The Lord of the Rings Challenge

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by RiseToGreatness, Sep 22, 2019.

Should the Thread Title be extended?

Poll closed Jun 21, 2020.
  1. No, leave like that: "The Lord of the Rings Challenge"

    18 vote(s)
    54.5%
  2. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Fellowship of Nofap"

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    45.5%
  3. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: Rising Fellowship of Eärendil"

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  4. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Journey to Mount Doom"

    5 vote(s)
    15.2%
  5. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Quest of the Ring-bearer"

    6 vote(s)
    18.2%
Multiple votes are allowed.
  1. americanbison

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  2. RiseToGreatness

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    I too had that issue before brother. but it´s an blank fear. No need to worries, the hardest period, which is the first 2 weeks, has been surpassed. so the next periods are easier. what stumbles most rebooters, and me too, is that people stop engaging in their systems. They think "i got this", they slack on their strategy, and when they realize it... their hand is going downwards...

    so don´t worry about the future bro. life will only get better and better :). you just need to stick to your strategy, no matter what.
     
  3. orionpax42

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    I slipped up last night. I was trying to switch out a hard drive on one of my computers and it wasn't working which made me frustrated. I started looking at model accounts on Instagram and Twitter and then started looking at porn sites for about 3 hours. I was dangerously close to having a full relapse binge session but held off from MO. Most of the stuff I saw while I was scrolling didn't do anything for me, even scenes that I watched frequently in the past. I had a headache immediately after peeking and then went to bed. While I'm counting this instance as a slip-up, this is by far the worst slip-up/peek I've ever had.

    That being said, I'm currently on a 23 day streak free from orgasm. I accomplished a few goals this past week despite the slip-up. I organized my room and unpacked a few more boxes from moving. I started grad school and submitted a few assignments ahead of time (normally I procrastinate till the last second). I've been exercising regularly in some form (pushups, pullups, & sit-ups). I got some healthy food to use for meal prepping. I've been texting and calling with a few friends from out-of-town.

    I've also listened to a few podcasts called 'Your Brain Rebalanced' and found them to be quite helpful. One of the key ideas I took away from them is to not focus solely on a day counter. Some of the podcasters proposed using spreadsheets or physical calendars instead to keep track of the recovery progress. Another key idea is to focus more on adding activities to life rather than focusing on just subtracting PMO. Does anyone else use a physical calendar/journal in addition to a day counter?

    Some of my goals for the next week include:
    • No PMO
    • No peeking or edging
    • Absolutely no Twitter or Instagram
    • Submit grad school assignments a few days early
    • Meal prep with healthy food
    • Continue exercising daily in some form
    • Start a new book
    • Do some nature photography on one of my days off
    • Practice mindfulness/meditation for a few minutes
    Here's a link to the podcast; I highly recommend a listen while you're cooking, driving, or doing some other activity:
     
  4. aeburbt

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    Thanks, buddy. I think you were mostly there in your own observations, but I'm glad that this conversation has led to a new discovery. Of course, knowing the source of our problem is only half the battle. But it is a very important component. After all, you can't fight the enemy that you know nothing about.

    Another thought I'm trying to explore is combating the selfishness that porn teaches us in a relationship. P is all about me, me, me as you've alluded to. There is no thought for the woman's feelings, thoughts, fears, etc. because the fake woman has none of these. When we bring this selfishness into a relationship...well, you can imagine how unhealthy that can be for both people involved. True love is supposed to be selfless, which is in exact opposition to the selfishness instilled by P. When we can conquer P, we can in theory conquer a part of the selfishness that it inflicts, thus helping us to put our SO before ourselves in sex, love, etc. That's the true foundation for a strong relationship worth being in, and true happiness.
     
  5. RiseToGreatness

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    welcome back bro :). it´s very common to have fluctuations of interest. i had lots of hobbies in the past that i don´t care for them now. i think the best way to keep consistency in an activity is actually enjoy it! so see what positive activities do you enjoy and go for them on a regular basis. then you got yourself a good habit ;)
     
  6. RiseToGreatness

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    well bro, i hate to land you, but watching porn is not allowed in the challenge. if you watched like 3 minutes or so, i could let you pass. but 3 hours? sorry bro.
     
