The Sins of Our Fathers

Interesting theme: The sins of our fathers.
I believe that patterns are not inherited by the DNA but by spiritual principles.
As a Christian, I 've studied the holy bible and this resonates perfectly on this theme.
It's in Exodus 7:
Keeping mercy for thousands, forgiving iniquity and transgression and sin, and that will by no means clear the guilty; visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children, and upon the children's children, unto the third and to the fourth generation.

This is the principle that works in every parent-child relationship.
Everything that my father did wrong (no matter the cause or the reason), I have to deal with it.
If I don't deal with it, my children will be burdened with that behavior as well.
If I deal with it, and forgive my father for what he did wrong, my children will be free from that behavior.

And more: if my grand-grand-father killed somebody, his children, grand children etc will be pay for it spiritually.
Somebody has to deal with it spiritually, then the chain will be broken and the power of the sin will be eliminated.

There is very much to say about this. It's really worth to do some research on this area, and check out what the bible is learning you on this area.

It's exactly the reason why a son has the intention to develop an alcohol addiction.
It's the reason why a woman with an alcoholic father chooses the alcoholic men as partner.
It's the reason that the mother who is abused (and not dealt with it) will abuse her children on her turn.
It's the reason that the son who felt rejected by his father, will not be able to love his son, giving him the experience of rejection on his turn.

 

I know at some point my father was addict to porn, doesn't seems to be the case anymore. That's actually my role model. I never talked to him about that but I always felt proud of him for letting this go.

 

My father is an Alcohol Addict and Abusive as well. He harasses My mom Mentally, Physically and Sexually. Theirs always quarell going on. My mom is a caring women and nourished me and My Elder sister with Love. PMO was an Escapism for me. I'm Dead serious that I ain't going to touch alcohol in my life and Never had in the past. We Always have a choice and Freedom to Choose. Being on Nofap and Getting into self Improvement was the best decision I ever made. I deal with most of the problems head on. All I'm having problem is that I'm not able to focus that well on My studies but I'll Improve in it as well, peace!

 

I’m 45 and while in SA recovery I came to realize my grandfather was a sex addict and my father is as well. My grandfather walked around nude, swam nude and would leave the bathroom door open as he blew dry his hair and his pubes. He left the TV on porn channels after everyone has gone to sleep to the surprise of my older cousin and I who would get up looking for cartoons. Three guesses as to what my cousin tried with me: JO, oral and anal. My father always made sexual comments about women, also had porn hidden which I found and to this day thinks it’s normal. I will agree guys talk with guys more direct. I’m sure girls do the same thing. Ultimately, it’s up to what we do with it that matters and without a reference point how do you know of it’s a problem? I want my kids to know it’s ok and natural to do some things with your body. A lot of my issues got cocooned by shame and insecurities. Alone though doing what I continued to fantasize about became my reality. Exploring with others and ABS as I got older. The cocoon got larger and larger. Now all I want is Connection and more passion in sex. Is actually difficult for me to be ready if it’s just us going at it.

 

Let’s stop this sin in our generation. Let’s create a movement in Nofap that builds a rebellion against the foolish and weak addictions of our fathers and ourselves. Never before in history has so many been aware of what should have been known long ago: that sexual discipline, and semen retention, are 100% necessary to reach one’s potential, and grow in harmony with God and nature