the sexual transmutation-trick that made NoFap effortless for me!

Discussion in 'Abstinence, Retention, and Sexual Transmutation' started by KaelDenna, Apr 13, 2019.

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  1. realmineralsalt

    realmineralsalt Fapstronaut

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    Excellent way to put it, OP! This has been part of my realizations as well, after starting my relationship with my GF. The fake stuff (videogames, anime, hentai, porn, news binging, etc) just can't satisfy me anymore.
     
  2. Lirudu

    Lirudu Fapstronaut

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    I didn't succeed very well myself in the challenge though... until now
    some things stay in the shadow it seems
    but I don't give up, I will succeed, somehow...
    and be changed along the way!

    So on this way... I want to share a small experience that goes into this thread
    Yesterday night, got again very fixated on fantasies with a certain person
    As a habit, conditioning, of going to bed and becoming fixated on what I 'should not'
    (still the repressing conflict is lingering always around the corner)

    So didn't want to repress not give in to the urge of acting,
    instead I gave in to my fixation and fixated even more,
    wanting to inquire, believing in what was going on, following it, being curious instead of afraid
    what is it really all about?
    and what do I really want from it?

    That seems to be a good method
    although method feels too much like a technique to get rid of something
    no, I would advice you guys: did you ever inquire into the nature of your 'urges'?
    meaning: asking yourself what I you are really experiencing right now in your body, heart and mind?
    without repressing, without acting out, just naturally being curious without constructions
    ask questions to it and believe there is a truth
    a truth that will reveal something new
    something beyond the cycle you already repeated a thousand times
    and always got the same result of it
    learning nothing new
    and gaining nothing more!

    anyhow, my inquiry became very focused on what is so attractive of that place I'm so fixated on?
    well... I did not get such a deep insight or clarity about the issue
    but it only became clear that the flesh is in fact repulsive and no way that's what I'm interested in, on the contrary
    and just for that night, I realised that in fact I was cold, so I prepared a hot-water bottle
    and naturally let go of the fixation, enjoying the spreading of energy again through my whole body
    and falling asleep

    nothing special, but a stronger belief that there is nothing to be afraid of
    but the more to be explored and discovered

    let's share about our own inquiries on urges in the moment!
    good luck to all!
     

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