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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by RiseToGreatness, Sep 22, 2019.
Day 6 complete! Today I went on a mini-retreat at my church to help me further discern my priestly vocation, so while I didn't have time for exercise, my head was in a pretty good place all day. These past 24 hours have probably had the fewest urges of any day since I started getting serious about this and joined NoFap 2 months ago.
Our Lady of Guadalupe, Patroness of the Americas, pray for us!
Day 4 done.
The dreams make a comeback after a long time. Although highly random and unrelated to PMO, first instance after many days. The ring is very cunning but this time I am prepared. Check in
Day 4 done. No urges today.
This gave me so much motivation thank you @crazyhorse11
Checking in for day 9
Day 6. Still grieving the loss of my girlfriend. Fortunately, the grief has zapped some of my sexual energy. Getting over this relationship is going to be much harder than I thought
Thank u @bmcmanansmith - your real struggles with P, and those of everyone on this forum, are more motivational than any words - the cutting edge of life, where demon meets angel in the battle for our body, mind and soul
Sorry to hear for this brother - this might help:
5 Days Done
Thank you brother
Day 54. I feel good, a lot of things to do but everything fine
beautiful painting and reflection. thank you brother
We´re with you bro . One day at a time.
One more day mighty Alliance. Finally after 4 days of dreadful backlash, my energy and motivation is starting to rise . Feeling better today, althought still nervous.
The following brother has reach a place in Middle Earth. Congratulations!!! also no relapses today among the Fellowship so everybody is congratulated!!!
@MyGodandMyAll27 - Great Hall of Moria
Here´s a powerful post and tips from our brother JK Emezi . Have a great day Fellowship!!!
This week I’ll be sharing three HIGH LEVEL concepts which I’ve never shared outside of 1-on1- coaching.
If you pay attention to these, it could make ALL the difference in your reboot.
Today, I’m going to show you how to make sure your First Year of rebooting is painless, frustration-free experience.
The first concept is:
Regulation & Maintenance
When you learn how to properly implement self care and regulate your mindset, your feeling of control over you reboot will improve massively.
Regulation involves accepting two important facts:
- You are a man who has lost control of his sexual behavior. This means you CANNOT go through life with the same level of self care that a “regular” man applies to himself.
- You reboot in a “macro” way by going through the reboot system, but you make progress in a “micro” way by short daily or weekly periods of reflection on your progress. This means that if you are not scheduling time for reviewing your progress, you will literally STOP the rewiring process by default.
I used to rush through reading old journal entries and filling out my reboot worksheets once or twice a week because I felt it was an obligation and I was wasting time.
I would also get super stressed out over the books I wanted to read related to my reboot because I only wanted stuff which would make a huge impact on my recovery NOW.
My reboot was like my life- I wanted to be “productive”.
If I didn’t get some sort of dopamine hit from accomplishing something immediately, I didn’t feel happy. You can be very productive, but not effective.
Maintenance involves accepting the reality that you will NEVER arrive at an ideal point in your reboot.
This means that RIGHT NOW, you think that not watching pornography ever again will solve your sexual behavior problem, when in reality it is a holistic process that will naturally evolve into growth in every area of your life.
No one rewires their brain in two years with the Porn Reboot System, then says “Yeah, f**k it, I’m doing to live a reckless, carefree life now that I’m in control of my sexual behavior.”
You will constantly and naturally keep adjusting , growing, adjusting and growing- for the rest of your life.
That’s good thing. If it terrifies you or sounds like too much work, then our system is not for you.
As I’ve said in the past- you can’t reboot using our system and remain average.
How to Regulate & Maintain during your First Year of Rebooting
1) Review your progress weekly.
2) Have a morning routine/ recovery time each day
3) Review each month compiling mistakes made and lessons learned.
4) Rate your overall happiness for the month
5) Weekly review of old exercises, journals, etc to make sure you are close to your Reboot Baseline™
Your “baseline” is the mental and emotional state you need to maintain to NOT slip or relapse. Most men swing WIDELY on both ends as well as up and own on their baseline.
In the Porn Reboot System, a good accountability partner will be able to tell when you are off your baseline and eventually, you will be able to tell (within minutes) that you are straying from it.
This makes your reboot PREDICTIVE. When you gain the skill of prediction, control becomes possible.
In a few days, I'll be sharing the next concepts with you.
Your brother in this struggle,
J.K “You Better Regulate" Emezi