The Lord of the Rings Challenge

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by RiseToGreatness, Sep 22, 2019.

Should the Thread Title be extended?

Poll closed Jun 21, 2020.
  1. No, leave like that: "The Lord of the Rings Challenge"

    18 vote(s)
  2. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Fellowship of Nofap"

    15 vote(s)
  3. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: Rising Fellowship of Eärendil"

    0 vote(s)
  4. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Journey to Mount Doom"

    5 vote(s)
  5. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Quest of the Ring-bearer"

    6 vote(s)
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  1. RiseToGreatness

    RiseToGreatness Fapstronaut

    Checking in Fellowship :)

    Well, my laptop has burned out :(. So i need to buy a new one, meanwhile im typing from the mobile, with this damn small letters :D

    And i can't even see the counters, so if you upgrade please report so ;)

    As for me, feeling good today and with light urges, nothing to worry about.

    Have a great day brave Warriors ;). Checking out.
  2. breaking-myths

    breaking-myths Fapstronaut

    Thanks man.
  3. Jeen149

    Jeen149 Fapstronaut

    Day 48
    Not disturbing urges today. Whole day passed in work. Now Im taking rest for a while after workload..
  4. Day 1
    I will complete my journey. I will not watch porn ever again. No more relapse
  5. 12ove

    12ove Fapstronaut

    Day 81, trod on
  6. Day 18 PMOS

    I am a Hobbit. Looking forward to becoming an Elf.

    The Hobbit is my favorite book because it's a story about a little furry Hobbit who just loves peace and quiet but also has a thirst for adventure. He saves the day and destroys the ring with his band of merry misfits :)

    I think we can all go from zero to hero. From Fappy to Happy. I know I'm at 18 days and don't have much of a soapbox to stand one. But I've been to six months before. And I'll say the lonegr I stay off PMO the more energy time and effort I put into making my life better. The more I learn about how to become my best self more and more each day.
  7. modern milarepa

    modern milarepa Fapstronaut

    476 days SR
    47 days no sex

    “The farther away you are from the truth, the more the hateful and pleasurable states will arise. There is also self- deception” Bodhidharma

    Girls: my father asked me yesterday about the fitness girl I dated like 3 weeks ago, so I replied to him, I usually don’t talk too much about girls with him, he spends most of the time doing meditation and he doesn’t like to talk too much about mundane affairs, but he is quite knowledgeable about girls, he told me the fitness girl is a good girl and she really likes me, she has her flaws as any other women, but it is normal.

    I mentioned him the 18 y.o girl I’m seeing at the gym he didn’t like her so much, she’s a bit crazy and immature I already knew this that is why I see her as a friend, but im going to stay away from her a bit more and no more kisses with her.

    So we end up choosing the fitness girl, she is really into me, she’s studying to be a physician, mature and physically she has one of the best bodies I’ve ever seen, beautiful eyes too. I don’t see myself long term with her but a couple of months will be fine. Also she is leaving the country in a couple of months so it’s not a bad idea. We are talking again.

    Austerities: 2/30

    Its going great already refraining the senses and waking up before 4am has helped me to gain new energy

    Meditation: today I’m doing meditation again, I noticed I have a lot of energy, probably for the semen retention streak but it’s more a physical energy I need to refine it, otherwise I can lose it very easily, it’s not a very deep energy, it’s a bit shallow, I’ll do some meditation to work this out. Also spending some time away from very mundane girls helps a lot to storage energy, if not careful girls can drain you out very fast.
  8. modern milarepa

    modern milarepa Fapstronaut

    This is an advice that my father a real tantric master told me today

    “First of all recognize the illusion of this world, the materiality and mundanity of women in general, you need to have clear concepts about the deceit of the material life so this way you find the motivation to search the inner life which is what is really truthful."
  9. Ciceron

    Ciceron Fapstronaut

  10. Onan the Barbarian

    Onan the Barbarian Fapstronaut

    Day 8- Uruk Hai

    Today I've gotten some good work done and prayed. At the moment I am on the right track. Looking forward to figuring out how to stay on that track. My life has become too mentally cluttered. I worry about too much. Time to simplify a bit.
  11. breaking-myths

    breaking-myths Fapstronaut

  12. Redemptionisrequired

    Redemptionisrequired Fapstronaut

    Checking in Fellowship Friends!

    Day 210 free of MO, Day 282 free of Porn.

    Today was a bit tougher, not by much. The hot humid air mass seems to spark some of my recurrent withdrawal symptoms. I've become much better at handling it though and I know that in time, it will fade away again.

    Stay strong my friends!

