The START 2021 STRONGER Challenge [CLOSED]

Awesome @Sifo-Dyas . So happy to add another person and see how much of an impact we can make! Best of luck, stay strong. Wishing you strength to make it all the way.

 

Im at day 40, def in a flatline. Which is a blessing in that by the time i work and workout im pretty much cooked for the day and just wanna eat and sleep.

Im staying wary for the end of the flatline cuz with surging energy comes possible urges!

I AM NO FOOL!!! （笑）

 

I modified the challenge rules. I realize everyone is here for something different, but if you're trying to cut porn and the dopamine rush it creates, then MO is a likely 2nd place as it's like the gateway drug to PMO.

Similar to porn. At first, a playboy mag with some titties was all I wanted to get off. The penthouse had the "sex pics" and was more hardcore. Then video came about and even R rated movie sex was enough to get me revved up. Finally I moved to x rated porn and sex and oral stuff was good enough, but eventually you keep going further... Look at these Porn sites now with bondage, groups, s&M, anal, rape fantasy, old, young, black, brown, yellow, sleeping, drugged, gay, cuck, cheating, maids, nurses, voyeur, whipped, pissed on, etc and etcetera. It just keeps going, right? When do we shut that down. How long before getting with a hot babe isn't even enough to make you horny? I'll tell you how long.... 30 years. Give or take. That's how long it took my dick to not get hard when my wife is standing right in front of, hot and ready, and I can;t even get hard enough for her to enjoy it. But fire up some porn, and voila look at me go.

I think edging is just another cheaters way of saying they aren't doing something wrong. I mean if you can find a guy that edges 3 times a week, never orgasms, and is loving life then by all means - friend that guy, and follow his script. But I think its more like, Edge - Edge - MO - PMO - RELAPSE - Report - Repeat. What good can come from it other than sore balls? But for this challenge, specifically, I have made it so that edging is not exactly off limits. Proceed with caution buddy. If I recall correctly you're nearly 20 years younger than I. I pray you're never like me, looking at your wife, unable to make love to her.

 

Edging is always the beginning of the end for my streaks. The accountability group is looking great and the updated rules using the tiers is a good idea. I did also like the initial one relapse and you're out rule but if that's the only thing keeping me clean then I'm probably doing it wrong anyway. We can all stick together now until the end of the year.

Hope everyone is staying strong, day 3 here.

 

Day 6 Check in! Let's continue this journey!
Together we win brothers and sisters!

 

That's awesome. No referral rewards program here though. Just kidding.... welcome to the challenge @Scapegoat . Glad to have you.

 

Reminder to all...we are still building towards the 20 September deadline to join.

I'm open to ideas and will make final adjustments, if any, to the rules. It is likely that relapses will not fully eliminate folks from participating. However if you feel strongly that this should be the case or not, please speak up.

The key is to try to be your best self come next year, even if that means only attaining a few good streaks. October 3rd going to be an important date to mark on your mental calendar. A "point of no return" if you will. Those who relapse after then, will not be able to get a full 90 day reboot in before 01 JAN. That said, many of you will reach multiple days not acting out and streaks that you're still only hoping to be able to achieve. Whatever success you have, be confident that you WILL be stronger come Jan.

Consider how many days the old you would have used porn and acted out without being here - on NoFap. The old me would have used PMO literally every day. But not any more. At the present moment of this post I am at 77% clean for all cumulative days in 2020. Think about that and how it could change your situation.
Progress is powerful. Growth is empowering.
I hope you all find your way.

 

106 days left this year. 2021 is right around the corner.

WHO ACCEPTS THIS CHALLENGE?

 

Nobody leaves here a failure. The only way to fail this challenge is to look at porn for 100 nights and masturbate daily and keep living the same life you're trying to change.

 

For your consideration.

 

Doesn't matter how long you go. You've got to get through THIS day to get to the NEXT day. Small bites, brother.

 

Day 7 Check in!!

 

Yessir. I have found many folks in there to be very supportive and also wise enough to provide the keen perspective that a husband, a father, a career man, etc might be looking for. Definitely spend some time looking around the 40+ and see if you feel the same.

As for ringing in 2021 stronger, consider yourself added. 105 days to go. Welcome to the challenge.