Goals: statement of problems and how to fix it.
I have my former porn habit quite good under control, but my media media addiction really sucks.
What is my problem:
I am very addicted to all kind of stuff, that offers lots of dopamine.
In the evening I am often not able to switch off my computer and then I sit there for hours and watch YouTube videos, read on twitter or newspapers. Especially polarising and horrible fields like news covid and the war in Ukraine are really. I often sit there till late night and then I get a lack of sleep.
I also hear podcasts and news during the day instead of working productively. This makes me needing way more time for chores. I want to add mindfulness to my live and get rid of this longing for distraction. Therefore, I put my phone in a box. Before I switch my mobile or my computer on, I write down, what I want to do and start a timer. If the time is over, I start this all over. I assess this in my rule “mobile save”
I also loose sense of time if I surf the net during the day. Without realising an hour is over, feeling like a second and I haven’t done anything productive.
Most problematic is my procrastination. This may be one of the driving forces behind all the other issues I mentioned abough.
How it affects me:
My media addiction has similar negative effects than porn addiction.
I get bad concentration, emotional lability, bad self-esteem, bad self-discipline, depression and massive procrastination issues.
My goals
I want to follow a rules and routines for a structured life. This structure gives me awareness and freedom because I then don’t waste my time with thins I wouldn’t do, if I would make mindful decision. I want to add a cite from Jocko Willink for my remembrance here. It’s the same as shaolin monks say.
“discipline equals freedom”
I count noP and noSurf together, to keep things simple and not get confused. Today for example I will reset my timer because I broke the nosurf rule yesterday although my noPM streak is day 13. For my remembrance I mark here, that I could add 13 days for noPM if I make it now.
I also do kind of noPM, plan is to limit it to 1/7d if there is good reason and I don’t want sex. I count it on my own to make things not to complicated.
I post a daily list to increase motivation for keeping my daily structure. Currently I will post a short version here and post the long version in my old empty ap group. I will maybe change this to the longer one.
Further methods for daily structure:
Getting up early in the morning
Using pomodoro timer and stick to the brakes strickly
No changing of my rules and routines. Keeping it simple and stick to it. If thins are unclear it must be counted as failure.
Explanation of my Daily List and my noSurf rule.
Break Habits:
1. noSurf: Internet Addiction:
-only open outdoor or in case of real emergency
-don’t do anything not allowed if blocking break
-Plan everything not really necessary tomorrow with time limit. No extension of time at the same day.
-important, note, timer rule
-Anything unlcear must be assessed as failure.
-Stopping and locking the lock at once when realising that I do something forbidden is not failure.
2. strictMedia, phone boxing & noaudio
-Mobile locking in box at once while blocks
-no podcasts, music, max 10m
-allways list and timer
Build Habits:
3. Getting up and morning routine
Getting up at planned time without snoozing and completing the morning routine while keeping offline mode.
4. Daily Schedule: new & ⅔
-Writing a new Schedule at first and adhering to daily schedule with fixed starting times and blocks to ⅔ of it.
-always making a list and starting timer for tasks
-always use a paper for ideas and don’t react at once
5. Meditation 2/2
-Meditation at the after lunch or at afternoon.
-Meditation before sleep is counted as done if planned
6. Weekly workout plan
-Gym/Stretching/Running/Yoga (Step by Step principle)
7. Learning 6h
-Learning goal tomorrow:
8. Sleeping at 21:45
In case of emergency:
First: writing down what is allowed. 2.
Second: start the timer
Third: Look again at once
Fourth: If more time needed a new List and new opening.