    210 days – At the Cross-roads, the point in Ithilien where the Harad-Road is crossed by the east-west road, you contemplate the statue of a king now beheaded by the cruel forces of PMO. The Cross-roads is in a belt of vast size trees. Seeing the fallen head gives you hope for nature crowned it with flowers.
  13. Redemptionisrequired

    Redemptionisrequired Fapstronaut

    Congrats brother!
  14. Redemptionisrequired

    Redemptionisrequired Fapstronaut

    Keep going brother! You're doing great. Sorry to hear about the laptop. Thanks for making such an awesome challenge/community. You're incredibly supportive of everyone.
  15. Revanthegrey

    Revanthegrey Fapstronaut

    My other mistake was no comunicate here when i was at the point of relapse
    Now i am trying control the feeling of watching more p-subs .
    If i write the feeling disapear, now is gone.
  16. Redemptionisrequired

    Redemptionisrequired Fapstronaut

    Stay strong bro, remember why you're doing this. Porn or any p-sub its just a mirage, it's never real. It's not happening to you. The desire will fade with time. Go out for a walk if you can, do some push ups , take a cold shower or simply wash your face with cold water. Do not give in to temptation! It's never worth it.
  17. Mathman1994

    Mathman1994 Fapstronaut

    Day 0 - In fact, been day 0 for 6 of the last 7 days. However, I had this realization which I am posting here

    (Long post, excuse my profanity)

    In the last 7 days, I have looked at/binged on pornography 6 of those days including PMOing briefly after group today. I realized something in that PMO session:

    1) pornography is really weird. Like the scenarios don't make any sense, and when you tease them apart, they are downright creepy. For instance, who is the POV supposed to be? Obviously there is nothing intimate about pornography, it is just really fucked up.

    2) I have always had the "right"/ability to look at porn. Just because I am working with a new coach who emphasizes weaning off versus cold turkey does not mean I have any more freedom to binge than I did before, I just thought I did because in my NoFap recovery, I have been quite repressed.

    3) my coach says most men completely give up porn by week 8 of 12 (I am on week 3) and he acknowledges that not everyone is viewing that entire time. So if that is the case, then yes, I have the right to binge, but I also have the right to go no PMO, and if his program is more than just wearing out the addict so that they no longer like pornography (and I have to imagine it is or it would not have such a permanent basis in the recovered men), then choosing to give up in a "cold turkey" manner that acknowledges my freedom to go back, should be just as valid.

    4) So acknowledging the above, I can say "fuck it, no PMO" and I could easily be just as successful as if I said "fuck it, I am going to binge because the program says it is okay". I have a choice in the matter. As He-Man would say, "I have the Power [over pornography]". I am not its slave. It is my lesser foe. I am a mathematician, writing, teacher, and Christian goddammit, being a pornography addict is such a small part of me. Such a weak aspect of my life, and I have the choice. Of course I can look at pornography if I want to. No one took that power from me ever, I just thought they did and thus I made pornography stronger than me.

    5) My binging this last week has taught me that I have a choice in life. To PMO or not to PMO. I have always had that power, it just took me looking at myself in the mirror after watching a particularly bizarre video for me to realize that I don't have to recover. No one is making me. But I want to recover. I have the choice to relapse whenever the hell I want, but that does not mean I have to do it. I have the choice to go car jack someone right now and run over pedestrians (dark example), but just because I have the choice to do so does not mean I have to. (And I am getting as morally ambiguous as possible to prove me point because when I say "I should or should not do something" I am giving someone else's morality power over me instead of forming my own). I choose not to commit grand theft auto and vehicular homicide because I believe it is wrong, and I can choose to not PMO anymore because I believe it is unhelpful/unhealthy. I think my biggest issue was this concept of rebellion. I had spent the last week PMOing out of some sense of rebellion, and the good thing that came out of it is that I am no one's slave, least of all pornography.

    6) Lastly, we all have choices. We have always had our own choices and though others' words may influence our morality, we ourselves get to choose what is moral and what is not. Pornography might be immoral in some people's eyes, but we have to decide if it is immoral in our eyes or not. No one else can make that decision for us, and the problem is, I was letting others make that decision for me, and it took a week of binging on some hardcore stuff to realize that I am the master of my own destiny. Whatever happens is between me and God, and fuck everyone else...

    With that, I reset my counter to 6pm this evening. Not because that is the last time I relapsed, but because it seemed like a fitting time to change.

  18. Talz

    Talz Fapstronaut

    Day 27

    Still feel disorganized, but I'm gonna get back on track. I'm wondering if this is just a normal part of the process to have a crash in energy.
  19. you're 33 and your father still gives you wondeful life advice...

    my father hasn't given me any life advice since I was born, but honestly I don't care and don't want to care that much now... since I learnt many things from books and Internet.

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