The Lord of the Rings Challenge

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by RiseToGreatness, Sep 22, 2019.

Should the Thread Title be extended?

Poll closed Jun 21, 2020.
  1. No, leave like that: "The Lord of the Rings Challenge"

    18 vote(s)
    54.5%
  2. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Fellowship of Nofap"

    15 vote(s)
    45.5%
  3. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: Rising Fellowship of Eärendil"

    0 vote(s)
    0.0%
  4. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Journey to Mount Doom"

    5 vote(s)
    15.2%
  5. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Quest of the Ring-bearer"

    6 vote(s)
    18.2%
Multiple votes are allowed.
  1. Slider8

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    ...and ...
    in order to progress you have to analyze what happened ,what circumstances led to the relapse and out of them create a plan to overcome the triggers and urges and evil thoughts when they arise in the future.
    You definitely got perseverance and not a quitter all you need is to carefully take lessons from your own relapses and study some tested rebooting materials everyday !
    Maybe it was your last relapse, don't you think so ? Cheer up and believe yourself already PMO free ! :)
     
  2. Well ... Time to fix my shit!
    Day 0
     
  3. belio123

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  4. americanbison

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    Checking in. Long-ish ramble. Take it with a grain of salt.

    I had a bit of a breakthrough in helping myself respond healthily to fantasy. I'd been using a method similar to what I've learned about meditation and BRACE, where I relax my body, breathe, and let the thoughts go. The problem was that my rationalizations for fantasy are much stronger than my rationalizations for PMO, so I'd just end up returning to and building up the same fantasy over a day or two, which would just make it more difficult to ignore. But, I've realized that just like dreams, fantasies are:
    A: inherently unrealistic -- They involve other people, physical action, communication, and a lot of other things that are completely absent from whatever is revolving in my head.
    B: based from feeling instead of causing it -- Because they don't actually reflect any reality, the only thing grounding a fantasy is usually some feeling or emotion. The fantasy will seem to be causing a feeling, but the feeling always came first.
    C: never surface-level -- Like a dream, there are always underlying motivations for fantasy that manifest themselves abstractly. They're an automatic, self-sustaining response loop that my brain can fall into.

    Because of the dreamlike nature of fantasy, I think I can practice both responding to them in the moment like waking up from a dream, saying, "so my brain just did that, huh. Does it mean anything to me for real?" If so, I can redirect to address the original feeling. If not, I can let it go and focus on freedom in the present moment.
     
  5. RiseToGreatness

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    :D :D :D
     
  6. RiseToGreatness

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    Hang in there brother, don´t punish yourself. see where you acted wrong, what boundaries did you cross and improve your strategy. Onward!! :)
     
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  8. RiseToGreatness

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    Check in Fellowship :)

    The following brothers have upgraded and reach places in Middle Earth. You´re the man!!!! ;)

    @bmcmanansmith @Onan the Barbarian - Uruk-Hai
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    @UpInSmokeTour - Elf / Rivendell
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    @I will break free - Pass of Caradhras / Misty Mountains
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    Checking out Fellowship :D. Have a great day full of love and peace!!! :)

    Let´s go to easy_peasy cultivation ;)


    "Chapter 2 The Easy Method

    This book’s objective is directing you into a new frame of mind. In contrast to the usual method of stopping – whereby you start off with the feeling of climbing Mount Everest and spend the next few weeks craving and feeling deprived – you start right away with a feeling of elation, as if cured of a terrible disease. From then on, the further you go through life, the more you will look at this period of time and wonder how you ever used any porn in the first place. You will look at other porn users with pity, as opposed to envy.

    Provided that you’re not someone who had never become addicted (reading for your significant other) or had quit (or is in the fasting days of a “porn diet”), it’s essential to keep using until you have finished the book completely. This may appear to be a contradiction, and this instruction to continue masturbating to porn causes more objection than any other, but as you read further your desire to use porn will gradually be reduced. Take this instruction seriously: Attempting to quit early will not benefit you.

    Many don’t finish the book because they feel they have to give something up, some even deliberately only reading one line per day in order to postpone the evil event. Look at it this way, what have you got to lose? If you don’t stop at the end of the book, you’re no worse off than you are now. It’s by definition a Pascal’s Wager, a bet taken where you have nothing to lose and high chances of large gains.

    Incidentally, if you haven’t watched porn for a few days or weeks, but aren’t sure whether you’re a porn user, ex-user, or a non-user, then don’t use porn to masturbate whilst reading. In fact, you’re already a non-user, but we have to let your brain catch up with your body. By the end of the book, you’ll be a happy non-user. Easy_Peasy is the complete opposite of the normal method, where one lists the considerable disadvantages of porn and says:

    “If only I can go long enough without porn, eventually the desire will go and I can enjoy life again, free of slavery.”

