1. We currently have a backlog of 15,837 pending new accounts stuck in the spam filter. For now, we've turned off forum registrations. We currently do not have the resources to accept new users.
    Dismiss Notice

The START 2021 STRONGER Challenge [CLOSED]

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by Deleted Account, Sep 3, 2020.

  1. banana man

    banana man Fapstronaut

  2. Hey Man I Too Want To Enroll For This, Take Me In Please :)
    BrohkenCompass and Say_Goodbye like this.
  3. John Uskglass

    John Uskglass Fapstronaut

    Can I still get in?
  4. New Focus

    New Focus Fapstronaut

    These are the words that I have been contemplating since beginning this challenge. They are wise words. This challenge is for sure the launchpad, but I also know I could complete this challenge with 100+ days but only made that my goal, I will relapse in January, but in reality I would be lucky to get past September, according to my history.

    I have made some changes to facilitate change. The motivation from this challenge is also playing a part. I have been in this fight for a very long time and consider this my last chapter. I need to succeed.

    Day 3.
  5. Adding all to the LEGENDS Tier after I get back from the gym.

    Good luck to all. I know you will GROW. For the record enrollment closes 30 Sep to get 90 + days and reach Platinum Tier so you're good.

    That could change, maybe we'll just let people come in and get 40 in December if they find us late....start stronger, right?; not sure on that one yet....

    The gym... That's right fellas. 545a wake up. Gym time. This will be my primary outlet during these weeks we have left. Running and walking and cycling too.

    Starting weight....260.
    Last edited by a moderator: Sep 22, 2020
    Jefe Rojo and Kingler like this.
  6. You and me both! We have to change our very character, which is no easy task. It helps me to replay my relapses in my mind to try and see where I went wrong. How could I have avoided that situation all together?
    Say_Goodbye likes this.
  7. Mpho017

    Mpho017 Fapstronaut

  8. PegasusKid

    PegasusKid Fapstronaut

    This makes a lot of sense. I used to do it like this where if I relapsed, I wouldn't really keep track of the exact time so much as the day but I think tracking the exact hour helps me because it reminds me that at some point around 7 am I broke. And every time I make it past 7 am(or in other words getting out of bed without PMO) is already a victory for me. Bed is my biggest and only trigger really as I live with two other people, so if I can wake up without pmo and go to sleep without pmoing to sleep, I'm pretty much good for the day. Today I got out of bed with energy and no urges cause I actually got good sleep for once so, day 3 secure.
  9. Good to have a grasp of our biggest challenges/ triggers, etc. I won't lie, sometimes I feel like I'm standing on the sidewalk and somebody just passes by and pushes me into the street in front of an oncoming bus....That bus is Porn. The guy that pushes me...is me, but also not me. I'm working on it.
  10. Steppingintotheunkown

    Steppingintotheunkown Fapstronaut

    Thank you @Jefe Rojo. I can relate to what you said. I gave up porn in 2014, I smashed my phone with a hammer and destroyed me tablet by smashing it up with a metal pole. I went for one year without the Internet, got a basic brick phone and and began my recovery. It was an extreme battle but 6 years on and I don't crave pornography anymore, it really doesn't do anything for me. It seems very cheap, tacky and disgusting. Compared to the nofap life porn just doesn't cut it. Like youself I still have fetishs which I want to get rid off. My new drug is going into chatrooms and having sex talk with others who have the same fetish, this has been a problem for about 18 months. I was kidding myself thinking to myself that what I was doing was ok because it was with another human, unlike watching porn. But its just like porn, it effects me in the same way. Like porn it's the searching side that gets me, searching for people to have the same fetish chat with. It needs to stop.
    Say_Goodbye, Kingler and Jefe Rojo like this.
  11. tonyk1982

    tonyk1982 Fapstronaut

    Yes - I've put in my journal much the same feeling. "That guy" who is pushing you in front of the bus, or making me grab the phone and search for P - is The Addict in us. The Addict that is in many of us that takes over our logical brain and causes us to act out. I've stood in front of the mirror to look at The Addict and acknowledge his presence that is in fact me. And then I try to use any coping skill I can to not allow my addiction to run my life at that moment. And then prepare for the next moment in the constant struggle.
  12. thabo

    thabo Fapstronaut

    I am in
    I have allowed PMO and last to rule over my life but no more.

    Attached Files:

    Say_Goodbye and Kingler like this.
  13. MountainSea

    MountainSea Fapstronaut

    I agree with the adjustment to a strike system vs. day counter. Keeps you accountable even if you relapse. Let's go everyone! We are all capable of achieving this goal.

    If I offered you a million bucks to get through today without masturbation and pornography, do you think you could do it? Of course you would. What if I put a gun to your head and said if you watch porn or masturbate in the next 7 days you'll be dead? You'd do whatever it takes! Even as far as cementing your hands and taping your eyes shut if that was necessary.

    In reality, breaking this addiction is worth more than a million dollars. It's your happiness, your relationships with loved ones, and finding your true self. If that knowledge isn't enough to beat your most subversive self then let's put a metaphorical gun to our heads. I've been having trouble breaking the 14 day mark so gave myself a major carrot/stick incentive and it has been working.

    What is a carrot/stick you can put in place for yourself to ensure that will start 2021 90 days PM free and that much closer to becoming the person you are destined to be.
  14. Got you in @thabo . Welcome to the challenge. Truly hoping this is the game changer for us all. Best of luck!

    Say_Goodbye likes this.
  15. Whatever it is, at least you recognize it brother. I was oblivious for so many years...
  16. This is it everybody. The Challenge [REALLY] begins today. I encourage you to go to page one, post one. See that? That is your name right at the top of the leaderboard. Nobody in the forum can beat you, or strip you of that but YOU.

    When we started this was a one & done challenge. I've been on the other challenges. The other forums. I've seen it....
    I've seen many people fall victim of the ease to just type "Relapsed, back again". I don't want that. I've done it. 19 damn times this year....

    We changed it up to a 5 strikes rule - but we all want the same thing. 100 days (90 day REBOOT).

    DO NOT negotiate with your addict. Do not settle for silver when you are a fucking LEGEND!!! We all put our name on the sign up roster. It's not signed with blood - but it should be. This fight is for your life...take it back.
  17. I want to cut his fucking head off and spit down his throat. I am killing this addict in me...for good.
  18. New Focus

    New Focus Fapstronaut

    I am pretty stoked about doing this challenge. To be clear, the strikes take precedence over the actual amount of days, correct. I could theoretically relapse for the next 4 days, then stay the course the remainder of the year, collecting 97 days, which is the Platinum tier, but will only qualify for the Bronze tier. Is this correct?

    I was also wondering, @BrohkenCompass , if you would consider hosting a "Clean in 2021" Challenge as a way to embed the success that we will gain in this challenge. I have been around a long time and have seen it many times when a "goal" is achieved before the old ways come back as a "reward"

    Well, food for thought anyway. Checking in as I begin Day 4...
  19. No Sir. You get a strike today, I demote to Platinum because the cutoff has not come....02 October. 2nd strike tomorrow, Gold with two xx.

    If your first strike is December 10th I'd demote you to Silver. It's where you land going IN To 2021.

    Finish 2020 strong. Start 2021 on a streak. The point is to not wait until new years to change. Also - the idea is that the reboot is successful, you hit 100 days, feel great, never go back. Will that happen for many? I don't know- but we're keeping it positive vibes man.

    Don't touch yourself today, tomorrow, and keep getting one more day bro.

Share This Page