The Lord of the Rings Challenge

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by RiseToGreatness, Sep 22, 2019.

Should the Thread Title be extended?

Poll closed Jun 21, 2020.
  1. No, leave like that: "The Lord of the Rings Challenge"

    18 vote(s)
    54.5%
  2. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Fellowship of Nofap"

    15 vote(s)
    45.5%
  3. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: Rising Fellowship of Eärendil"

    0 vote(s)
    0.0%
  4. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Journey to Mount Doom"

    5 vote(s)
    15.2%
  5. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Quest of the Ring-bearer"

    6 vote(s)
    18.2%
Multiple votes are allowed.
  1. EpsilonDelta

    EpsilonDelta Fapstronaut

    84 days.

    Long day of work, feeling excited, confused and slightly stressed at the same time. Been lacking in sleep the past three nights now, need to go to bed earlier.
     
  2. PeaceOnEarth108

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  3. DAY 24 TUESDAY. Today i experienced 5th Nocturnal Emission in this 24 days streak , two days in a row.
     
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  4. bob200

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    Day 11

    I think that we have all learned that ourselves at some point. That the relapse starts a couple of days before we click the first picture that we know that we should not click on.

    It’s a feeling of appending doom that just grows in you for days and at the end it’s almost a relive to break down.

    Yesterday I’ve was there, I was somewhere between fishing and edging. If I was a perfect man I would have restarted the counter already because even though it wasn’t P, I was still engaged in something wrong and on some level I know it.

    After a time, I came back to my sense and wrote both here and to my OP and that helped to release some of the pressure, and I ended up doing a lot of good. went for a run, cleaned the house and study German for a time.

    But now it’s morning and I’m getting this feeling again. I’m studying right now in a safe environment and all I can think about is to just get up, drive all the way back home and lock myself in a binge session that would destroy my day and probably the rest of the week.

    And it’s shit.

    I’m still strong enough to fight it, but at the same time I feel weaker and weaker with every passing hour.


    @garmenclyde, thank you for all your help brother. On some level I feel some responsibility for your slip up. I think that the fact that we used the word “nsfw trigger” was a trigger itself. Because the stuff we wrote might have been viewed as less dangerous if we would have not decided to claim it is a trigger. It’s kind of a self fulfilling prophecy. The best tip I can give you right now is just stay away from your phone for the next 72 hours as much as possible. Other than that, you are doing great and this slipup would not be the thing to stop your growth
     
  5. modern milarepa

    modern milarepa Fapstronaut

    406 days high king
    482 days no PMO, semen retention
     
  6. Chi405

    Chi405 Fapstronaut

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  7. Vanquisher12

    Vanquisher12 Fapstronaut

  8. Two things triggered me. First to remember sex with my first girl and then BJ's. Suddenly I had one specific picture on my mind, from a porn clip. I have to learn to cope with it. Ok, there's a certain picture and a sensation. That happens often so why did I relapse? Because the setting was optimal for pmo, a good opportunity. So I have to watch out for that too. Especially for the combination of both (craving & opportunity / set & setting)
     
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  9. Revanthegrey

    Revanthegrey Fapstronaut

    Daily checking in
    Some struggles with the p-subs
     
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  10. bob200

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    Relapse.

    I did the one thing that I know I shouldn’t do.

    I tried to focus on other stuff, and did a mindful meditation walk and took some time off to try and calm dawn.

    At one point I realize that I was near the health clinic so out of optimism I just popped in and asked them to give me an anti covid booster and they just had a couple of shots left that was about to expire so they gave me a shot even though I’m not on the recipient group.

    But then me hand started to hurt, and I told myself that “there no why that I could study like this” so I want back home and I think that I’ve started taking down my pants before I even went through the door.

    I watched porn for a couple of hours for no other reason except that I wanted. I truly wanted.

    This morning I’ve started reading the tips @riseToGreatnes have wrote and somehow it made me feel unworthy. I still don’t hate it enough to be over it once and for all. And that feeling is a feeling I truly hate.

    So I’m back to 0. I’m kind of sad. And I’m even more sad to know that the course sentence “just one more PMO before I’ll start the new streak” make perfect sense to me right now even though I know It’s a lie.
     
