The Urge Quelling Thoughts Thread

This is a thread to share thoughts that quell urges. Whatever you can think of that makes an urge to fap subside. Thoughts that weaken lust, but increase love. Post any thoughts at all that reduce cravings. I will start with this thought,

What kind of Dad are you? If you are not a Dad, do you think you would make a good Father? Would a good Dad set an example for their child by fapping in the home office when the kids went out with Mom?



[video=youtube;iMOVYgBEB1U]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iMOVYgBEB1U[/video]

 

If your mind's eye had a face, it probably would like this when you decide to PMO:



Watching P is like getting a splinter in your mind's eye, don't fall prey to the darkness:

 

You fapped yesterday...feel this small when passing by woman you are insanely attracted to in grocery store and would approach her if only you had conquered NoFap 90 days ago:

 

When we fap to erotic/sexy media online, how often is it geared towards purely sexual mental fantasy/body worship? Like be honest, are you having loving or lusty fantasies when you fap? Probably lusty, sure there are some people who will argue they are 'showing their own bodies what it means to be loved' haha or 'admiring the beauty of another' by fondling themselves in some sign of appreciation hahah.

It takes a real man or woman to know what real love is, and the highest expression of that love is to be shared with a loving partner, not with one's hand.

 

'It is love rather than sexual lust or unbridled sexuality if, in addition to the need or want involved, there is also some impulse to give pleasure to the persons thus loved and not merely to use them for our own selfish pleasure.'

[video=youtube;WTxq6C47HZ8]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WTxq6C47HZ8[/video]

 

We Are The Gods Who Have Lost Ourselves In Forms

If you believe in 'aliens', or rather life beyond Earth, or even higher levels of existence in other dimensions beyond this human plane of life as we know it, do you think beings of vastly greater intellect and understanding of the universe or even multiverse if you will, beings who comprehend the infinite essentially, do you think such great beings feel pity for us who suffer from a self inflicted problem like indulging in lust to the point of an industry of sex on screens forming, with people paying money to masturbate to prostitution on camera essentially?

Do they feel pity or sorrow watching us waste our most precious essence to pixels?

Not sure where this thought was going...but in the grand scheme of things a PMO problem is a self inflicted affliction caused by selfishness and giving into our darkest lusts.

Rise up, transcend lust if you want to and manifest love instead, this doesn't mean you have to give up your desire for sex and physical intimacy, it simply means to express that desire with a loving partner, and you know it's genuine when you both feel invigorated and better for it, rather than guilty and drained.

[video=youtube;TFtrQvZO-d0]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TFtrQvZO-d0[/video]

 

What you look like after PMO'ing.


And after 90 days of NoFap,



(That's apple juice in your hand )

 

Some quotes about sexual energy from random sites, enjoy:

'Instead of thinking about releasing it through orgasm, think about that energy going to your brain. Try to send it to your brain using your thoughts and contracting your muscles. Move that sexual energy to your brain, it will flow up your spine, past your heart, and throat, and then to your third eye. If you can do this, you will feel more motivated, more energy, more creative, and want to be more productive. All you have to do is learn to move that energy up, instead out of down and out, wasting it through ejaculation.'

'Mr lizard, you are missing the point. It doesnt matter if you are single, married, fat, pretty, ugly, or skinny. Every single time you have an orgasm, you are wasting sexual energy, all for 10 seconds of pleasure. If you channel that energy throughout your body, you will feel 10 times better than any orgasm.'

Be warned, this is not for the science based, show me proof or it's not real type minded individual, so skip this if you have that kind of closed mind:

'I’m willing to bet that most who read this will quickly dismiss it as false, wont want to hear it; there’s no proof. The problem is that to hear this, and accept it, means one will have to make some serious changes in their lives, conquer some pretty hefty addictions. To those who can’t or don’t want to make these changes, even if you understand this, it’s ok. I was there once myself. I know it’s a struggle. In fact, for myself it’s been a challenge, and still is. Just know that once you know, if you do not act, it can affect you harder. My proof has come to me during times when I have faltered, and seen how it affected my daily life compared to times when I have not, and how my life is then.
But first, before I can expect you to comprehend what I’m going to explain, you need a bit of insight, if you don’t have it already….

