The Pros of Being Awkward

Good to hear bro it is so true I use to care about being smooth and being cool put that takes to much energy and unideal if I wanna attract the right people also I use to think that people are a lot more confident than which is far from true they are just faking it or choosing to not let their mind stop them I’m gonna be more awkward often lol

 

Place more importance on the scary and difficult things that you know you should be doing to become the person that you want to be and have the live that you want to have. Rather than on specific outcomes. Doing things even if you're not ready and non smooth about it. Rather than waiting for a guarantee or perfect circumstances that will never happen.

Porn conditions people to seek easy, certain, and instant gratification. Over time, reality stays at the same difficulty level while you get weaker in terms of being able to handle the pain, problems, and negative experiences in life that are necessary to get to the pleasures, solutions, and positive experiences.

If you don't have much experience with something, then of course you'll be incompetent, insecure, and awkward about it. It takes time and effort to challenge yourself outside of your comfort zone, but that process can never start if you wait for the easy, certain, and instant gratification circumstances that porn has conditioned you to seek.

Being cool, competent, smooth, and confident comes from repeated courage to reach beyond your current place. Which leads to repeated competence. Which leads to repeated confidence. You gain self respect and self validation from going through this difficult and scary process.

What uncomfortable now becomes comfortable later on (developing your reality).

What's comfortable now becomes uncomfortable later on (porn addiction).

 

The big charade with confidence is that it has nothing to do with the comfort of what we achieve and everything to do with the comfort of what we don’t achieve. People who are confident in business are confident because they’re comfortable with failure. People who are confident in their social lives are confident because they’re comfortable with rejection. People who are confident in their relationships are confident because they’re comfortable with getting hurt. The truth is that the route to the positive runs through the negative. Those among us who are the most comfortable with negative experiences are those who reap the most benefits.