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The Screw-PMO posts

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Deleted Account, May 19, 2015.

  1. I copy this from my own journal because @Kurapika said it would be a good idea. We'll see. I enhance it a bit, and I encourage you to add your own ideas as well. The more, the better.

    "Wow, would you look at that? Another post by me! This time it might contain something actually useful. Just watch out because I'm gonna get religious again so take cover. Actually...nah, I changed my mind. Anyway. So I'm reading C.S.Lewis' Screwtape Letters which is a funny little book about how the demons might think about us. It's a fictional book about an older, wiser demons letters to his young and inexperienced cousin about the best ways to tempt men, and lead them to hell. While it's quite entertaining, it has some deep thoughts in it. And there is this idea of Mr. Screwtape or in hungarian, Csűrcsavar (could be re-translated as "twist and twirl" as the nature of the evil kingdom is to twist and pervert good things) that his cousin should keep the persons mind (who he is tempting) thinking what might happen to him, instead on what who he should be doing. In the book it's about a war, but this is a kind of war as well, so it can apply.

    So, that's the idea I want to write about. Thinking about what might happen to us, instead of doing what we should be doing in the present. I think it could be linked to PMO, because from the main idea of the book it is easy to see, that PMO is a trick of the devil. Or if you don't want a religious tone in it, "it's just something bad." Okay?
    So what comes to your mind when you have an urge? I think you feel bad. Really uncomfortable. You want a release real bad. Now there is two things that occurs:
    -What you should be doing.
    -What you think can happen to you.

    Let's start with this latter one. "What you think that can happen to you?" Maybe:
    -If I don't PMO, this urge will last FOREVER.
    -If I don't PMO I'll feel depressed FOREVER.
    -If I don't PMO I will have blue balls FOREVER.
    -If I don't MO, I WILL HAVE prostate cancer.
    -If I don't PMO I will NEVER fall asleep.
    -If I don't PMO, I will feel nervous ALL THE TIME.
    -I'll be single FOREVER, so I might as well PMO.
    -My spouse, gf, bf will NEVER do that for me, I shouldn't even ask. Might as well PMO.
    And much much more. You get the idea. You think about possibilities and uncertainties as facts and assurances. Even temporary things will feel like they are permanent, unlikely things will feel as sure things, and lies will sound as truths. That's a place in your brain where you don't want to be. Or a demon tempts you to PMO. Whatever.

    Now for the other one. "What should I be doing now?" Maybe:
    -Get the f*ck out of the computer.
    -Get out of the room.
    -Run away.
    -Pray, meditate, or make scrambled eggs.
    -Do some exercises.
    -Bang head on the wall.
    -Do a cartwheel. (You know what? If you can watch porn and masturbate while doing a cartwheel, you can do it. It won't count as a relapse! I swear! I would seriously consider making money in a circus with that kind of talent.)
    - Whatever you feel you should be doing.

    So, what is the conclusion? That's up to you. Where do you want to keep your focus? In the uncertain future? Or in the sure now?
    As the friendly G-Man said: "Time to choose Mr. Freeman. Time to choose.""

    Only accept anything if it sounds true to you. Not necessarily if you like it, but if it sounds true. Right? :)
     
  2. Cooldude4

    Cooldude4 Fapstronaut

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    @EarthDragon , this is an insightful post and really tells about what can or could happen.
    Changing the focus is the key. a tool to prevent relapse.
    I personally do exercise, read, go out cycling, take a pause. BUT this is to prevent relapse.
    After certain time (like what I feel right now) I feel much more stronger that I can have peace with urges. and it does not trigger me any more, may be I have developed a state of mind which automatically tries to divert from the pixels and focusses on the real thing.

    Good one!!
     

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