The trap

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by TENK, Sep 11, 2020.

  1. TENK

    TENK Fapstronaut

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    Hello guys.
    So I will get straight to the point. This is my third year attempting nofap. I first discovered it end of 2017, in November somewhere there. I decided I was going to win from there. Then I discovered how difficult it was, with initial streaks of 10 days, max 17.... I kept on getting back up, beginning of 2018 was even worse. Most of the time I couldn't even get past 7 days. Until June when my mother passed away. I was so broken that the thought of fapping never ever crossed my mind. I reached around 40 days since then. Then I went back to my old habit. 2019 I feel it was my best year, I was more focused with this, and felt like I would beat this addiction in this year. The highest I have gone in 2019 was 65 days.... this was end of 2019. 2020 the situation just made things worse for me, since the lockdown I struggle to go past even 4 days. I'm becoming so depressed. I don't know what kind of actions I should take.... I always feel like giving up but I know very well that it won't solve anything, I just feel like I need help desperately, my mind has become so corrupt, I'm becoming awkward and anxious again. Mostly I relapse at night time. Almost everyday I hear a voice in my head telling me to go and fap and I just cannot resist, the things that I used to do to prevent myself from relapsing don't even work anymore. Like listening to music, cold showers, exercise.... taking a walk. I feel like I'm really stuck and I don't know what to do, the thought of it all just makes me cry sometimes. I'm becoming such a bitch and it's pissing me off!!!! It's disgusting how I know what this is doing to me but I still can't fight it. I need help guys, what can I do to beat this. I'm really out of ideas, I can't do this alone anymore. Your help will be much appreciated guys.
     
  2. InappropriateUsername

    InappropriateUsername Fapstronaut

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    It's hard to quit. I'm on my 15th? 20th reboot to get past my longest no-PMO streak: 100+ days.

    I kinda of think of that voice as a little. Demon in your head. You have to learn to not listen to it. It will make excuses and provide reasons to gap.

    But you need good habits in place to replace bad ones. If you get the temptation, what are you going to do? What do you do to stay busy and distracted? Are you hanging out with people socially? Staying offline as much as possible? Exercising? Eating right? Sleeping enough?
     
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  3. alphakadabro

    alphakadabro Fapstronaut

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    PMO is primarily an Internet Addiction. You need to fundamentally change your relationship with technology. PMO addicts use technology in a hedonistic way. Healthy adults use technology in a functional way.

    Your phone and laptop - and the internet itself - are brilliant tools for work, study and communication. You need to alter your attitude towards life generally from pleasure-seeking to creating meaning.

    I wrote a post with my best advice:
    https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/my-1-tip-change-your-environment.288435/
     
  4. alphakadabro

    alphakadabro Fapstronaut

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    PMO is primarily an Internet Addiction. You need to fundamentally change your relationship with technology. PMO addicts use technology in a hedonistic way. Healthy adults use technology in a functional way.

    Your phone and laptop - and the internet itself - are brilliant tools for work, study and communication. You need to alter your attitude towards life generally from pleasure-seeking to creating meaning.

    I wrote a post with my best advice:
    https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/my-1-tip-change-your-environment.288435/
     

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