The Lord of the Rings Challenge

Sad to hear that. You are a great support for all of us by updating the thread and leading the fellwoship. Nevertheless I understand that you need to take some time to rest. We all will be happy to welcome you in the Fellowship as soon as you come back brother!

 

Day 67. Looking forward to reflecting this weekend and taking time to do some reading. Whenever I feel an urge, I write about how I am feeling in that moment. This seems to untangle the sensation.

 

Made it to another place in this here journey! While every step is huge accomplishment, these marks on the journey are especially tasty!

Here is some form of a simple set of steps I take whenever my mind starts to drift into the realm of sexualization.
Recognize, Redirect, and Regain your focus. (R^3)
This will lead to an inner revolution.

 

Checking in. Been going through a stressful time, and kept falling. Back in the challenge. Nice to see you all, brave Fellowship.

 

DAY 63
sailing to river Anduin.

Then My journey continues south to Amon Hên.

 

Day 292.

 

Read your message too late and I'm sad to tell you that you predicted the future. Relapsed twice today. This has happened to me many times. I relapse once and a major setback happens a couple days after.
I am able to stay clean for quite some time but I always seem to relapse. Then a major setback happens and I'm able to quit for some time again. And that's how it circles around. I am now at that point again that I can stay clean for some time, but I have to change my ways and regain the focus I once had to continue the streak. I already said I am going to make a new plan the last time I relapsed, but for some reasons I didn't start with it right away. I have and am going to change that!

 

Day 10

 

Brother you had that choice before you indulged in edging or in other words you masturbated without ejaculation.
Edging: Traditionally, this described masturbating to the brink of orgasm and stopping right before “going over the edge.” This could be repeated over and over, usually in conjunction with pornography. Some rebooters have tried this in a misguided attempt to rationalize pornography usage (“well, it doesn’t count if I didn’t orgasm!”). Now it is used more generally to describe masturbation without orgasm. If you are adhering to NoFap’s Normal or Hard Mode rebooting programs, edging is usually considered a reset.
Reset: Failing one of our programs/challenge. This stemmed from the act of resetting your day counter badge back to day one. If your masturbate during your rebooting program, this could be called a reset.
Edging is fapping without ejaculation. A total relapse.

Hands on cock = Reset the clock

Nocturnal emission = Carry on the mission

This is a reset at least.Let me remind you of its value.
The Virtues of Resetting
Resetting a challenge is not the same as being a failure. In fact, there are several important virtues that are reinforced when you reset.

One virtue is honesty. Each time you admit to yourself and the other members of the community that you need to reset, you show a commendable level of honesty. Being dishonest, by failing to reset your counter or otherwise misrepresenting your progress, will do nothing but hurt yourself.

Another virtue is wisdom. Resetting is an opportunity for a rebooter to find their “weak spots” by examining what behaviors immediately led to the reset. Once these weak spots are understood, the rebooter can fix the leak, so to speak, to prevent the same thing from happening again in the future. For example, after resetting you look at what led up to your slip and realize you were browsing the Internet on your phone in bed before heading to sleep when you stumbled on some sexy pictures, which triggered your urges. Taking this knowledge, you decide to leave your phone in another room when you go to bed.

You’ll develop vulnerability and compassion when you’ve faced the pain of having to reset. By opening up and sharing your flaws with others, you learn that it’s okay to be vulnerable. And the next time someone opens up to you about their failure, you now have an increased capacity for compassion.

Perhaps the greatest lesson you can learn from resetting is tenacity. Each time you reset your count, it’s an opportunity to get up and try again. Success doesn’t come to people who never stumble; success comes to people who learn how to get up again.

When you reset, the most important things you can do are share with the community that you have stumbled, and try again.

 

Day 96! I'm inside the chambers of knowledge, trying to get all the knowledge I can absorb until the ring bearer crosses my path.

 

Day 30,

An Elf today! I am happy that I have only experienced a few slips with fishing in this streak. Those slips lasted only minutes and I feel as though I have greater resolve when seeing where that path leads. Being able to walk away and sometimes it takes a good nights rest and an early morning run to set things straight.

Thank you for your support Fellowship!

 

Day 1

Thank you to @Slider8 for sharing his thoughts - I have spent this past day debating whether or not to reset my counter, and as annoying as it is to do so, it’s time to reset!

My problem is with lust, which means I should be completing NoFap in hard mode. I had the choice to stop before edging and I ignored it, so time to get back on track.

 

As time is always off with me, and I'm moving quite slowly with acquiring and processing all the information required for me to understand some of the laws of humanity, I shall give you a small nugget of knowledge:
If some of you feel like nothing will change no matter how much you try, I would suggest reading about Learned Helplessness.

 

Thanks for your honesty @RiseToGreatness -

We will look to your coming on the dawn of the third day of the battle for Helm's Deep
We will listen for the horns of the Rohirrim when you return at the head of the cavalry to the Pelennor Fields
We will most certainly need your help to heal & mend the scouring of the Shire
And in the end we will meet for a few pints at the Green Dragon, and reminisce on the quest which freed us all from the slavery of the Ring

 

Yeah man, I definitely agree and I think that concept can apply to a lot of other areas of life as well. I'm optimistic about being able to come clean cause porn has always felt gross to me so not using feels a lot more natural than using.

 

Checking in Friends
The below might help those who are fishing or tripping along the edge of relapse...

We all know that fantasy leads to fishing , fishing leads to edging, edging leads to relapse, relapse leads to binging, binging leads to shocking, shocking leads to hell. We know the easiest time to kill the urge is at the fantasy stage. Stop the fantasy, and we are free to get on with our day and start to learn to enjoy the rich natural resources of dopamine that real life has provided to human beings for millennia. But I wasn't aware until recently that there is a parallel scale of emotional states that can help us identify how close we are to relapse. This tool can warn us of a pending relapse from a long as a week away and recognising where we are on this scale can also help put some emotional perspective on our recovery. It also helps us address the emotions which lead to fantasising, fishing, edging, etc.... by giving a scale from the state of recovery all the way to the state of relapse:
https://account.thefreedomfight.org/resources/the_faster_scale.pdf

 

Brave virile decision @BrotherHal . Well done!

 

Day 0,

And just like that, no longer an Elf.

Calling it a reset. DIdnt get into anything too crazy, but I have been fishing a significant amount and did see some NSFW thumbnails. Happy with my progress nonetheless

Carry on Fellowship!

 

209..days

 

Day 0
It was an easy one. I wont let my guard down so easily for the next time