The Lord of the Rings Challenge

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by RiseToGreatness, Sep 22, 2019.

Should the Thread Title be extended?

Poll closed Jun 21, 2020.
  1. No, leave like that: "The Lord of the Rings Challenge"

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  2. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Fellowship of Nofap"

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  3. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: Rising Fellowship of Eärendil"

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  4. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Journey to Mount Doom"

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  5. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Quest of the Ring-bearer"

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  1. Day 25:
    @RiseToGreatness change me from Grey wizard to hobbit.

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    I miss my friend,do u guys know some tricks to forget easily.
     
  2. 12ove

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  3. Day 1 complete!

    @rotten_tomato That was hilarious. I spent a while clicking through the trail watching several of those videos. It reminds me of the voice from the Berd series.

    @crazyhorse11 Thank you. There's inspiration going all around. It helps to keep us humble! We should remember that after thousands of years of warfare against Melkor, even the Valar were becoming weary and disheartened. Then Tulkas the Strong appeared to help them; his anger was terrible but swift in passing, and his laughter in battle was like a mighty wind. Putting on a brave face is one thing that will help all of us get past this!
     
  4. Day 1 brothers and sisters!

    I worth more!!

    Check in!
     
  5. LuckyMan

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    Hi Fellowship. Found a useful post from a brother on nofap Reddit. Sharing the text:
    “Almost 50 days. Here is some advice from me

    Temporary fixes to an urge / temptation: cold shower, exercise, meditation, ect (these will only help in the short term and you can forget to do them if you have been taken over by your urges.

    First month is going to be tough but it will get easier after that. Have a strong reason why you want to do nofap. (before I never took this seriously but it is one of the most important things to consider when you do nofap).

    best tip: have support/accountability, also knowing the 3 stages of a relapse (emotional, mental, physical). Although a mental and emotional relapse don't count as an actual relapse they are red flags you are heading towards a relapse. The earlier you notice these the more you can do to prevent relapse.

    emotional relapse (stage 1): In an emotional relapse, you're not thinking about relapsing. But your emotions and behaviours are setting you up for a possible relapse in the future.

    Signs of an emotional relapse:

    * Anxiety
    * Intolerance
    * Anger
    * Defensiveness
    * Mood Swings
    * Isolation
    * Poor self-care

    mental relapse (stage 2): In a mental relapse there's a war going on in your mind. Part of you wants to relapse, but part of you doesn't. In the early phase of a mental relapse you're just idly thinking about relapsing. But in the later phase, you're definitely thinking about relapsing.

    Signs of a mental relapse:

    * Thinking about people, places, and things that cause you fap.
    * Glamorizing about the times you would fap
    * Fantasizing about fapping
    * Thinking about relapsing
    * Lying

    Physical relapse (final stage): relapse

    signs of a physical relapse: (depends on which nofap mode you're doing)

    * Fapping
    * doing PMO

    these are to help you know the signs of a relapse and to help you prevent yourself from relapsing.

    also, if you do relapse think of it as a chance to improve and learn from your mistakes. I was stuck on 3-4 day streaks for months before I finally started learning what I was doing wrong. Relapses are part of the process

    one more thing: support is probably the biggest factor in my nofap success so far.”
     
  6. LuckyMan

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    So sorry for your loss, @Mr. Sinister. Our pets are such a support through life. There is a nice story called over the rainbow bridge about pets that have died. I read it when my cat died and it was comforting. https://www.rainbowsbridge.com/poem.htm
     
  7. OttarrTheVendelCrow

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    Day 45. Today marks the halfway point to 90 days and I am feeling positive. My libido is back and I am definitely feeling cravings but so far I have been able to manage and not act on them. I'm hoping that I will experience another flatline as I still have 45 days left of my no PMO reset. Last night I had a vivid dream about sex with a girl that I saw at the gym. It will be interesting to see if there is a chaser effect due to this dream. I am taking these feelings and dreams as signs that my brain is rewiring. I am going to undue the knots that porn has tied in my brain once and for all, regardless of how painful it is.
     
  8. Verissimus

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    Day 15 and the beginning of my journey as a Hobbit.
     
  9. Slider8

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    There is a good way to forget easily-It's stop being your miserable little I,and thinking about me,me,me and instead see yourself as an inseparable part of God, of community you live in ,of this challenge brotherhood and do something for the their benefit in the way you got talented by the Creator.
     
  10. Slider8

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    I tell you about benefits that appeared after day 65 for me - It's courage to follow through with your decisions, to speak out your mind, without cowardly overthinking the consequences of what you want to say,no matter the audience 1 or 1000s, it's courage to go to and try out the very limits of your perceived abilities.
     
  11. Slider8

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    Ónen i-Estel Edain,Ú-chebin estel anim.
    Cast aside weak-lonely-sinners who indulge in self-defeating behaviors, Become the sons of God you were born to be, the true part of the One.
     
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  12. aeburbt

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    Day 4! Feel like I may be tested today, but I still have confidence
     
  13. jaberwaki

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  14. UpInSmokeTour

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    Day 34 in progress!
    Had a wet dream last night and it felt so realistic. It felt like I wasn't even dreaming, like I was awake. Everything happened really fast.
    Also had a wet dream a couple of days ago. I see this as a good sign though. It's a sign that my brain is rewiring.

