The Popularity Contest

Just be honest with him, and tell him you miss spending time with him. Or an even better idea would be to go out with him when he is with his new friends and maybe they can become your friends too.

 

I’ve had this happen numerous times with people, it really does suck especially when they forget about you. I’ve even talked to a priest about this before and as I never understood it…


The best thing to realize is that these people are probably more sad inside than you are. They need to be validated in high status as a result for happiness. It’s sad but the fact he is leaving you behind is disgraceful when you were his original friend.


I would find a really good hobby soar in it and become a professional. One other thing is prayer, pray for a group is solid friends and let jesus and god guide you to this.

Beat you can do is Recover. It will raise your energy and people will gravitate towards you, believe me as a reference. It happened a long time ago for me and I was surprised.

 

In my book friends have no responsibilities and expectations towards each other. That makes friendship so light and easy.

To me this sounds like jealousy. Just drop it. Go out yourself and hustle.
Also I wouldn't assume that he's sad inside and needs outside validation - this sounds like projecting one's own insecurities on other people.

 

I don't know man. Recognize that it's stupid and counter productive. If you can't then at least use it as some kind of motivator...

 

Meditate on it man. Write down why and how this jealousy pops up and be honest with yourself.
You afraid of being alone? You afraid of being left behind socially?
You fear that he might look down on you? That he might think he's better than you? Do you envy his success and want to be as popular as he is?
Do you want to be outwardly cool and appear that you don't need anybody?
Or better yet, go take out your feelings on the weights. If you don't have equipment or a gym membership, do 100 push ups, 100 sit ups
And run for 2 miles with this thought of your friend on your mind the whole time.
This is how you relieve it on a physical level and sometimes even mental level.
I promise, it won't bother you after you're sweating it all out.
Nothing destroys envy than working on yourself and improving yourself and feeling better about yourself.