the pre-lapse mist

[cultofpersonality]

Need to get some tips to help beat this. I'm not talking about limiting opportunities to P by arranging to meet friends, go to the gym etc. But how do you guys beat the inevitable "blue mist" that makes rational decisions much more difficult? I'm going to start with cold showers any other tricks out there?

 

[Sisyphus]

CoP that is a great question.
Speaking personally and by no means am I saying this will be the same for everyone, I think that once the 'pre-lapse mist' as you put it so poetically! descends it's basically too late.
When this last happened to me, I felt like it had just appeared out of nowhere and that I went on autopilot to old fantasies and straight to the internet for my fix. However, I realised that I had started putting together little bits of this process in the preceeding days that gained momentum and brought on the mist. It's like if you light enough little fires, the wind catches it then you have this sudden inferno.
To me therefore, the trick is to identify and fight the little fires as and when they turn up before they can gain momentum and the mist descends.
However, if anyone does no a way to snap out of the mist then please tell me!!

 

[Lion]

Shine a light on it.

Sunshine clears away the mist.

Be in the light, with people, outside.

Light takes away darkness.

 

[FapFreeForever]

Sisyphus, you've hit the nail on the head for me at least. Once that mist comes over me, I'm beat. I'm straight on the 'net and hunting out images of hot women and the job is soon done. Then come all the recriminations and self-hating and "why wasn't I strong enough?" jazz. The trick as you say is identifying the small fires before the eventual soul-destroying conflagration.

 

[cultofpersonality]

Thanks for the replies...just watched a video on triggers and relapsing. It talked about how your brain goes into auto pilot which I think for Me is pretty much the point of no return, at the moment.

This is where you begin thinking about P, start clicking and then its too late...you do this all in a haze as somehow your decision not to P or to P has already been predetermined some how. All consequences , hopes and desires go out the window and you get on the P while the goings good!

I'm not willing to accept you can't shake yourself free of this haze when it descends. Breaking through this might be something of a last resort but I think something I need in my back pocket!