The urge is serious right now.

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by champloo, Mar 10, 2016.

  1. champloo

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    All i can think about is my favorite pornstars and if they have any new videos up im dying inside :mad:
     
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  2. Darkstar 22.84

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    Think about that guy who could be having great sex with real people and is not doing it, between he jerks off to pixels, instead.
     
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  3. champloo

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    Hmmm that hit really hard :(
     
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  4. Darkstar 22.84

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    I know, right? It's because I've been exactly where you are.
    Don't give in. Even though it sounds tempting, it's an illusion. You'll grow out of this, stronger and hornier than every before.
    What if you were going on a date today?
    How would you prefer to be around the girl? Ask yourself that and you got your answer.
     
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  5. Ikindaknew

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    How do you know that new videos are posted?
    You have to severe all links. Are you receiving notifications of new videos? Are you paying for that stuff?
    If you really want to stop, you have to work hard to move to FLATLINE land.

    If you reach the flatline zone, you won't get any sexual arousal without being with a real sex partner.

    If you want to get there, you have to completely wipe your mind from any porn and sex thoughts except for in bed with partner...

    Leave the "favorite" pornstar alone...she doesn't know you, doesn't love you...you don't make enough money for her...she is a gold digger of the modern age!!!!
     
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  6. MarcusA

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    I feel the same way and even when I read erotic stories it makes it even worse because I torment my mind for hours before giving in. In my opinion it's just better to close the laptop or try to browse the internet in a public library. That is what I'm testing right now and it seems to be working.

    I've been wondering how the fuck I could last for two entire weeks for the past two days (before relapsing) and it just hit me. I need to control my imagination by feeding my mind with thoughts other than porn, by listening to podcasts or reading books and I can tell you that today, even though it's my 1st of nofap no porn after relapsing I did not feel a thing. Normally I would be crawling on the floor pleading that I will not masturbate and 5 minutes later wondering why my pants are down and reaching for the nearest kleenex box.

    For a guy (like me) who was watching porn habitual for almost ten years an empty mind is a dirty mind.
     
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  7. How does this make you feel? When I ask that I don't mean, "do you feel bad ABOUT it?" I always feel bad about shit going the wrong way, like getting tempted. I am wondering how it feels to you, like in your body, in your head, heart, emotionally, etc. Do these cravings feel good? Without judgement. I usually feel pain in my groin or occasionally the heart. I am wondering how it feels to you. If you don't want to talk about it that's cool.
     
  8. Hellboy123

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    Until you can recognise the pathetic fake person inside of you that thinks there is a relationship between said pornstar, you will not progress on your path.

    It's not real. Everything that comes from that PMO experience is fake. It's not a real feeling.

    You. Are. Addicted.

    You can do better for yourself.

    Go outside as soon as possible. Take a walk. Leave your phone at home. Just be with your own thoughts.
     
  9. kk76

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    Not easy to fill it and when its missing its usual fix it wants to remind you what you are missing much like the body telling you its hungry
     
  10. goinstrong

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    Will you be any better off an hour from now? Physically, emotionally, spiritually?

    Do something that satisfies those instead
     
  11. Gladiatori

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    @champloo Aha tis true :D. Jerking off to others having sex is for perverts! And people who can get laid! Dont be one! BE THE MAN WHOGETS IT!!!!! U have no more penis anymore! /wave magic wand! :p
     
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  12. MarcusA

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    I agree but this effect is only temporary. Much like a heroin addict who suffers excruciating pain for a few days until the withdrawal effects go away, giving up porn is going to result in some very insidious withdrawal effects but unlike hunger or physical pain, you can distract your mind if you concern yourself with other more important problems and topics that interest you.

    Try and you will notice a huge difference.
     
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  13. kk76

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    Yeah its lovely when im not in the addiction or the emotional hangover afterwards
     
  14. I used to have the same ideas bud. I would wonder about my favorites and what it would be like to take a glance back. BUT remember that you're most likely building these thoughts as a result of some kind of emotional issue you're trying to avoid. Don't run from the negative feelings, they're there to teach you something. Another thing, realize what you're doing. You're sitting in front of a screen, alone, and watching others have sex (fake btw). Show some self-respect don't fall for that trash. Face your emotions and you'll face the world... Face the world and you'll see the countless opportunities... And you'll be an even better version of yourself and I'm certain you'll get a chance of being with an ACTUAL WOMAN instead of a weak ass video. Stay strong guys! Overcoming the addiction is tough, but we're all a hell of a lot tougher.
     
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  15. numpty

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    You should be ashamed of yourself.

    There's people in this world who have no hands and they wonder how they going to earn or living or even put food in their mouth and rely on someone else to do this.

    You got two hands and all your thinking about is whacking off??!

    Use those hands for something good - disgraceful really!
     
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  16. @numpty your statement may be true, but give the dude some credit. All of us on this forum are that less than 1% of guys doing something most people wouldn't even consider. He's here working towards a better life just like everyone else on the forum. I agree, that there's many more things that he could be using his hands for. I just want to say we're here to build each other up not tear each other down. I have respect for anyone on the forum. With that said, numpty the way you give the advice should be more uplifting than being an attack on someone already struggling at the moment.
     
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  17. numpty

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    I was using reverse psychology - I was being "negative" so he can be "positive".

    I was going to write reverse psychology in my post but thought that would defeat the purpose of my post.

    He said he had a urge and people give the same old advice again and again - but sometimes that same old cure no longer works or isn't as effective so you have to try a different approach - there some advice for you too haha
     
  18. @numpty Its great that you want to offer support. If you're going to attempt to use reverse psychology make sure you brush up on what it actually is and how it works, its a common misconception that it is simply "negative" yields "positive" and vice versa. If it were the case it was reverse psychology, you would end up encouraging him to PMO and not feel ashamed. I'm not going to try to be fancy and use some jedi mind trick here (would be cool if I could though) but using psychological ploys are counterproductive when not done properly. But keep up the good work my man and anyone else reading this!
     

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