You need to understand that we are energy beings. Every atom in our body is made of loving conscious energy, and every interaction you have is an attempt to get that energy, or give it. Atoms respond to our intentions, our beliefs. (Tai Chi, for an obvious example, is energy harvesting and manipulating that energy throughout our bodies).Since most people don’t know or understand this, they manage to steal energy from others, or unknowingly give up theirs. Some do this using aggression, like a bully in school for example. By placing the other person in fear of you, you are taking their energy. Just ask a bully how he “feels” internally when he is bullying someone, or ask the victim how they feel. Others take energy by belittling the other person. We’ve all met that person (boyfriends do this often) who constantly questions everything you are doing, then makes you feel stupid for your ideas. “Oh, if we had only done it MY way, this wouldn’t have happened.” The most common method, at least in my opinion, is the “Poor Me syndrome”, this individual steals energy from others by making others feel sorry for them. I’m sure we’ve all met that person who always has something wrong in their life to complain about, is always sick, always sad. When you feel sorry for these individuals, you are giving them your energy. The same as if you pay attention to someone who constantly brags. There are many ways that individual humans manage to steal energy from others, everyone has their own unique way, depending on how they were raised and what has worked for them since birth.

Want proof? We have all felt this energy transference. Think of the last argument you were in where you were proven wrong. How did you feel at the very moment you realized you lost the argument? Now think of an argument you’ve been in where you have proven yourself correct. How did you feel at that moment?
Or think of the beginning stages of a relationship. When you first get together with someone you like, you GIVE them your energy willingly, and they give theirs to you. Both of you are trying to get the other to like you; this is one of the rare occasions we actually work towards GIVING energy rather than taking it. But how long does this last? Eventually, usually sooner than later, it switches. We become addicted to the other person GIVING us their energy, and they get addicted to us giving ours to them. And so it turns into a struggle again.

The amazing thing is; as soon as you can understand this, you can actually get your energy from other sources instead of each other, then you can work on expanding your aura of energy away from you, in the intention of increasing it in those around you. It may help to understand that the universe is a massive ocean of atoms, all interconnected with each other, all made of loving conscious energy. There is no difference between you, the monitor you are reading from and the air in between. All are atoms of conscious energy. The only difference is the frequency at which the atoms are vibrating. For example, the air you are breathing is vibrating much faster than you are, and so it is light and invisible, whereas a rock is vibrating much slower than you are, and so it is heavy and dense. You can picture the universe like a glass of water, every drop in that glass is it’s own individual drop, but each drop is also part of the entire body of water. The universe is one massive ocean of loving conscious energy. Once you understand this, you can gain energy any time, without harming others.

There are entities, other than humans, that exist at different vibrations than we do, that steal our energy from us. You can call them demons, Djinn, shadow people, and I’m sure there are many other names for them. They can whisper thoughts into your head, creating confusion or doubts and turning your energy into a negative; changing it from Loving energy to hateful or angry, paranoid energy. (Like a girlfriend who thinks her boyfriend is unfaithful when he’s not, and has no valid reason for the doubts, could have been the victim of one of these entities placing these doubts in her mind, for example.) As long as these entities are able to stop you from sending your loving energy to that which is ALL love, that which is everything, as long as they succeed in turning your energy negative, they will feed off of it and steal it. These entities would make you feel angry to get at me. When they say everyone has their own demons, this is not quite true. Like agents of the matrix can jump from one person to another, this is how these entities spread their negativity. Ever have one of those thoughts of pushing a friend off of a cliff, unsure of where it came from? There is an obvious massive desperate attempt to rid the world of love today. Simply pay attention to your thoughts…if they are not of love, they may not be your own, for you are a being of love.

