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The Lord of the Rings Challenge

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by RiseToGreatness, Sep 22, 2019.

Should the Thread Title be extended?

Poll closed Jun 21, 2020.
  1. No, leave like that: "The Lord of the Rings Challenge"

    18 vote(s)
    54.5%
  2. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Fellowship of Nofap"

    15 vote(s)
    45.5%
  3. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: Rising Fellowship of Eärendil"

    0 vote(s)
    0.0%
  4. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Journey to Mount Doom"

    5 vote(s)
    15.2%
  5. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Quest of the Ring-bearer"

    6 vote(s)
    18.2%
Multiple votes are allowed.
  1. Redemptionisrequired

    Redemptionisrequired Fapstronaut

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    That's perseverance right there man, well done.
     
  2. MS PBH

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  3. HE^MAN

    HE^MAN Distinguished Fapstronaut

  4. Day 1 complete!

    @Slider8 is right. Every day is worth a little celebration. Not too much, though--I need to keep in mind that I'm not there yet. On the days without PMO, I feel so great, so good about myself and so happy with life that I wonder how I could possibly give in to PMO. There will always be ups and downs, so the trick is conditioning yourself to continue your "up" behavior even during the "down" times.

    @Are-we-there-yet? This is not at all relevant, but I'm curious who the character in your avatar is meant to be!
     
  5. PeaceOnEarth108

    PeaceOnEarth108 Fapstronaut

  6. breaking-myths

    breaking-myths Fapstronaut

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    Yeah sure will keep myself busy all day.
     
  7. Talz

    Talz Fapstronaut

    Day 31. Very tired after work. I was ogling girls left and right today, maybe that's real life fishing... I don't know how to help that really. I worry that kind of thing slows my progress, but I doubt it makes that big a difference.

    You've proven that you can do it already. You can get further than you did last time, just don't delay. Start pushing again.
     
  8. EpsilonDelta

    EpsilonDelta Fapstronaut

    83 days.

    Football with the boys in the morning, and in the afternoon I played music with some friends. Great day, even though I was super tired from lack of sleep due to the party on the previous night.
     
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  9. Vanquisher12

    Vanquisher12 Fapstronaut

  10. bob200

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    Day 10

    Getting closer to the shire!

    Still staying with my morning routine, that is the biggest difference I’ve had in the past years (not just with nofap).

    I think that the other part of this “passion” is just the FOMO that I personally have. I have been with my girlfriend for almost 8 years since I was 22. I’ve been with three other girls before her, and I can honestly say, she doesn’t know how to give a good blowjob. I love her with all my life, but thinking about living the rest of my life without getting the sex that my brain think I NEED is just a huge part of the reason I watch porn.

    I know that is crazy, I know that the pressure I’ve put on her over the years is part of the reason she don’t even want to do it anymore (and I don’t blame her anymore). But the fantasy about other women, other sex and the fear that this is all the sex I would have in the world is just a huge trigger for porn for me.

    I remember being a kid and watching porn of women 20 years older than me, and now I’m thinking about porn having girls 10 years younger than me. I don’t know, some part of me just use porn as a way with dealing with the fact that I might not have all the crazy sex I’ve dreamed about as a kid.
     
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  11. DAY 23 MONDAY.
    Today i experienced the 4th Nocturnal Emission in this 23 days streak.
     
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  12. Chi405

    Chi405 Fapstronaut

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  13. I think it's important for you to seperate the needs of yours that are really important to you as a whole personality and those that are rather artificial and most importantly temporaliy, given you go through the whole recovery process. Also, be real man: you won't have all the crazy sex that porn invoked in your fantasy. Especially as long as you watch porn. It's actually just an illusion - you're programmed to push certain buttons and watch other people have sex (and most of it is just make-up, acting on a scene and photoshop) AND to fantasize about scenes like that (as if they would play in your own life and you would be a participant. Hence, using a device, pushing certain buttons, hunting for porn and watching it is exactly what gives you most sexual pleasure (or should I say most dopamin??). That means when you would given all those sexual opportunites in real life, it wouldn't be enjoyment it would be total stress for you, because doing "crazy sex" in real life is not what you have been programmed to, during all those years.
    I'm not saying that there's no connection at all, between the porn experience and real life. Sure, porn teaches you some valid things. As long as someone doesn't even know what a blowjob is (technically) (s)he can learn it quite visually on any porn site. (But we all know that we have long surpassed that level where porn can teach us anything valuable).