    This is the logical way to go about it, with thousands stopping every day using this method. However, it’s very difficult to succeed for the following reasons:

    Stopping PMO isn’t the real problem. Every time you finish your session, you’ve stopped using it. You may have powerful reasons on the first day of your once-in-four porn diet to say “I don’t want to use porn, or even masturbate any more.” All users do, and their reasons are more powerful than you can possibly imagine. The real problem is day two, ten, or ten-thousand where in a weak moment you’ll have ‘just one peek’, want another, and suddenly you’re an addict again.

    Awareness of the health risks generates more fear, making it more difficult to stop. Tell a user it’s destroying their virility and the first thing they’ll do is reach for something to surge their dopamine: a cigarette, alcohol, or even firing up the browser to search for porn.

    All reasons for stopping actually make it harder. This is due to two reasons. First, we’re continually being forced to give up our ’little friend’ or some prop, vice, or pleasure (whichever way the user perceives it). Second, they create a “blind”. We do not masturbate for the reasons we should stop. The real question is, why do we want or need to do it?

    With Easy_Peasy, we (initially) forget the reasons we’d like to stop, face the porn problem and ask ourselves the following questions:

    1. What is porn doing for me?

    2. Am I actually enjoying it?

    3. Do I really need to go through life sabotaging my mind and body?
    The beautiful truth is that all porn does absolutely nothing for you whatsoever. Let me make it quite clear, it’s not that the disadvantages of being a user outweigh the advantages, it’s that there are zero advantages to looking at pornography.

    Most users find it necessary to rationalise why they use porn, but the reasons they come up with are all fallacies and illusions.

    First, we’ll remove these fallacies and illusions. In fact, you’ll soon realise there is nothing to give up. Not only that, but there are marvellous, positive gains from being a non-PMOer, with well-being and happiness only two of these gains. Once illusions that life will never be quite as enjoyable without porn is removed – realising that not only is life just as enjoyable without it but infinitely more so – and once feelings of being deprived or missing out are eradicated, we’ll go back to reconsider increased well-being and happiness—and the dozens of other reasons for quitting porn. These realisations will become positive additional aids to help you achieve what you really desire: enjoying your life free from the slavery of porn addiction!"
     
  9. lonercub

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  10. Toni7

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    I will. Actually I have to!
     
  11. Day 266. My fiancee got LOTR: War of the North the other day and I've been playing that with her. Pretty fun. Anyone have any similar game recommendations?
     
  12. Back to 2 days clean. A little tempted to act out again but I know the benefits of the long term if I don't and that's what I prefer. Those benefits over a short dopamine rush.
    Realized I was wasting way too much time on Simcity mobile game and deleted it. All for the better, right?!
     
  13. C12345

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    Starting back after a long relapse. Day 1 as an orc
     
  14. Kowe

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  15. Retentionistheway

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    I need help!

    Anxiousness, insecurity, downright vulnerable and weak. This is my state, and i feel like i've been masturbating 10 times a day, despite abstained for 2 months now. I'm not a porn addict, neither do I indulge in pmo. What is going on with me guys? Shouldn't I be feeling confident and secure when I doing this discipline. I feel the absolute opposite. My insecurity is through the roof during social situations. My inner state is of fear and insecurity, so much that I nearly jumped out my skin when a dog barked at me while on my way to work. This is the exact scene around 119 days that I woke up on 119th day and decided it was not worth it. It's heartbreaking guys. What do I do? If I don't get an answer to this I'm going to conciously relapse and end my streak and probably give up on nofap forever.
     
  16. bmcmanansmith

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  17. _Star_Platinum

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    Hey group. Checking on day 2 as an orc. We will climb the ranks together on this journey! Godspeed to all!
     
  18. Slider8

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    Hold on brother we are with you.I think that state is called returning symptoms and it is kind of inevitable step of recovery so everyone will go through something similar sooner or later. You have to persevere through this, it's similar to the first day of fasting when hunger burns you from inside you are weak and it's hard to breathe and the only way to get through is believe in God, believe that you do that not just for yourself but for us all as well. Keep your faith strong and never give up this will pass and you will become stronger person capable to show others way through this state. Maybe it will be better if you could take a few days of work to chill at home untill this state has passed? Have some long walk in the fresh air, listen to calming music, cook yourself a good-hearty meal, read some good book ! You gonna be ok and back on the wagon in no time at all!
     
  19. LuckyMan

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    "it’s essential to keep using until you have finished the book completely. This may appear to be a contradiction, and this instruction to continue masturbating to porn causes more objection than any other, but as you read further your desire to use porn will gradually be reduced."

    What??? Keep using? Ummm, no thanks. I don't think this method will work for me. I am struggling with getting my head straight as it is, going back to day 0 sounds like a really bad idea.
     

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