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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by RiseToGreatness, Sep 22, 2019.
Congratulations on 100!
Amazing! Way to go
Hey, @RiseToGreatness , would you please re-add me to the challenge?
I think I have figured some things out.
Day 22 complete!
@bob200 Reading your situation really hit me because I've been in that exact spot myself so many times. There's really nothing for it but to put your head down and keep pushing through. As long as you're still breathing, you can get better. Whenever you head towards the bathroom, put down whatever distraction you have with you. For me it's my phone, for others it may be a magazine or whatever. The cultural overstimulation kills us, but we need to get comfortable with just being super bored for those few minutes.
Or something like Uncle John's Bathroom Reader to distract you while you are on the throne of porcelain.
Thank you all for your great words!
I think today I’m having one of the greatest wins in this battle. I did not binge after a relapse even once, but instead just raised my head and started a new streak.
For the first time in basically 15 years, since I’ve got my first phone. today I want out of the house without my phone. This is the weirdest feeling in the world. But I know that the day after the relapse is the hardest day of them all and separating myself from my phone just makes sure I’ll win for at least today.
So I think I can say… DAY 1, DONE!
Day 5 in progress.
I feel great. Not putting my focus on my streak but only on the things I have to and want to do in life.
Not having any urges, but I know that the difficult days will come eventually. I will be prepared.
Have a great day everyone!
Day 2 complete.
thank you @crazyhorse11 ! This is helpful knowledge!!
Day 72. Feeling some chaser effect today. I cannot get complacent. It is easy to loose sight of that initial spark that got me started on this journey. Constantly reminding myself why it is important to quit porn is helpful when I am struggling.
Day 175. I am more than my body. I am more than my mind. I am more than my urges.
Day 28. God give me the strenght to be better everyday
I see it as a plan or collection of plans to lead you past patterns of behavior you want to avoid... boundaries, coping strategies, habits, routines, etc...
Your life is a car in drive; it's going forward with time. You need boundaries to keep you from rolling over the steep hills, coping strategies to get back up the hill if you start rolling down it, routines to keep your mind on the road ahead, habits to keep your car in tune. There is more information on the specifics of these in this forum and other resources.
Checking in today - I am a Hobbit by now!
it´s a plan for you to eliminate usual triggers and temptations before they happen. idenfity all the situations that causes you hesitation (danger of relapse), and eliminate (or change) those situations from your life. the plan must be active 24/7, not just when you´re feeling triggered.
there´s also a triggers plan, this a plan you must activate when feeling triggered. this is more difficult than the previous one (in fact if you follow the previous one, it will be less probable to need this one), because in this moment you´re already out of balance.
1- emotional work: you need to calm yourself down, do some relaxation exercise, i recommend the 3 minute breathing space meditation.
2- mental work: engage in honest self-talk, like Universal man recommends. talk with yourself, recognize what is happening right now. recognize that the behaviour you´re thinking of it´s destructive and does not serve your higher version.
3 - environmental work: change the situation you´re in, fast! disengage from screens and do something completely different. go outside, take a cold shower, talk with someone, etc etc
if you follow these 2 plans, your resiliency to break will be much higher. be prepared to adjust the first plan as you go by, because there´s always new triggers and difficult situations to discover.
the reboot is a journey of self-discovery and perils my brother, just like the journey of the Ring . Let´s go!!!
pure gold indeed bro . Thank you
You never left my brother. Never left
is that an actual book, or just photoshot? the cover is hilarious