The Lord of the Rings Challenge

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by RiseToGreatness, Sep 22, 2019.

Should the Thread Title be extended?

Poll closed Jun 21, 2020.
  1. No, leave like that: "The Lord of the Rings Challenge"

    18 vote(s)
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  2. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Fellowship of Nofap"

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  3. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: Rising Fellowship of Eärendil"

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  4. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Journey to Mount Doom"

    5 vote(s)
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  5. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Quest of the Ring-bearer"

    6 vote(s)
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  1. Slider8

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    Well I don't think it's sexual energy that builds up, it's rather overall energetic state of your body that keeps growing. Better compare it to the phone with the battery nearly always at the emergency and with limited functions available. So that when power takes you up from emergency threshold and your dormant functions start becoming active you sort of freak out and your brain is trying to convince you that it's sexual energy that is growing together with certain solutions on how to use it to keep the status quo for if it will keep growing ramifications can be life altering.;) And we as people usually afraid of changes due to mostly negative thinking and expectations (I think it would be true to state that most of us were brought up with attitude of looking at life whilst simultaneously trying to find and see everything that might go wrong, that might cause harm and take some action out of fear of the imaginary problems instead of see what positive changes it could bring...
    Yes, I had experienced that. Did you feel a slight chaser effect afterwards? Basically speaking it's our, still ingrained, attitude towards women that plays out in these dreams. Take a note on how you think and feel about women when you go about your everyday business for it will reflect itself in your dreams.:)
     
  2. Slider8

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    What makes you angry,depressed, etc.? Make a list...if you trace the causes hard enough you will probably be able to track them down to your Ego-Pride and the solution you use is in hope to get a peace of mind and balance but it instead pushes you further down into all the hard feelings caused either by your own deeds and thoughts about them or by your reaction to the other people thoughts and actions towards you. Learn to distinct thoughts, feelings and actions that keep pushing you off balance and those that keep you balanced and peaceful. Then make a choice -which of them do you want to entertain in your life....and try to get off Ego-Pride by taking sincere care of people around you and their well-being! Hope this will help!:)
     
  3. EpsilonDelta

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    Thank you for your input, I very much appreciate it. You might be right, maybe I'm basically just starting to feel better, but my brain doesn't like these changes.
    As of yet, I haven't experienced any significant chaser effect afterwards, but maybe it will come. Regarding my attitude towards women, there's no doubt I sexualise them a lot in my mind. I'm working on this, by not looking at their bodies when I pass them on the street, trying to not think sexual thoughts about them, etc. Do you have any practical tips on this issue, i.e. on how to improve ones attitude toward women?
     
  4. Bob&cat

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    You just said it like it's, thank you.... I need to find how to let go of pride
     
  5. jaberwaki

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    Checking in. Hard day yesterday but appreciating the value of good friends. Just moved into my new place following my separation with my wife. Realized this is the first time I will have ever lived alone, in 40 years. I'm looking forward to it, honestly, as I think I have a lot to learn about myself in this part of my journey, but damn it hurts. Mind is a minefield right now, and I was up at 3:30 with no chance of returning to sleep. Thankfully no urges to speak of but I'm aware that I'm now in the danger zone with little sleep and an emotionally charged experience, so I'll be careful about my internet usage and be coming here frequently. It's a beautiful day, and I intend to enjoy it. Be well everyone.
     
  6. Slider8

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    For that you would need to adopt a spiritual attitude:'God lives in every living beings heart', which is probably somewhat akin to the holographic universe theory stating that every part of the whole contains whole in it. So that every time you see somebody in your world, especially what you perceive as sexy and appealing to you, just say God and imagine the spirit of God is in her heart as well as in your heart ,as well as in everybody's heart. You got to see yourself as a spirit, as an immortal consciousness in this temporary body and you, she , everyone have their very important part to play in God's plan. This way you can look at women,seeing God in their heart and there won't be a place for the dirty-lustful thoughts in you. Well that's what I try to do brother!Hope this will help !:)
     
  7. modern milarepa

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    329 days dwarf king
    404 days no PMO, semen retention
     
  8. modern milarepa

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    Relax
    Just relax, that is the key. The nofap journey is all about being relax. You don't need anything more. One simple word relax. Don't focus on results, attracting girls, money, success, failure, flatlines, feelings.
    You need to go beyond mind and body to achieve something that is a basic human need as it is the desire of procreation. Only a relax man can achieve the unachievable.

    Don’t recall. Let go of what has passed.
    Don’t imagine. Let go of what may come.
    Don’t think. Let go of what is happening now.
    Don’t examine. Don’t try to figure anything out.
    Don’t control. Don’t try to make anything happen.
    Rest. Relax, right now, and rest.


