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The root of my addiction.

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by JoeBoneKnows, Oct 27, 2016.

  1. Oct 27, 2016 #1
    JoeBoneKnows

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    I realized that loneliness is the root of my problem. Watching porn makes me feel loved. Outside the fantasy, I'm a lonely person. I don't know what it is but I drive people away from me, even people that I truly care about. As a person, I'm shy and serious. Some label me as "boring". My biggest insecurity is somebody preferring somebody else over me. It has happened before and it keeps happening still with friends, love interests and family. It really kills my self esteem. My masturbation habits have got so chronic that I masturbate at least 10-12 times a day. This almost the same reason why I started abusing drugs and alcohol too. I wanted to CHANGE so people liked me and I would become a social person that maybe even my parents might accept me once more. It changed me temporarily, but I knew that these people didn't like me for who I truly was inside.
     
    JoeBoneKnows, Oct 27, 2016
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  2. Oct 28, 2016 #2
    D . J .

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    Joe,
    Man, I truly understand how you feel. Most of my life I was "the shy quiet guy". I am twice your age and I can tell you that there is nothing wrong with that. I do understand wanting to fit in and it sucks when you don't and others don't get you or like you as you are.
    What you beginning to realize is because you are not content with yourself, you don't feel that anyone wants you as your are so you push them away. PMO makes all of this even worse because you begin to teach yourself that the real world can't love you and you begin to love yourself even less.

    What you must understand is that it is all LIES!!!! Your view of yourself is a total lie!!!

    It is not wise to change yourself for people to like you because no matter how you change to please one group of people, another group won't like you. It is impossible to please everyone and even if you did, you would find yourself unhappy.

    Work on yourself. One the one thing about you and cherish it and build upon it.

    You will cross your path that appreciates boring people.

    By stopping M, you will see a "you" you have never seen before. A whole you that you can be comfortable with.
     
    D . J ., Oct 28, 2016
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  3. Oct 28, 2016 #3
    TheSaxMan

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    I feel your pain man.
    It is important to learn to deal with loneliness with other ways than PMO.
    I know what you mean by your biggest insecurity. I have the same insecurity.
    It is important to learn to be happy with yourself and not seek the approval of others.
    I struggle with this too.
     
    TheSaxMan, Oct 28, 2016
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  4. Oct 28, 2016 #4
    Jae

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    You have quite the stamina :p

    Maybe the issue isn't you. Maybe it's the people you surround yourself with. If they make you feel like shit, move on. Find people with similar interests. Most times, in my case anyways, family can be the most hurtful.
     
    Jae, Oct 28, 2016
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  5. Nov 8, 2016 #5
    badeae1

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    I know the exact feeling. The thought of being exposed as a fraud and called out at any moment. That is why I never had any girlfriend. It scares me that someone would actually value me for me. So I pushed them all away even the ones that cared to get to know me.

    I wish you the best. Please contact me so that we can help each other.
    Stay clean
     
    badeae1, Nov 8, 2016
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