The START 2021 STRONGER Challenge [CLOSED]

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by BrohkenCompass, Sep 3, 2020.

  1. tonyk1982

    tonyk1982 Fapstronaut

    BC - you've done well over these last few weeks. Weekends are tough for some of us married guys. You know this pattern and you'll figure out how to manage this. In the meantime we all appreciate your leadership of this group and are here to support your next streak. Stay strong my friend, stay strong all.
     
  2. BrohkenCompass

    BrohkenCompass Fapstronaut

    Noted. Hoping you'll pick yourself back up and take a deep breath, get through the rest of the weekend clean, and move forward.
     
  3. _Just_For_PRJ_

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  4. BrohkenCompass

    BrohkenCompass Fapstronaut

    Completely avoided porn and masturbation all day Sunday. I won't say my mind didn't throw me a ton of pitches trying to get me to swing, but I just tried to keep busy.

    I have earned that magical "1Day" badge back.
     
  5. tonyk1982

    tonyk1982 Fapstronaut

    Day 27 - The last few days been busy at work and with DIY home projects. Not much time or energy left for anything else. If I ran myself into ground every day from physical activity I'd probably never PMO. Thankful for a clean weekend.
     
  6. BrohkenCompass

    BrohkenCompass Fapstronaut

    GTFO here garbage man.
     
  7. gegenavenger

    gegenavenger Fapstronaut

    Checking in. Still Going. Going Okay.
     
  8. theforgotten1423

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    Thankyou so much buddy. This is going to help me alot. Just came back home yesterday and trying my best.
     
  9. Blue Clouds

    Blue Clouds Fapstronaut

    Glad to read BC. I have done the same. I have always felt that the 1 day badge is so motivating as it is symbolic of getting back into the game. It is the start of of our next great streaks!
     
  10. Teutão

    Teutão Fapstronaut

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    Day 19, no doubt it was the worst day on this streak, but managed to do it.
     
  11. espresso18

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    Day 13.

    I am absolutely convinced of my powerlessness.

    This is a good place to be. I don’t need to have power over this. What I do need is help from other people.

    I have heard the following:

    I am powerless, there is nothing I can do about it

    Or

    I am powerless, I am going to need help

    I like the latter version.

    cheers,
    Tim
     
  12. _Just_For_PRJ_

    _Just_For_PRJ_ Fapstronaut

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  13. Blue Clouds

    Blue Clouds Fapstronaut

    A little confused on the tiers. If I continue till Dec.31 clean, I will achieve 81 days, but I am in the 30-59 day tier. I am guessing because of the number of strikes?

    It really does not matter. All that matters right now is I can have my best streak since 2009 if I accomplish my goal right now.

    The fact is, as far as this challenge goes, I failed back when I first joined, however, I know I still need to gain motivation going into the New Year, which is more than numbers.

    Good luck to all in our goals.
     
  14. espresso18

    espresso18 Fapstronaut

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    Start of day 14 ...

    Probably the main symptom that I feel the most is no libido. I suppose I’ll take that over a hyperactive starved feeling. However, I’m in a long term relationship so this is challenging to say the least.

    It’s a difficult task, for me, to be able to walk in another person’s shoes. I have difficulty with empathy. My reaction is to always have the other person understand what “I” am going through. I always make it about “me”.

    Porn addiction is a major contributor this self centered view on life.

    Today it would be good to forget about myself and my feelings, enough, to be there for someone else.

    Happy Tuesday,
    Tim
     
  15. tonyk1982

    tonyk1982 Fapstronaut

    Day 29 - a calm last night and morning so far. At least for this present moment, my mind seems to be clearing a bit of the PMO storms (by this I mean imagery, memories of P that would present in my mind as objectified parts of women's bodies, which would urge me to look at more of that and then act out). The concept of objectification is significant in my mind, and I'm just thinking through this now. It seems that addressing the root cause of this focus on particular female body parts disconnected from the rest of her overall human being may be helpful. A body part does not exist on its own; it is attached to a person, that person should be respected. Maybe if I can take that P image and immediately relate it to the person overall (not in a sexual way) it might become less of a trigger. Kind of reprogramming my P memories, or even current P-sub images such as in person or other media, to disconnect the previous thought pattern of what would happen in those situations. But, I go back to my IRL situation with an attractive wife who meets my physical ideal and how that ramps up my desire when I look at her. This IRL environment has to be managed so as not to cause the objectification and subsequent behavior pattern. I'm four months into nofap journey and these are the more complex issues I'm facing, that I didn't even know about when I started. Stay strong today everyone.
     
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  16. gegenavenger

    gegenavenger Fapstronaut

    Checking in for a Stronger 2021.
     
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  17. BrohkenCompass

    BrohkenCompass Fapstronaut

    When we started it was one strike and you're out. As that evolved so did the system, so yes for each strike you lose the potential for attaining the associated tier level. Go 89 days and relapse at the end of December.... Bronze Tier. It's all about going into 2021 on JAM 1st with as many days as possible. And not relapsing often, of course.
     
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  18. BrohkenCompass

    BrohkenCompass Fapstronaut

    Exactly... Just hit your marks. These challenges are for entertainment purposes at best. I too relapsed and will only reach at best - 80 something days. But if I do succeed at that.... WOW. Game changer
     
  19. BrohkenCompass

    BrohkenCompass Fapstronaut

    Checking in. Feeling good. Made it out of that jam I got myself into quickly. And I accidentally stumbled onto some "sexy pics" from my personal stash. No nudes or graphic sex, etc. but I did see my lady looking smoking hot and not so dressed and I managed to scroll right outta there and keep moving. Could've easily dragged me right back into PMO Hell, but it did not.
     

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