning because ultimately you are a bad person. At least, that is what shame says. We support each other in this difficult addiction giving words of encouragement and not spitting on people who are down. Now I can clearly see that you are in pain and you are obviously externalizing, but I say to you that you don’t need to do that here. You are welcome and you are supported. You will probably fall down again and again like we all do, and you cannot let the shame from that get to you. You are a good person, and though you are a porn addict, you are not defined by it. Alex Rhodes, the founder of NoFap, is a huge proponent of not feeling ashamed about your situation as it is self-defeating. And even if you hate yourself does not mean you have to make others hate themselves. I used to hate myself more than anything, and shame was a direct cause of that. But once I accepted my place as a porn addict, and I rejected the shame around it, I found I started to live a fuller life despite the addiction. You can have that too, but you need to stop your antagonism towards my fellow Fapstronauts and of course toward yourself.

    I don’t expect you to like what I am saying, but your words are incredibly unhealthy for this community, and I ask for you to breath and let us support you. It is the only way any of us will beat this. I may look like I am on day 5 (mainly because I am), but I am 6 months into recovery since I made the decision that I had a serious problem and that I needed the people here’s help. I have gone a whole month no PMO and I have made it a week here, two weeks there, with some binges in between. I feel those moments of shame when I binge, but I realize that if I wallow in that shame, I will never be more than just a porn addict. So I work at it and stumble. I work at it and I relapse, just like everyone here. Heck, the creator of this challenge made in almost 150 days clean, but then he relapsed, and I believe that it is shame that has kept him down since his long streak. So don’t condemn u for relapsing every few days, and don’t condemn us for supporting each other in this trial in life, it is the only way we will get through this. I have full faith that all of the people that are active in this challenge will get clean eventually, but we don’t need any newbies coming in here to condemn our camaraderie. And I believe that despite your tough talk that you are at your whits end else you would not have signed up for NoFap last Saturday. So come, sit down, join us on this journey, because I know that you will find what you are looking for if you just be patient, be supportive, and be receptive of support.

    And lastly, please, please, please, post only about your struggles and not about how everyone is a failure. Because that is not nice, and I would suspect is just a deflection.

    Best,
    Mathman1994
     
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  12. Mathman1994

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    Day 5

    I will be an Urak-Hai this time tomorrow. I made it about a week and a half this last time and to be host, which I did reset until after 14 days, I had edge from last Thursday through last Sunday, before I finally masturbated. And to be honest, that masturbation was what I needed to remotivate myself. After I masturbated, I was able to move forward with a clear mind and by not focusing so much on my addiction, and instead more on my goals, I am finding this streak to be a lot more productive and relaxed.

    Goodnight all.
    Best,
    Mathman1994
     
  13. Teutão

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    Calm @Mathman1994 , don't give him what he what... I know how angry you are, I also don't like arrogance. But, if there is something I learned from bullies is to not react to then and they will go away. In these moments I always found helpful to remind the stoic words "Amor Fatis". @Mathman1994 , is more honorable the man who fought the dragon and was defeated then the one who did not fought at all but proclaim to heaven and Earth his non-existent courage.
     
  14. Teutão

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  15. Teutão

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    Day 23. Not a very productive day, but did not relapse.
     
  16. Gallade_Templar

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    @RiseToGreatness Hahaha, I love this challenge! I'm very new here, but The Silmarillion is my favorite book of all time, so I have a huge love for LotR as well. I'm in!
     
  17. Fighter_4_life

    Fighter_4_life Fapstronaut

    Day 18
    I am proud...
    Stability Day by day. Although I was feeling overwhelmed from yesterday...
    Will fade away with time hopefully..
    Emotionally very stable and focusing on making myself priority..
    Less Overthinking..
    Where I am now I feel good
    Still way to go...
    Slacking In productivity department


    Chill everyone on this thread @WarriorKing1 @Mathman1994 @Teotau...
    You are all brothers
     
  18. Heisenberg07yo

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  19. Julito

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    If you are so much better than us, maybe this thread is not your place. Don't waste your time with weak minded people like us
     

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