OnceAfraidToMerge
Fapstronaut
So there's a part of my journey that I've been struggling to come to terms with in my head, and I wondered if anyone had any opinions...
For some context, my fetish was something that was of interest to me (in a non-sexual setting) from a very young age and developed into a sexual fetish later in life. For this reason, I don't think it was a consequence of porn; porn certainly pushed me towards the more extreme parts of my particular fetish, which NoFap has helped to remedy, but the initial fetish still exists as a central part of my sexuality.
I've come to accept the possibility of the coexistence of my fetish and my religion. Anything consensual and loving which happens in the marriage bed is fair game, and in many schools of thought, pain and submission can be seen and experienced as spiritual events that bring one closer to God (self-flagellation, fasting, etc).
However, my main difficulty is that I take issue with the fetish community in general. There is a big focus on promiscuity, on polyamory, on sex-centric living, on wanton hedonism; things that are contradictory to the way I want to live my life.
Is there anyone else here with a fetish of some kind, who is also in pursuit of modesty, purity and virtue; or am I unicorn in search of other unicorns?
For some context, my fetish was something that was of interest to me (in a non-sexual setting) from a very young age and developed into a sexual fetish later in life. For this reason, I don't think it was a consequence of porn; porn certainly pushed me towards the more extreme parts of my particular fetish, which NoFap has helped to remedy, but the initial fetish still exists as a central part of my sexuality.
I've come to accept the possibility of the coexistence of my fetish and my religion. Anything consensual and loving which happens in the marriage bed is fair game, and in many schools of thought, pain and submission can be seen and experienced as spiritual events that bring one closer to God (self-flagellation, fasting, etc).
However, my main difficulty is that I take issue with the fetish community in general. There is a big focus on promiscuity, on polyamory, on sex-centric living, on wanton hedonism; things that are contradictory to the way I want to live my life.
Is there anyone else here with a fetish of some kind, who is also in pursuit of modesty, purity and virtue; or am I unicorn in search of other unicorns?
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