The One Thing You Need To Get Out Of Relapse Cycles

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by Daborso, Sep 23, 2018.

  1. Daborso

    Daborso Fapstronaut

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    Greetings fellow fapstronauts and readers.

    After a very long time I have finally reached 30 Days no PMO again. The last time I was on 30+ days was back in December 2017. That means it took me 9 months of constant relapse cycles to finally get back on the path. (I had a 20 day streak at March I think but no dice) It is Day 33 as I'm writing this. Now most of you may ask why it took 9 fucking months to get to 30 days again, and believe me I ask the same question myself too. So let's get to it:

    One of the many things I realised during those 9 months is that the key to NoFap and quitting porn and masturbation is SELF-DISCIPLINE. Yes, self-discipline is basically the foundation for success in life in general, not just NoFap. We're just born into this world and told to go to school, behave, study, get a job and live. But what we are not taught is how to live a happy life. 99% of people in the world all have some sort of problems that are a result of an unorganized and unfullfilling life. Teachers tell you in school to concentrate but has anyone ever taught you how? This world is filled with distractions that are keeping us from living our lives to the fullest. Some are intentional and some are not. Porn is one of the greatest, if not the biggest distractions out there. Do you think the companies that produce porn and sell it care about what it does to people? What it does to the brain? Of course not, they just want the $$$. Self discipline is the problem here, that's why people fall for porn so easily. Because without self-discipline our brain just does what it wants with us, with our bodies. (In our case: our hands.)

    Now let's get to the actual benefits of 30 Days no PMO:

    - brain fog completely gone
    - energy levels tremendously increased
    - noticing signs of female attraction (eye contact, they started talking to me more and checking me out)
    - increased motivation
    - social anxiety 90% destroyed
    - improved communication skills
    And one of the best benefits of NoFap: Enjoying the little things more.
    I've especially noticed the last benefit during the past few days. When I commute to and from school by bus I have the option to see the countryside and the beautiful scenery. Oh I savor the scenery like never before! Believe it or not but I enjoy music even better than before.

    And a little side note: I've expierienced wet dreams on Days 8 and 18. And for those who don't know what to think of wet dreams than do not worry. It's natural and most certainly NOT a relapse. I've also expierienced a week long flatline from abou Day 21 to Day 28. Felt like shit, unmotivated but I'm out of it.

    I've commited mysefl to self-improvement and set straight goals that I want to achieve within the next 2 years of my life. NoFap and self discipline are the starting point and foundation for all of this. I swore to myself that I will never go back to where I was a year ago. Screw you porn! I hope you rot in hell!

    Best of wishes to all of you who want a change and are fighting with an PMO addiction. If anyone has any questions on me regarding NoFap, my journey or anything else feel free to post a question on this thread. Or if you want to ask something privately feel free to write an email to: [email protected]

    PS: Sorry for the amount of text but I had a lot to say and still have. :)

    Stay strong! Peace.
     
  2. Skdrille

    Skdrille Fapstronaut

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    Keep going bro I also reached 30 days on April and since I always relapsed but now I'm on day 9 and I would like to beat my record like you did ;)
     
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  3. Nice post bro. I am on day 3 and I have been relapsing like after every 6 days. I want to take it weekly. My longest was 14 days but these days Stress at work, at home(I am married) keeps me goin to relapse. My wife has lost interest in sex as we lost our first child and thanks to God we got another boy of 2 years and a half so she is always busy with the boy. She also works so she comes home tired n taking care of our child. I dont blame her but i feel sometimes i have no other outlet. What do u do when u feel like relapsing? I have been masturbating since "I feel it is the lesser sin" but I know it is religiously n common sense wrong. Kindly let me know how to stay motivated and stay away from porn because I feel its like cheating. Its like being at a stripclub but instead it is infront of ur screen.
     
  4. Kimpossible9

    Kimpossible9 Fapstronaut

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    I reached 40 days of nofap two months ago.
    I'm so sad I lost it, I'm also struggling with my studies at university..
     
  5. quittingforthebest

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    Well done
    I too experienced wet dreams when I was in no PMO.. It'll reduce gradually..
     