Our most powerful energy is our sexual energy. It is our strongest creative energy. It creates life in one massive explosion of creative energy…a big bang, if you will. When you are with someone you truly love and you have an orgasm, all that powerful energy is directed to that love, creating a beautiful, positive burst of loving energy that can be directed wherever the lovers choose to direct it.
But be careful, do you REALLY love the one you are with, or are you selfishly addicted to them. Be mindful of your thoughts during orgasm, are you angry with your lover, not a good time to express that energy. Are you thinking of someone else? What are you thinking of during orgasm, you need to pay attention. It’s hard, I know, and may seem impossible, but practice makes perfect. Let your lover know what you’re doing, try to direct your love to the same place!

Now ask yourself, where is your energy going when you masturbate, or have a one night stand or when you cheat on your loved one? What about when you’re looking at porn? If there is no love involved with your orgasm, your energy is not going to Love, it is going to everything that is not love. It is feeding the entities that swarm around negative energy, it is building negative energy in your life, and thus increasing the amount of entities that swarm around you. Like a large stream will attract more animals to drink than a small pond.

Porn is packed full of subliminal messages, all designed to direct you away from loving thoughts. Porn is a huge industry, probably growing every day. More and more youth are attracted to porn, which is so readily and freely available. They are raised into it at the very beginnings of their capability to express sexual energy. And all the while entities are swarming, feeding and sucking off of this energy. Not only that, but when one uses porn more and more, they start to associate their orgasm with an image rather than a sensation, and this can lead to erectile problems within a relationship.

When someone is addicted to loveless orgasms, be it through one night stands, cheating, or masturbation; they exponentially continue to struggle harder and harder to find a release. They build up their energy stronger and stronger, only to take just a minute too release it all. The effort put in to getting the orgasm will increase the strength of energy emitted.

When you think about the millions of Loveless orgasms that happen every day, each one helping to increase the strength of evil negativity, each one taking more and more away from the love in each individuals life, and in turn from the world, it’s apparent that evil has the upper hand.

This information is a collaboration of many different sources I have come across in my lifetime that I have managed to put together. As a disclaimer, I would like to provide a major source by way of the link below. It’s a three hour lecture, so not many will endure it, but within is knowledge and wisdom that will change your life.' (the link was dead or else I would have included it)

- Scorpitarius, from his Orgasms Without Love Are feeding Evil! thread on the ATS boards

 

'Men lose the most Jing through semen, during ejaculation. This does not necessarily mean that there should be total sexual abstinence but rather awareness that the sexual act uses energy that can be lost forever when it is performed superficially and recklessly. Since ancient times, techniques have been developed in order to promote a profound energetic exchange that in fact nourishes the two people involved in the sexual act. Examples of these techniques are found in Tantric and Taoist practices which work on enabling orgasmic energy to be raised back into the body so that Jing is not lost. As a result, pleasure may be enhanced at the same time as longevity is promoted.'

 

Reality can be much darker than it appears.

The porn industry is a major influence in the demand for sex slavery, where women live in bondage 24/7 to serve no other purpose than to be fucked by rich horny animals. Not even animals, these creatures are below the level of beasts.

 

This being an offtopic thread, any wholesome thoughts at all on any topic unrelated to PMO would also be considered urge taming.

Subduing urges is the way of the adept. The adept does not fight with urges.

Most importantly, the adept lives a lifestyle in which urges are minimal, and when they come the adept acknowledges the passing state and allows it to pass, without acting on it or without getting stuck on it.

We should all strive to become adepts, masters of ourselves one day.

I was going to quibble with a comment someone made about The Buddha in another thread. They addressed Buddha as if he were a man, like as if he were still just a man after attaining Buddhahood. How can I even address one as 'he' that has no self?

