The secret

This is what I realized after reaching rock bottom, seeing no way out of this but to realize the Truth of this addiction. I held on to feelings of bitterness, anger and anxiety for years til I could not take it anymore and decided I did not want to live life this negatively anymore. I thought I felt like that because of what happend to me and what dumb decisions I made (fapping), I got it wrong, I did these things because of my negative emotions which made me act out things that made me feel even more like it.

The reason that you want to reach 90 days or do NoFap in general is because you want to avoid the emotions fapping and porn gives you. The longer you can avoid those negative feelings, the better you feel since you are now feeling "less worse".

This is huge. It flips the approach. If you fap you normally get the feelings of defeat and anxiety (because you cant function optimally in daily life)

If you dont fap, you do not get these emotions. <---> if you resist to be negative emotionally then you wont fap. If you continue to let yourself be negative you will always sooner or later relapse.

YOU FAP TO COPE WITH THE NEGATIVE FEELINGS IN YOUR LIFE! Your inner world controls your other world and the desicions you make! You cant reverse this! Only temporary! You may not believe it, but you have absolute control over your feelings, its a mindset you choose. You can decide that the feelings of defeat, anxiety and shame no longer is you.

If you can control your emotions, you can control your outcome in life. You are no longer a victim. You are now instead the captain of your own destiny. You dont need willpower! What you need is love and positive emotions! If you inhabitate love for life you wont feel the need to fap! This is the secret! Mind over matter.