  6. Daborso

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    Well when I feel like relapsing I think of all the benefits NoFap has brought me and that I'll feel like shit if I relapse. And I also remind myself how pathetic the whole act of fapping is. I mean seriously, you're watching a female you find attractive being fucked by someone else and you fap to it. I would tell guys that are not in a relationship to man up and actually go and approach a real female in real life and vent they're sexual energy that way. (I don't mean immediately fucking her of course but a woman's touch can be really enjoyable by itself) And you are actually in a better situation than those guys because you have a wife. Even though she is busy with work and your boy as you described, you should find some time alone with her for at least a few hours and talk something out and maybe try to engage in sex or just talk. Remember that women desire sex just as much as men. I hope I explained what I wanted kindly enough if not than I apologize but I like to be straight and open with people. (especially about NoFap)

    If you need an accountability partner or have more questions just ask away here or write me an email. (E-mail stated above)

    Stay strong. Peace.
     
  7. 5adn8m8

    5adn8m8 Fapstronaut

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    Great post... inspiring and undoubtedly helpful. thanks and good luck.
     
  8. Daborso

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    Thank you, I hope I provided you with something that will help you remove porn from your life.
     
  9. Lateralswoop

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    Hey, thanks for that message, do you have any tips for building self discipline for someone who’s just starting to quit porn. (Most I’ve been able to go without it is 2 days)
     
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  10. Branchman

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    Lateralswoop, you have tou make a genuine desision, it might hurt (leaving PM for ever) but rembermber all the damage that it brings, PM steals your life, and you can take it from you. It is on you, don't let the desire take control of you, you have to think that you can chose, and it is easy not to PM, the difficult stuff (at least for me) is when you feel empty and your mind wants to feel better and it calls you to make something to stop feeling this way, and your mind takes the easy way PM. But if you have an arousal it is not too difficult to not let it control you.
     
  11. Ra's Al Ghul

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    I too have been struggling to get back to 30 days for about a year now. It looks like I should be back there soon.
     
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  12. CodyVn

    CodyVn New Fapstronaut

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    Thanks bro for sharing your story. Today I feel like SHIT because I just have relapsed again after 14 days NOFAP. Now I have to count again with a new goal 15 days, 30 days, 45 days,.... and quit it forever. I have to be stronger if not I will be a loser in life. I will never give up my dream.
     
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  13. Simileven

    Simileven Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for this article, I enjoyed it very much. Today is a safe day for me, I have a lot of things to do, and my wife is home.
    But I realized that easy days are always followed by hard ones. Better prepare on easy days for the fights that are about to come. Stay strong!!!
     
  14. The Lone Ranger

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    So sorry to hear about your child, makes me happy to hear you were able to try again though, and successfully, thank you for sharing.

    I hope you and your wife can rediscover your sexlife. I find that so important for a relationship (it’s not everything off course, but important)
     
  15. Daborso

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    The most important thing here is to deny yourself those "little pleasures". This can be anything and depends solely on the individual. For example for me it was using my phone on the toilet. I would spend 15-30 minutes just meaninglessly surfing social media or YouTube and all I needed was 5 minutes to poop. Another example (again with the phone) was sometimes when I ate a hot meal I would again surf online meaninglessly and many times I found myself eating cold food after. Again, it's different for every person. Everyone has somekind of useless habits like I had with the phone and the worst part is the brain has established these little useless habits as good habits. So if I were you I would search for something like this. It's easier to breake something "small" like this than an PMO addiction righ away. And this will also tremendously help with NoFap overall, because if you have the self-discipline not to waste time on useless little habits than you will have the self-discipline needed to overcome any urges and just say "no".

    Hope I helped.
     
  16. iwillbestrong123

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    thanks for sharing your story, it's really inspiring and helpful to see someone who's been through the constant relapses and made it though. thanks alot bro
     
  17. _Owais_

    _Owais_ Fapstronaut

    Great post....;)
     
  18. Survivor Wars

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    I feel u bro, many of us are addicted not because we are sex addicts. It because we have emotional problems we don't know how to get over.
    With a situation like yours your urge to masturbate will be powerful more than a sex addicts just looking for orgasm.

    So try and resolve them. Understand that life is not only about orgasms. Also see it as cheating your wife (because it done in secret).
    Also eventually you will get PIED and things will be worse.

    Let your new baby be your motivation. Use love to defeat this the addiction. Love your family full time.
    Find a way to see life in a brighter way with that achieved, you will actually look at porn and hate it from deep inside your heart
     

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