  11. ..but maybe if I watch a little porn ... Oh the irony! Bad bad brain!

    ok it happened. So make sure that your next streak will be longer!

    But it's great that you got yourself the covid-booster. You may be the only one on this page who already got it! Or one of very few.

    But negative emotions don't necessarily amount to much in recovery ...
     
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  12. I don't think to reset the counter is the best thing to do. It's more important to identify this craving that reaches over days and do something so that the full relapse later on is prevented.
    When you find out what you need to do and do it then I think you can keep your streak and you head high.
     
  13. PineappleYoghurt

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    GUYS, I KNOW I HAVENT POSTED IN 10 DAYS (thanks university) BUT I'M A HOBBIT
     
  14. til_im_free

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    The days are being longer then the usual. I haven't been sleeping well and it started to make me feel a little dizzy and slow throughout the day. I need to restore my sleep URGENTLY, cuz I know I get least resilient when I'm tired. My next exam is in 3 months, the most important of the year. I've trying to internalize it without feeling overwhelmed, since that feeling is my biggest trigger.
     
  15. Ironguy5

    Ironguy5 Fapstronaut

    Day 24!

    “You step into the Road, and if you don’t keep your feet, there is no knowing where you might be swept off to.”
     
  16. Mr. Rosco

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  17. Jeen149

    Jeen149 Fapstronaut

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    Day 54
    Sorry couldn't update due to busy schedule yesterday and today
     
  18. Are-we-there-yet?

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    Thanks, man! It means a lot =)

    I like it! There is a peace of mind that comes from doing what you know you should be doing. I would add to it though that there's also a small... readiness/awareness too. In a way, it's the warrior spirit. A peace that it will all be what it will be, but a readiness to face whatever comes. I think that readiness is important to not get complacent and to be slightly on guard against urges and bad situations.
     
  19. Are-we-there-yet?

    Are-we-there-yet? Fapstronaut

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    I kinda can't believe it. But I'm actually on day nine.

    I must be careful now. I had a great urge last night while laying in bed to click on something that I shouldn't. Gratefully, I saw the crossroads for what it was and chose the road less traveled for me. The road of recovery haha. Hopefully, with every crossroads that I come to and pick the "road of recovery," it will become easier.
     
  20. RiseToGreatness

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    bro, i have seen that you have relapsed so now it´s too late. anyway you´ll still get your answer ;)


    bro, we are dealing with layers of addiction. one of the biggest layer is the addiction that is dominant on the midbrain (the reptilian part of the brain) which is responsable for the vital parts of our survival: food, sleep, temperature, etc...

    After being trained so much in watching porn and fapping, we have created a distortion in the midbrain, making it believe, that porn is also part of our survival (reproduction). since the midbrain is linked to our base sense of happiness and functioning, it´s power is very strong. like breathing air opening our mouth in a reflex, even if we want to sustained our breath forever. it´s an automatic reflex that happens in favor of our survival.

    you can see why is hard to break free from PMO.

    with an addiction, the logic thinking is a small opponent against this emotional part of the brain that strongly feels that must have his "fix". this is common to all addictions. then the 2 key components happen: the priority switching (the object of addiction becomes an important part of life) and the loss of control.

    so in the beginning we advice people to follow a triggers prevention plan precisely to avoid autopilot (midbrain) from taking over. but this plan is adaptable. with time, some things will stop being a trigger, and you can loose your plan a bit and discard some situations that are not triggering anymore. but you should only do it when you feel solid on those situations. solid means: no hesitation, no indulging in sexual thoughts, no desire to acting out on impulses.

    so in the beginning, being home alone is a trigger for many rebooters. and should be adress in the triggers prevention plan. if it´s a trigger for you too, then it´s obviously you shouldn´t be home alone, especially in the first weeks.

    after, maybe 3-4 weeks, the addiction will start losing his grip on the midbrain, and logic thinking will become more prevalent. then you´ll be able to be home alone and not collapse. in fact even if you have urges, with proper coping skills, you will still be able to stand your ground.

    so don´t despair my brother, trust the process, and improve ;)
     
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