But I realized I had pulled that response out of them by discussing Buddhism in a God based thread. And so I will share these videos here instead,

[video=youtube;4phzx2XOL0M]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4phzx2XOL0M[/video]

 

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I'm going to channel a portion of my sexy qi to training for bike racing this summer. Pretty sure there is some kind of mtb racing that goes on in a town about an hour south of me. Gonna tear that shit up and win me some races with my powers gained through chastity. Here is an inspiring video, regardless of if you like cycling or not,

[video=youtube;xQ_IQS3VKjA]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xQ_IQS3VKjA[/video]

I've been riding bikes since I could walk. I use to power across an entire town (wasn't small) on a near daily basis from elementary school to middle school. I would climb hills while doing so. I believe all this bike riding combined with playing lacrosse and soccer from a very young age developed my leg strength and endurance wildly. In late middle school I joined the JV x-crountry team. By my second year I was the fastest on the team and was winning races. I also took up track and indoor track. This combined with weight training turned me into an animal. By my senior year in high school I had began training kung fu, and after high school my legs, calves & quads became certified overpowered from holding horse stance daily for up to 30 minutes straight, along with all the other leg conditioning including duck walk and frog jumps.

I only say this to reinforce my belief that I can win these bike races. It's only 10 miles, and I know with some training I can overpower these bikers who simply do not have the athletic background that I do.

Also having lost my license 3 years ago (just got it back 2 days ago, passed a road test ) I have returned to the ways of the bike. Having become a road warrior lately, I look forward to returning to the ways of the trail. I pity any veteran racers who frequents these race series I'm gonna hit up in a few months, I pity them because that 1st place podium is going to be mine this year.

What are some of your goals?

 

DON'T FAP. If you are on the verge of doing so read this (self.NoFap)

submitted 1 year ago * by mintistint

'Do you feel like you just have to fap?, like it's too strong and you are convinced you cannot get through this?
GOOD. This is it, This is you getting better. This moment is the battle between you and your enemy (The Addiction to fap). The easy hours or days before this where you were going strong and thought nofap was maybe easy and you've beaten it. That was the easy bit, the real battle begins here.
It comes when you have a shit day, something crap happens,your bored, you can't sleep, someone pisses you off, you piss yourself off and whatever else it is that makes you feel low, or you see some image on a website and then BOOM, right there is when your old habit kicks in, as that's all you've ever done, you feel down and then it whispers in your ear 'Fap Fap Fap'. It's a habit pattern deeply embedded. That right there is what we are doing this for, to change that response. You don't learn how to do that in the easy days, you learn and defeat it RIGHT NOW when you feel like you cannot beat it, when you feel that you can't conquer it, it's so strong, the urge, THIS RIGHT NOW, THIS FEELING that you think is you on the verge of giving in and getting beaten by it IS ACTUALLY YOU GETTING BETTER, IT IS YOU WINNING. This is the moment to realise it is working, this is the fap addiction being tamed.
DONT STOP. ITS WORKING. We did this for so long we don't even fap anymore because it feels good. We fap to FEEL NORMAL, to not have that urge going 'FAP FAP FAP', to get rid of what feels like a fire inside of us, right after you fap , just before you start to feel shit for doing so, there is a moment of relief, calm and peace - That isn't a high from fapping, that is the peace that comes from fap desire to be gone. That is feeling normal, to be without the fapdesire burning away. Before you ever fapped , you didn't have the urge to do it, you felt that normal all the time. What we think feels amazing and peaceful shortly after we fap is FEELING NORMAL for a few brief moments
If you keep going I guarantee you, when the habit is broken. You will feel like that again, the longer you go, the more that feeling breaks into your life.
You just have to break the "when feeling shit/down/bored = FAP" habit by not doing so, the more you chose to not follow that habit that more it weakens!
You stop being just a slave to fapping and you become the master of your own life.'

 

I'm caucasian, German and Irish mostly. I respect my country, America, but I also realize how atrocious and disgusting the founding of it was. This is a nation founded on the blood of a Native people, and a culture of endless consumerism, greed, and ignorance has taken root on this once pure land.

[video=youtube;9WhaQWxgkhE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9WhaQWxgkhE[/video]

www.becomingminimalist.com



'Tis a messed up world out there, but at least we have the freedom here to choose how we live, and can set an example for others.

The world is already so fucked up, why add to the level of chaos with a PMO habit? Abandon that shit, raise your frequency, and give your energy to the world instead of throwing it away into paper towels or whatever the hell you clean up your squandered essence with.