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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by RiseToGreatness, Sep 22, 2019.
day 61- dwarf
elf again! more than a month without porn and with real gf feeling so myself!
I've been fighting with the urge of pm for the last couple of days. Unfourtanately, I was defeated. I've been lazy, I'm in a stressfull times in my life and it pushes me into being a procrastinator. Do not do that. Work or study or exercise at least 5 minutes if you start to feel like you want to delay the things that you are supposed to do.
The problems are temporary i say to myself , i am trying to no use the P as a route of escape
You have our prayers
Hang in there my brother. The Fellowship is with you.
Congratulations bro. You took off the porn ring . Breathe the free air.
Now let´s go destroy that thing. Good luck!!!
bro, i´m sorry to ask, but your counter only says "no porn". masturbation is not allowed here. are you abstaining from both? thank you
42 days, 6 weeks. I am really tired this morning.
this seems to be a common problem for rebooters lately. unfortunatelly there´s no magic formula to get our natural motivation back, we got to be patient and grind.
however there are things we can do to boost motivation. these are also the things that fasten the entire reboot process: regular exercise, cold showers, proper sleep, proper nutrition, leisure/relaxation periods.
on a immediate term, the best way to raise motivation is to really start doing things, start. it´s painful i know, but once you start doing them, motivation will rise. don´t wait until you feel pumped (you´ll wait forever), start and the rest will follow.
on a safety note, if you can´t do anything at all, then, don´t. the reboot process also requires patience and compassion for yourself on the dark times of withdrawal.
in fact, if people come to realize it, the entire reboot pain is a tremendous gateway for maturity and empathy for oneself and others
day 9 check in.
The last 2 days have not been good due to my indulgence in porn. So I have relapsed in that sense.
The only good thing I could say is that I haven't jerked off to orgasm.
Checking in Fellowship!!
Feeling very good today . Good energy and mood. I hope you guys and girls are doing well as well
say, i´m watching "the witcher" on netflix and the series is plagued with lustful content. so what i do when nudity appears i focus my gaze on something else on the screen. and when there´s an entire sex scene then i just fast forward. i´m taking no changes .
anyways, despite the triggers, it´s a great series
Have a great day brave Fellowship. I´m proud of you all!!!
Here´s a great excerpt from "your brain on porn", a vivid discreption what porn addiction is like.
"Unwanted Adaptation: Sexual Conditioning and Addiction
What’s a brain to do when it has unlimited access to a super-stimulating reward it never evolved to handle? Some brains adapt – and not in a good way. The process is gradual. At first, using porn and masturbating to orgasm resolves sexual tension and registers as satisfying.
But if you chronically overstimulate yourself, your brain may start to work against you. It protects itself against excessive dopamine by decreasing its responsiveness to it, and you feel less and less gratified. This decreased sensitivity to dopamine pushes some users into an even more determined search for stimulation, which, in turn, drives lasting changes, actual physical alterations of the brain. They can be challenging to reverse.
As one user said, ‘Porn goes in like a needle but comes out like a fishhook.’"
I was able to show physical affection towards my wife and hold her without getting aroused, which is a good sign for me that I may be getting into flatline.
It's in me
It eats me while I'm not feeding it
When I do it gives me strength
until it needs to feed again
Can I find a way without you?
Since starting to train outside my morning training is going better. Looking forward to getting my bug repellant so I can run at the park without donating blood. Just got striking by anderson silva, looking forward to finishing that and the way of the fight. I'll probably complete atomic relationships today. I'm either going to continue reading guys advice books or take a break and just focus on meditation, training and reading spiritual books/mma books. After GSP and Anderson Silva's book I'd like to checkout BJ Penn's book and there's a 'how to prevent injury in mma' book I might look at too after that.
Checking in. Not feeling super safe today so coming here to screw my head back on. Digging the Pink Floyd @RiseToGreatness
My relapse last month, after 164 days clean, came from downloading dating apps and the porn-like environment that created for me. I got rid of them, but not before connecting with one woman who I've begun seeing. So, it's strange. The apps did what they're supposed to, but also caused a PMO slide at the worst possible time--when connecting with a real woman. Sigh. I've been having a hard time processing it all, along with becoming sexually active with said woman. Real sex=amazing and far beyond anything PMO can offer, but of course it also leads to the chaser effect and remembering the struggle of staying clean while being sexually active. Monk mode as a single man was surprisingly easier. This is also the first person I've been with since my divorce, so I have those confusing feelings running around my head as well. So, I'm in a different head space right now, and it's a far more challenging one. Just want all you to know I'm here and rooting for you and proud of each and every one of you for fighting the good fight here. Be well!
Day zero. Let us begin.
3 days. Played football with my friends, studied and meditated yesterday.
Good day everybody!
I've been feeling well, those last days were light and easy going. I forgot to mention that I was approved in a federal university! These really made me hopeful for the future. Also, the @RiseToGreatness advice has proved itself very worthy taking. This switch of mindset really helps, those 7 days passed much more faster lightly than I'd expect.
But now I have reached the danger week. The days between day 7 and 14 are the most dificult for me, but I'll try not to focus on the numbers, but in the day itself. I hope I'll be able to stick to this mantra of one day at a time and pass through it. Also, I restarted running. It' awsome, just like meditating, since it demands deep concentration on breathing and feeling your surroundings.
Hope us all the best! Let's not give up!
"Teach young men that sexuality is a healthy, wonderful thing. Teach them that their attraction to porn is a very normal consequence of their biology and brains, that they should try not to slip up, but if they do, to just get right back in the saddle and keep on trucking."
~Art of Manliness website, https://www.artofmanliness.com/articles/how-to-quit-porn/
Let us not look at porn as this daunting, highly addictive monster; let us rather look at it like junk food. Make it not be overwhelming. We can quit! If you read the article, it discusses how the KKK was feared because it was secretive and seemed really dangerous, but when someone exposed it and showed it for the cowardly organization that it was, police grew some balls and took it down a notch or two rather than sitting on their hands in fear. Let us take that example with pmo: Do not be afraid, we can kick this.