The story of my sexual health deterioration

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by grozaa, Feb 5, 2019.

  1. grozaa

    grozaa Fapstronaut

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    Hello everyone. I am a boy and my age is 20. When I was 10 years old , I started watching porn and also started getting addicted to masturbating(to which I am still addicted).

    I have been so addicted to masturbating that I constantly masturbated on average of 3-4 times per day for 10 years(really I mean it). Now from past 1 year , I am able to see my sexual health getting ruined very badly. I have never been in any relationship and I am still a virgin.

    I think masturbation has ruined my life because I look too old(like 30-35 years old). Due to this , I have no friends in college and I have hardly ever talked to any girl in last 5-6 years(except my mother and sister).I am getting bald and those hairs which are left on my head are getting white. I think I was suffering from depression last year but then I got a job and from then I started feeling a bit happy and positive.

    My sexual health is just horrible. I ejaculate very early(mostly within 10 seconds after starting watching porn even with mild rub on penis). I suffer from erectile dysfunction as my erection doesn't last for even 20 seconds.My penis is also very short(<10 cm). Apart from these I also urinate very frequently , so I doubt that I from suffering from diabetes also. I just can't believe what I have done to myself.

    I have just signed up on this website and hope to get rid of my addiction to masturbation and porn. I want to ask you guys that if I somehow stop masturbating completely for 1-2 years(although it is very difficult for me) , then can it renew my sexual health or I am just too late and nothing can be done now?

    Sorry for my bad English.
     
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  2. Minsc

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    Hi grozaa,

    You've done well to come here as you've seen a problem to overcome. My advice is to focus on the 90-Day challenge to get started. No need to think of abstaining for 1-2 years, it's too much to think about in your current state of mind. Stopping porn and masturbation is no quick fix to making you a better person. Get yourself to 90 days then go from there. Head over to the journals forums and read experiences of those who came before. Make your own journal, some find it to help. Remember, this is just one of many starting points to improving your life. Eventually you'll reach a point where you find yourself in a better place.

    Take care fellow.
     
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  3. lavandero

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    Hi grooza! I am very sure your problem is not for the masturbation, and it's just your depression or your genetics.

    I am 40 years old and I started to masturbate on 12 years old, maybe too much during the last 11 years (i am without serious girlfriend since 2007).

    My look is about 28-30 years old, not more. I could lie to any girl with that theme if I want flirt with a twenty-x years girl. I dont have any white hair or bald hair.

    I recommend you of course the 90day challenge nofap, but most important indeed is practice sport every day and eat healthy, sleep your hours, and dont consume alcohol or drugs.
     
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  4. IGY

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    He has clearly got an addiction to porn which he has been watching for half his young life! He also states "my sexual health is just horrible" and gives examples. These consequences are not from depression or genetics. I am not saying every thing will improve when he recovers from his addiction to porn and compulsive masturbation, but most of it will.
     
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  5. lavandero

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    Sorry, i explained bad. Obvious he has the addiction to pmo, and he is depressed and his relations are bad for it. When he stops pmo his life will improve and also his healthy.

    But, when he told:
    "I am getting bald and those hairs which are left on my head are getting white."

    I believe it's for genetics or stress, not for the pmo (i'm not a doctor, maybe i am wrong :confused:). I have a friend who when he had 17 years old lost big part of his hair in one year.
     
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  6. IGY

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    OK, I understand now. :)
     
  7. grozaa

    grozaa Fapstronaut

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    Thanks minsc , djchals and IGY for replying. I dont think its genetic because my father is 51 years old and he didn't loose his hairs. I googled side effects of masturbation and there I found that hair loss is one of them. So , I mentioned it here.

    By the way can you guys tell will my sexual health(like erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation) will improve if I quit masturbation for very long?

    Just to mention whether it helps or not , I am gonna try my best to quit porn and masturbation.
     
  8. IGY

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    I doubt it. In your head, maybe you do. But I have never known anyone aged 20 that looks 30 and I have known some wankers, lol :p
    Yes! This is the biggest and best gain from stopping porn and masturbation and orgasm (PMO) until you are rebooted. It may take a year or more, but you will recover. Regarding your penis, 4 inches or 10cm is average (approx) if you are an Asian boy. But the global average is over an inch or 2.5 cm more. I assume you mean when you have an erection. The length of your penis when soft is irrelevant. Chronic masturbation has no effect on penis length. It is what it is I'm afraid.
     
  9. grozaa

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    Thanks for telling this. That gave me more motivation to quit this bad habit .

    I am not that much concerned about penis size at this moment as I believe that masturbation has no effect on size and hence it is what it is. And yes I am an Asian boy. My main concern is premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction.

    Not just in my mind. I have seen many kids , many girls and boys of my age calling me uncle. Whenever I tell someone my age is 20 they either say I am lying or just give me a weird smile. And also my family members are saying that they want me to get married as soon as possible because they think if I waited more , then no girl will ever marry me as I will have either no hair on my head or all white hairs like old peoples.In my country arranged marriage is more preferred over love marriage , thats why they talk like this.
     
  10. IGY

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    That's great, because those that struggle are often those that are not highly motivated. But knowing you can restore your physical and sexual health is a huge incentive, I agree. :)
     
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  11. Ash.k

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    Hey there :) im feeling your post man, i can read the angst you are feeling off the page, i want to tell you that firstly your being brave as hell by sharing, and that is a very masculine and worthy trait to embody, and secondly i beleive the body to be resilient and intelligent independant of our minds, and that with your bravery that you have shown you will get better. Thank u for sharing man
     
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  12. grozaa

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    Thanks Ansh.k . I actually didn't share any of this with anyone in personal except one of my cousins. So , I was seeking some platform to share all these. First I thought of Quora but I found this site more useful.
     
  13. Omar.stam

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    Hey Groza, I finally found a case very similar to mine. I am a young 25-year-old Latin American, I started masturbating a lot since I was 13 years old and now I have the same problems as you, I suffer from erectile dysfunction (except premature ejaculation), and thanks to NoFab I know that I will be able to have normal erections again. I want to get rid of this, have a normal sex life (it's been very bad so far). I would like to continue talking with you to share our progress. encourage! We are young and it will be easier to recover from this. I have only 4 days without masturbating, my goal is the first 90 days and continue. Finally, it is normal that you feel old, all that will end. let's keep fighting with this shit to win.
     
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