    Unfortunately, someone send me an explicit picture today. It wasn't anything too crazy, but I just don't want anything of that in my life, especially not now! Fortunately, it didn't make me act out or do anything that I don't want to do, so I definitely do not see this as a relapse or a reset. I am rather proud that I acted the right way.
    I just wanted to share this with you so I could get it off my chest and to avoid relapsing in a couple hours or days.

    Keep strong everyone! The opportunities to PMO are just a couple clicks away, but you and I know that we are stronger than our urges and can keep clean if we really want to!
     
    Last edited: Jan 22, 2021
  15. RiseToGreatness

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    sure bro, no problem. but from this day on, you got to tell when you reach a landmark in the map of Middle Earth, because without the respective counter, i can´t tell.

    your criteria are your own, but you didn´t P or M so, whatever they are, i´m sure they will benefit you :)
     
  16. RiseToGreatness

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    my feelings bro
     
  17. RiseToGreatness

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    good move bro. Congratulations!!! Keep going!!! :)
     
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  18. RiseToGreatness

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    Check in Fellowship :)

    Brain fog is hitting me hard on these last days, as it usually does on my first weeks of reboot.

    However today i didn´t do anything about it, and i found that the cloudiness that empairs mental functioning, can be delt with. i mean, there´s dizziness allright, but it´s not limitating of the regular behaviour. is the belief that i´m under performing that is very crippling. i can still function on some level, not the clever level, but on some level and that it´s perfectly ok.

    so that ideia "oh my God, i can´t feel like a mental retard", so what? we can´t have super days all the time and sometimes just allow ourselfs to be as we are, even if we feel retarded, is a huge relief from the constant struggle of "becoming something".

    today i had to do a hard task on my work and i was scared because of brain fog "man, i´m gonna look like a fool", but i went on anyway and i pull it through :). it was not "the best me", "the clever me", "the happy me", "the nice me", "the fast me", but it was "me as it was", and it was perfectably ok.

    our mind is very strong and it´s the belief that "i feel like shit and i can´t function properly", that causes true limitation and suffering. yes we can function!!! so fuck you brain fog, i´m not scared of you.

    Let´s welcome the new member of the Companion:

    @aeburbt

    The following brothers have upgraded and reach places in Middle Earth. Congratulations!!! ;)

    @rotten_tomato @Cartographer - Uruk-Hai
    @Swazzy 1 - Amon Sûl / Eriador
    @Verissimus - Hobbit / Hobbiton

    A round of applause to our brother @BrotherHal for reaching a personal record in 3 years. Congratulations bro!!! The PMO ring is heavy but we will put it on it´s place ;)

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    Checking out my brothers and sisters :). Have a great day!!!! Love you all.

    Easy_peasy


    "4.2 The Annoying Alarm

    You know that feeling when a neighbour’s home alarm has been ringing all day – or some other minor persistent aggravation – then the noise suddenly stops and marvellous feelings of peace and tranquility wash over you? This isn’t really peace, but the ending of an aggravation. Before starting the next session our bodies are complete, but then we begin forcing our brains to pump dopamine and when we’re done and it begins to leave, we suffer withdrawal pangs. These aren’t physical pain, merely an empty feeling. We aren’t even aware it exists but it’s like a dripping tap inside our bodies.

    Our rational minds don’t understand it, but they don’t need to. All we know is that we want porn and when we masturbate the craving goes. However, the satisfaction is fleeting because in order to relieve the craving more porn is required. As soon as you orgasm, the craving starts again and the trap continues to hold you. A feedback loop, unless you break it!

    The porn trap is similar to wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure of taking them off. There are three primary reasons why users can’t see it this way.

    1. From birth, we’ve been subjected to massive amounts of brainwashing telling us internet porn is simply another modern development that replaced the print version of porn. This fallacy is packaged with the truth that masturbation isn’t harmful, so why shouldn’t we believe them?

    2. Because physical dopamine withdrawal involves no actual pain, merely an empty insecure feeling inseparable from hunger and normal stress, this feeling manifests into a porn session as those are the very times we tend to seek internet porn. We tend to regard this feeling as normal.

    3. However, the primary reason users fail to see internet porn in it’s true light is due to it working back to front. It’s when you’re not consuming it that you suffer the empty feeling. Because the process of getting hooked is incredibly subtle and gradual in the early days, the empty feeling is regarded as normal and so isn’t blamed on the previous session. The moment the browser is fired up and you begin your session, you get an immediate boost and become less nervous or more relaxed, so internet porn gets the credit.
    This ’back to front’ reverse process makes all drugs difficult to kick. Imagine the state of panic of a heroin addict without any heroin; now picture the utter joy of when they can finally plunge a needle into their vein. Non-heroin addicts don’t suffer that panicked feeling.

    The heroin doesn’t relieve the feeling, it causes it. Similarly, non-users don’t suffer empty feelings of needing internet porn, or panic when they’re offline. Non-users can’t understand how users possibly obtain pleasure from two dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. Eventually, users can’t understand either.

    We talk about internet porn being relaxing or satisfying, but how can you be satisfied unless you were dissatisfied in the first place? A non-user doesn’t suffer from this unsatisfied state, completely relaxed after a no-sex date, while the user isn’t until they’ve satisfied their ’little monster’."
     
    Last edited: Jan 22, 2021
  19. americanbison

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    Checking in. Had to reset my counter, so I'm an Orc again. I'm proud of the progress I'd made in the last month with this group. I've been analyzing my relapse and will come back with more information later. Am running into a time crunch right now and want to give you guys well-worded reflection.
     

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