Yes I do mean it. This is not a troll. And for all those people with significant streaks and have had success who might now think `Well this dude is telling to masturbate... Why don't I try?´ No. Don't. Don't do it. And if you do, don't blame me for it. It's not my fault, and you are the only one responsible for your actions. I'm writing this post, because I feel there are a lot of people out there having an extreme attitude towards masturbation and I believe there are good reasons to do it. But, before I tell you, let me reiterate some reasons why you should NOT masturbate: It may hinder you in your long term reboot. You won't experience the tremendous benefits that come with abstinence. Again: If you're goal right now is to not masturbate, then don't do it. By the way, I myself am currently abstaining from masturbation, but I've taken my own advice I'm about to give you in the past, so I know what I'm talking about. Moving on. So then, why the hell would you want to masturbate, given all the reasons against it? Because I feel like a lot of people are failing to get in touch with their own healthy sexuality, which this is all about. Abstaining from orgasm forever is not the solution unless you want to abandon your inner sex drive forever. If you don't want to have sex anytime in your life, go ahead and close this window. `But StreetLight´, you might say, `the only healthy way to orgasm is through sex with another woman!´ There is a lot of truth in there, I give you that. But guess what, this isn't going to happen for a lot of us anytime soon. And for some people, at some point the pressure just gets too big. `But StreetLight, I'm doing self development. I'm going to the gym. I get a lot of confidence to talk to girls! I'm working towards getting laid!´ Well, congratulations. Then we're in the same boat, as this is basically what I'm doing right now. However, we are not entitled to have sex. There's two people involved and there's chance involved. That's just not how it works. `So you're saying we should jerk off instead?´ No. That's not what I'm saying. I'm saying healthy masturbation is a way to get in touch with one's own sexuality. Notice the 'healthy' in there. Because I bet most masturbation people participate in here, especially when they do relapse, is not healthy. Especially when relapsing and people are beating themselves up while they are doing it. Healthy masturbation is not done to escape reality and rush oneself with dopamine. It is done, because we are sexual human beings. Think of it as food. You can eat junk food, or binge because you're frustrated and have a rush filled with instant gratification and regret, which deteriorates your body and your soul. Or, you can eat healthy, when you are hungry and indulge sweets every once in a while, if you stay balanced. You also don't masturbate healthily with porn, because it puts you in a very different state of mind, and I won't argue with that because I can't. Part of developing a healthy sexuality is actually having healthy orgasms. Like you need to have self love in order to receive love from others, it's difficult to receive pleasure from others if you can't receive true pleasure from yourself. When you masturbate, it comes from a place of sexual arousal. You take your time, and do what feels right. This is all about feeling yourself. You let go of your thoughts and rationality. Just listen to your body. If you're feeling aroused, you can go with it. If you don't, leave it be. Just go with what feels right and relax. Pay close attention to how it feels down there. In your belly. And wherever else you might feel it. Experiment with yourself, try different things and take your time. Start slooooow. Keep in mind that the journey is the goal. Relearning how to touch yourself requires time. When it comes to fantasizing, maybe you're better of not to fantasize in the beginning and to completely focus on the bodily experience. When you feel a little more confident, you can indulge in some fantasizing. Don't 'seek' for the perfect fantasy. Your imagination can be a thriving place of creativity and source of sexual arousal for others. Go with the flow and whatever feels right. The key is to unleash your inner sexuality and let it come to live. You will learn about what arouses you and what makes you tick. From my past experience: The feelings and the orgasms are waaaaaay more intense than they ever were with porn. I also learned that I have very different things that get me going, depending on my mood. I actually started with abstaining just from porn for a while before I decided to include MO. It was not only way easier for me, because I could release the pressure from time to time, but I also felt that masturbation could be beneficial for me at times. It helped me relax and have inner peace. More than anything, I learned how stupid porn was in that it actually makes the experience worse. Naturally I tended to masturbate way less when I listened to my body (instead of artificial stimulus) and only did it when I was really in the mood. Of course, after masturbating I felt a little tired and hungry (I don't know if I'm the only one but anyways...) and I still felt good after the orgasm was over. In fact, I had a calmed sensation (a little similiar to that after sex) down there for about a day after I masturbated. I hope this was resourceful to some of you, especially if you're struggling getting those longer streaks. You can always step up the game by also quitting MO after you quit P. Please let me know what you think.