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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by RiseToGreatness, Sep 22, 2019.
I think I need to write it here
The last months (actually the last years) were very weird from me. As I graduated from school I went to an university and I think I regret it. I know its normal at the beginning that you cant handle the first topics. But I cant imagine to work in this education (if I graduate...)
The last times I didnt regret the relapses. With those stressful times with online class and without gym (we got a light quarantine where you can go further shopping but closed the gyms because of the hIgH rIsKs On InFeCtIoNs) it is very hard for me to live that way.
Hi @RiseToGreatness ,I've decided to do a full reset and so will be resetting my counter after 199 days. Too many fishing times (thumbnails, reading about different sites, actually clicking on some sites but not playing their videos, going on dating sites, etc...) on avg about once a month, keeping the lust alive - so although I have not been technically watching videos I have been sniffing around enough, and I think I just need to restart everything now.
No P - Day 1
No M - Day 1
No O - Day 1
Still feeling stressed about different things. Getting up in the morning is not great.
Happy that I didn't relapse though. Almost close to being a hobbit again <3
It's good to see you all fighting!
Just checking in today.
91 days – After carefully studying the Gate you decide is too dangerous to charge it full front. The fallen brother Gollum reveals there´s a secret entrance to Mordor. With a sigh of relief you turn south. Your path now follows the borders of Ephel Dúath, the Mountains of Shadow.
My brain wants to fantasize but I won' let it.
Today is mine 23 birthday and I'm on mine 23 day here!
Day 30, The Elven town of Rivendell greets my arrival. Yeaah I'm an Elf now , I cannot give up. We can do this brothers and sisters.¡¡¡ God Bless you all
@crazyhorse11 Man, that is some very deep reflection. You have taken full responsibility for your actions. A huge step! At this point the counter is just icing on the cake for you. Very good,, my friend!
Day 84. Checking in.
Love and peace!
Congrats, and happy birthday Bro¡¡.
Day 3 somehow
Feeling Sadness, longing and just dissapointed with myself
no bro, not at all. lust is lust, but lust does not mean only porn. any kind of lust can lead to masturbation.
about your question, if you didn´t watch porn then naturally i will say keep going the no porn counter.
your real problem is this: "Understand that lust is the problem and that is what I need to hit but today was a perfect storm, and because I flirted with fishing over the last 2 weeks 2-3 times, it pushed me over the edge."
with the fishing you put yourself in a position to collapse when a perfect storm comes, like a house built on sand. that´s why we need to keep our strategy always top notch, in good days and bad days. that way when a bad day comes we will endure the storm.
One more day brave Fellowship!!
Let´s welcome our new member:
The following brothers have upgraded and reach places in Middle Earth. Congratulations!!!
@Ciceron - Bree / Eriador
@MyGodandMyAll27 - Elf / Rivendell
A huge wave of support to our brothers @Teutão , @sunn , @I Am Somebody and our sister @liona which are facing hard times now. Courage my friends, we´re with you!!!!
Happy birthday to our brother @Toni7 !! 23 years and 23 days clean eheheh, now that´s a good coincidence
Have a great day mighty Fellowship!!! Here´s JK Emezi to boost the day
"How´s your anxiety?"
"So, J.K...how’s your anxiety?"
I was at the doctor and, given my recent history, I knew that question was coming.
Especially since my life has been so busy lately, it’s only natural to think some anxiety was bound to creep in. I answered honestly and said - manageable when I remember to just breathe and stay mindful.
Now, I know it’s not that simple, but it’s actually what I tell myself when anxiety creeps in rather than doing what I did in the past which was masturbate to relieve it.
Stop and just breathe.
Porn never made the anxiety go away. In fact, it didn’t stop anything. It just made the anxiety fester awhile longer - undetected under the surface. So, how do I stop and deal with anxiety now?
1) Acknowledge It
Sometimes, it’s as easy as just telling myself that “it’s just anxiety”. It’s normal, everyone deals with it, and it will pass. Rather than trying to fix it or make it go away, I just let myself feel it. Crazy! But it works!
2) What’s the root?
Other times, I stop and try to figure out where my anxiety is stemming from. Rarely does it come from what I’m actually anxious about. That would be too easy. Instead, it’s something I’m avoiding dealing with that is manifesting somewhere else. You can avoid the sink full of dirty dishes but eventually the smell starts to seep into the other room. Dealing with the root leads to the resolution.
3) What do I need?
Often times my anxiety is due to a physical need. My honest answer to my doctor was that as long as I’m taking care of my needs (getting enough sleep, eating right and exercising), my anxiety doesn’t bother me. But if I’m lacking on satisfying my physical needs, EVERYTHING causes me anxiety.
4) Just Breathe
When all else fails, I stop and just breathe. I take the time to stop, meditate, and allow the thoughts to float in and out. The clarity that comes from that was never found at the bottom of the wine bottle.
Anxiety might not be the most pleasant feeling, but it IS a normal feeling. Once I quit trying to avoid it, dealing with it and caring for myself became much easier.
Have a wonderful week.
Your brother in this struggle,
J.K "just breathe" Emezi
Day 13 Check in!
2 days left to be a Hobbit!
Always keep going brothers and sisters!
Thank you brother
Day 5 - slowly starting to transform into an uruk
Good, stay active far from triggers and temptations. You can do it!
If I read well, do you want to be a university professor but you don´t like the actual university? In my experience I could known some that are really good, who loves his profession, and others that are the oppositte. Obviously I got closer to the firsts and away from the seconds. And in them you could find a great example of how you can be. Besides, if it´s the case, I recommend you this book: Escape from Scepticism: Liberal Education as if Truth Mattered (Christopher Derrick, disciple of C. S. Lewis). And find out about John Senior (and his Comprehensive Training Program).
Regardless from the previous, if the lack of exercise is affecting you, you could try Calisthenics, that do not require a gym, you can do it at home or at the park. And now, that the online classes have broken into your life, you could compensate the excess of PC and mobile,
reducing the time you give them a personal use, going out for a walk, reading more books ... but doing things that do not involve being in front of a screen. Force yourself to be at least an hour before bed reading and without using electronic devices - not even the TV.
Happy birthday! From here to the next year without PMO.
Congrats! Have a good time without PMO in Imladris.