  7. RiseToGreatness

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    Check in Fellowship :)

    Let´s welcome our new member:

    @aniseprakash

    The following brothers have upgraded and reach places in Middle Earth. Congratulations!!!! :)

    @12ove - Bree / Eriador
    @kingsmokepoof - Great Hall of Moria

    A wave of support to our brother @dharana now struggling. Improve your strategy and carry on bro, the Fellowship has got your back ;)

    About creating good habits (and a good life) here´s a great video from Jordan Peterson that sheds some light on the matter. I hope you like it, it sure helped me :D



    Have a great day brave Fellowship!!!! :) Onwards!!!!

    no easy_peasy today :D
     
  8. MyGodandMyAll27

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    Day 7. Keep going brothers and sisters. God bless you all
     
  9. OttarrTheVendelCrow

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  10. dharana

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    Thank you @RiseToGreatness :)
    I'm feeling much better and more positive today.
    Also i'm already implementing some preventive actions.

    Day 1 finished!
     
  11. OttarrTheVendelCrow

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    "True love is supposed to be selfless" I really love this point. I too have been thinking deeply about this topic recently. I stumbled upon this interview with Steve O from Jackass, who is now 11 years sober.

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    At 4:15 the interviewer asked him if he had advice for people to help themselves stay clean. Steve O's response surprised and intrigued me. He pointed out that overcoming addiction is not a self-help dynamic but rather a dynamic of helping others. He goes on to mention how the disease of addiction is about selfishness and self centeredness.

    This got me thinking a lot about what my addiction means, where it is coming from, and how it is impacting the people I love most. It also helped me to understand why this forum has helped me to find the most success in recovery, after 5 on and off years of sporadic attempts.
     
  12. Onan the Barbarian

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    Thursday check-in

    This is an early check in, so I haven't gotten much done yet. I'm about to go to the gym and then run an errand that will take me all afternoon.

    So far I've:
    - meditated
    - prayed
    - got some good sleep last night. Still working on this.
    - and last night I did more reading on Addiction and Recovery

    In general I'm just trying to be more positive and mindful.
     
  13. jaberwaki

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    Day 13! Hobbiton is right around the corner.
     
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  15. Slider8

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    I think having a journal and a planner would help you with consistency.
     
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  17. Mr. Sinister

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    I don't know what is wrong with me. I don't know why I am like this. I don't know if it will ever be possible with this level of confusion murking my vision.

    I failed even when motivated by the one thing that should have sent me over the other side of this addiction. How would I be seen now? What do I look like when I walk over to a mirror that sees into one's very soul?

    I relapsed. I relapsed with S.O. OCD. . . if I can even call it that. I didn't feel outright disgust after I finished, I barely felt any stress while in the act. I used to be straight, so who is to say I am not just making this up in my head for some fantasy world I am not allowed into? Who is to say I ever actually wanted what I think I do? Maybe they aren't doubts. Maybe it's a slap of reality. I feel dead. I want to cry but I barely feel emotion.

    It only took 8 days, a high libido, and one fucking Belle Delphine image to set me off the spiral. I want to just accept that I am 'straight', but whenever I say that to myself I lose part of my soul. Something feels horribly wrong. . . yet the attraction seems so real. . . no maybe it is real.

    Why can't I just pick a side? The one I feel comfortable with is weaker in reaction. . . is it really just desensitization? Or is my lack of groinal response alluding to my denial? There is so much in my life that could be going amazing if I never had found porn and never met that special guy who is gone now.

    What's the point if I will never really know what I am? How am I to choose when I get such mixed messages and feelings?

    I don't know what is wrong with me.

    I don't know why I am like this.

    I am sorry Toby. I failed.
     
  18. Mr. Sinister

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    I fucking hate myself I am about to treat my body how it deserves to be treated :)
     
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  19. 12ove

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    Day 21, this is when my feeble mind used to break down. Not anymore!
     

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