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The Porn Goddess

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by ZenAF, May 2, 2019.

  1. WelcomeToReality

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    That's very true, most of what you said. But I been doing very big mistake and I don't know if all of you got to that point yet. When you try logicly think about this addiction and negotiate with yourself it's giving only 20% of power at maximum. That why I called very big mistake for me.

    It because our actions is based on our emotions, then we use our logic mind to justify what we just did.

    This principle can be applied 98% of the time. Same with this compulsive behavior - we stand no chance even if we collect all millions possible logic answers to this topic until we include our emotions.
    One example of thinking including emotions is like this:
    We believe PMO gives us some sort of pleasure/release or/and satisfaction and that it feels good, but it actually not, because if you are happy and satisfied you won't even have urge to go pmo. Who ever wanted go home to jerk off when you feeling happy hanging out with best friends who really care of you?
    You don't watch porn for pleasure, of course you get pleasure and satisfaction but only because you are unsatisfied/ frustrated in first place.
    The key is in to the feelings not in a logic
    Main reason after quitting we urge to watch porn is because we feel that we are missing some good feeling and we think porn fulfils that. And we feeling that way only after we really missing something good, like human connection, acceptance, compassion. When we failing to fulfill those real human needs, then we feeling lonely, rejected, heartlessness. Such feelings are root cause why we urge for PMO, but those feelings in one level or another are always with us, and it's normal feeling's, the problem is when we ignore such feelings and let our unconscious mind use old pathways on how we react to such feelings.
    You need to practice self acceptance - dive whole your essence to your emotions and surf there without judgment. Open your mind and look what you really feeling right now.

    Our brain gather like 1% or data from reality by our senses, then compressing such data to 0,001% and our brain trying to make sense and create as much useful world concept of that 0,001% of data from reality. Other thing is that our brain uses more then one way of processing data, but we tend to favor logic, while it has least power in our brain. Your unconscious mind doesn't understand difference when you cope with loneliness by meeting with your friends or imagining interacting with girl on porn videos. You feel acceptance either way, but what we can do is to help our unconscious mind feel the difference. Use your imagination, the same mechanism what which let us inn to faulty habit. Imagination is door to your unconscious mind and it has no limits. The word 'emotion' derives from Latin word meaning: move, express, feel. Look at emotions like an energy which want's express itself, moves us to action and gives us feelings. We every moment having a cocktail of emotions, how much awareness we have on it? How we can change thing of what we are not aware of?

    Acceptance of our true emotions and feelings and helping our unconscious mind to understand difference and learning new ways to fulfill our emotional needs are essence of key to escaping PMO prison.
     
    Last edited: Oct 31, 2021

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