    When I had my first girlfriend, we both were virgins and
    so we explored oral sex before I penetrated her the first time.
    I wouldn't say that I was completely naive and I had seen softcore porn already, but it was still very natural. We could give each other a lot of pleasure without any degrading or dominating behavior.
    But today my mind is full of pictures and scenes of women with a *** in their mouths. Scenes that I've never experienced for real, I've just seen it on a screen. Of course I imagine it feels good to be given such and such a bj. But in fact I'm not craving for the sensation. I crave for seeing the scene.
    Sure, real sex has also a visual side (which is, reportedly, very important to men). But even if you have great sex, you will never never see that which you see in porn. It begins simply with the camera angle. If it's not a pov, they film it for example from the side, sometimes in a close-up view. But who's perspective is that? That of a voyeur! Then you have the smell. Smelling your partner during sex can be very arousing but it can also turn you off easily. The porn user is not used to any bodily smells but his own! Imagine what a variety of strange smells you would smell in an orgy! The next thing is the talking and the social interaction. To "conquer" a woman, to sweet-talk your darling, to hold a partner in a relationship - porn doesn't teach you anything of it. But even if you managed to have sex, you still need to communicate before, during and after the sex. This is totally different than a pmo session!

    Sorry for the rant! Back to you, @bob200 ; the only thing that I can really tell you, based on my own experience, is this: if you have someone that loves you and you love her (even if there are some cons and doubts) this is already very good! I'm a single right now and that means: no sex life except from this messy porn addiction recovery (adding "recovery" to "porn addiction" is more than a hope than reality).
    Of course dating is an option, but I think, for the hardcore addicts, if they manage to do this at all they mess around more than they get real pleasure and meaning from it. (I don't manage to do it btw)

    So after this excessively long talk, what can I say? Appreciate your relationship and when you want to hold her then try to improve the relationship as well as the sexual (intimate) part of it. But take your time and give her time.
    Stop dreaming! About other women and sex I mean. You want to recover so you need to leave fantasy land. Sometimes it seems recovery makes us less sexual, we abstain experience flatline ... all that. But a part of recovery is to get back ones genuine sexuality. It means connection, intimacy, pleasures that aren't destructive, freedom and content.
     
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  14. modern milarepa

    modern milarepa Fapstronaut

    405 days high king
    481 days no PMO, semen retention
     
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  15. bob200

    bob200 Fapstronaut

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    This sentence really made me burst out laughing, I’ve truly never thought about it.

    And I know that all of the things you have said are true. I do love her and she is enough. But still, FOMO is kind of a curse.

    Maybe it’s because the girl I was with before I met my girlfriend gave great blowjobs and that make me feel like they are real and common. somehow, the thought that I would never get something that is actually had in real life and I know is out there is just sad. And yes, oral is a real big fetish for me, so sadly it’s something that is going through my head a lot when thinking about porn or other women and that is one of the things that makes me want to go back to porn even now when I am truly not horny.

    And yes, I know that what I have with my girlfriend is amazing and that I would never want it to end. But at the same time, I can’t get fantasize to get out of my head
     
  16. Ready to Stop

    Ready to Stop Fapstronaut

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    Day 182 no PMO. Good day yesterday. No problems. No fishing.
     
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  17. Squiddy

    Squiddy Fapstronaut

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  18. Aristophanes01

    Aristophanes01 Fapstronaut

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    What the f just happened o_O
    What the f just happened o_O
     
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  19. Aristophanes01

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    Bro hold you you horses you trying to get banned or something?
     
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  20. Aristophanes01

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