    Conclusion: relax
     
  9. Slider8

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    It's a hard task you are after.:) You see, Pride is a self esteem based on multitude of our possessions and the range is huge from very material to very subtle. And even those who become monks are struggling with it. It may stem from the nice clothes you have, from the strong body all the way to being truthful and just,celibate...
    And the the more subtle possession it stems from the more dangerous it is all for the one reason- it makes our love to the possession to exceed the love to God ...for example if your pride stems from truthfulness and justice you are ready to kill all liars, cheats and unfair folks in the world turning a blind eye to them being your brothers and sisters in One God, having God in their heart the same way you do and that they have part in His plan and Will ,thus forsaking love to God in favor of love to truthfulness...that's when it turns into hell. It's from love to possessions stems the desire to compare yourself to others with envy,despise, injustice, stealing and taking advantage of others springing from this can of worms...Awareness of it is the first step and humility before God is the medicine.:)
    2 Corinth 6: 16 And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? For ye are the temple of the living God. As God hath said: “I will dwell in them and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be My people.”
    ...and it is for this reason Jesus said(matthew 5:3): “Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the Kingdom of Heaven.” For with the great possessions of spiritual gifts often comes strong attachment to them(obsession) and worshiping them.
     
  10. EpsilonDelta

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    Thank you, friend!
     
  11. Redemptionisrequired

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    Checking in fellowship friends!

    I hope you're all having a great day!

    Officially 210 days( 7 months) free from porn! I had 1 MO relapse on day 72 which and I now stand MO free 138 days.

    Lot's of ups and downs in this journey and I expect there to be more as I ride out this PAWS/flatline period. There has been a lot of learning in this as well.

    Stay strong !
     
  12. Slider8

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    This is to remind us how our thoughts, words and emotions affect our body and our behavior:
     
  13. Searcher123

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    Morning of day 10, TBH did not think I’ll reach so far
     
  14. Anew2019

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    0 days.

    Prayer
    Full Rosary yesterday

    Abstinence.
    Noticed I eat less than I used to. 2 large Panago pizzas used to only last 2 days. Lasted me 3 days this time. Back to the fasting tomorrow.

    rest
    Slept really good last night. Muchly needed. Did not sleep good at all the night before because of stolen car.

    exercise.
    Haven’t.

    nutrition.
    Have not been eating very good the last few days. Back to work and a regular schedule tomorrow. Will pick up healthy food tonight.

    temptations.
    I have been noticing that I am doing fine and then boom I get hit with a huge temptation. Always when I spend idle time on my iPad. I think I need to avoid idle internet time.
     
  15. Bestia Titán

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    Day 1
    Thank you so much guys for the feedback. I will definitely take try to take this as a learning moment and make the changes I need to. Champions adjust.

    The last day has been pretty good though. I got to hang out with some old friends and take some time to slow down. There was an urge or two here and there but I dealt with it pretty well. Time to keep moving
     
  17. Mathman1994

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    Day 15 no P
    Day 10 no MO 5 days until Hobbit level

    In 2 days, I will have reached the point that I MO'd on my closest shot to Hobbit in a while, and in 5 days, I will be a hobbit. Life is going well. A few days ago, I looked something up that could have been triggering, but nothing appeared, and I closed out of my computer knowing that I dodged a bullet. Had the urge to M half an hour ago, but that is due to my full bladder methinks, as a full bladder tends to make me horny for some reason (maybe it pushes on my prostate). So far so good though. Other than a search the other day (not even looking for P or P-subs, just looking up some controversy from almost a year ago, that has been resolved), and the urges today, I have had pretty smooth sailing. With that said, now is not a time to get complacent as that will be the pride before the fall, and I cannot afford to relapse again on MO or P. Never again, and I am determined to make it to White Wizard in 490 days.

    Best,
    Mathman1994
     
  18. RiseToGreatness

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    Meditate, daily. it´s a great way to relief stress. also, don´t procrastinate, afirm your commitments/tasks and follow through.

    Make yourself student of the year ;)
     
  19. RiseToGreatness

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    well said brother. really well said!! :)
     
  20. RiseToGreatness

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    negative emotions are always a trigger. especially when we don´t know what to do with them. the suffering gets stuck in the body and we search for an atomic bomb (porn) to make everything go away.

    first of all try to meditate, daily. that will help you stay grounded and balanced. however, if you feel overwhelmed with a present heavy emotion, use this tecnique.



    another simple tecnique you can do is simply "pause". when you feel some negative emotion starting to creep in, just pause, be still and do nothing. that will help settle the rising emotional charge.
     

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